AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex.
Question Hi, im wiil and im 15, so how can i become less predictable? My friend told me this, "its nice that you are sweet and respective. and on the other hand itd be like good not to be so predictable" i replied, "like ur honest opinion. do u think that it would be better if i wasnt so predictable?" "itd be like more hott. lol" 2 questons. how can i not be so predictable, ad she said be "'more' hott" does that mean she thinks im hott already too?
Answer Dear Wil, I have been meaning to send you the lyrics to a song that Im sure will help you. Its one formerly sang by Frank Sinatra and you must have heard of him. The message is very appropriate however. I will try to send the lyrics here. I will occasionally define a word or two you may not be familair with. You can probably go online and listen to him sing it for free. Its title is :
"COME Blow Your Horn"
Make like a Mister Milquetoast(one who has a meek, timid, unassertive nature)and you'll get shut out,
Make like a Mister meek and you'll get cut out,
Make like a little lamb, and wham your shorn,
I tell ya, chum, it's time to come blow your horn.
Make like a Mister Mumbles and you're a zero,
Make like a Mister Big; they dig a hero.
You've got to sound your "A" the day you're born,
I tell ya, chum, it's time to come blow your horn.
The taller the tree is the sweeter the peach,
I'll give you the whole maguilla in a one word speech: Reach!
ake like the world's your pudding, but light the brandy,
Even the mildest kiss is a dan, dan, dandy,
There'll be no love in bloom come doomsday morn,
I tell ya, chum, it's time to come blow your horn,
In civilized jungles females adore
The lions who come on swingin' ; if you wanna score -roar!
You can be either read to or be the reader,
You can be either lead or be the leader.
Don't wait until you're told you're old and worn,
Take in some air and get your lips puckered,
Before you find you're simply too tuckered,
I'll tell ya, chum, it's time to come blow your horn.
Blow your horn,
I tell ya, chum, it's time to come blow your horn.
(HOPE YOU GET TO LISTEN TO FRANK SINATRA SING THIS SONG,EVEN THOUGH HE IS WAY BEYOND YOUR GENERATION. THE MESSAGE IS TIMELESS AND WILL BENEFIT YOU IN ALL YOU DO NOT JUST WITH THE GIRL YOU LIKE)
Thank you for your kind comments. If you need any more advice feel free to just ask me any time.
If you are a male then she may mean you are sometimes too polite and not spontaneous. That may be what she is refrring to. She may wish you were more aggressive and more masculine and more of a take charge or more dominant instead of being submissive. If this girl is talking to you and you are a male that is what I think. They look for guys who are asserive and dominant, kind of like their fathers. If you are hesitant in the romance department she may wish you were more forward and not so reserved or polite. If a girl does not want to do something she will let you know in short order. It sounds as if she has more than a passing interest in you. Being spontaneous is being less predictable. If you have a thought come into your mind and you are with someone you like then mention it like "lets go here or lets do this." I think you get the idea. Some girls like guys who are submissive because they like to be dominat and take control of a relationship.
