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Expert: Jaycie
Date: 10/9/2008
Subject: About my son turn to bad side
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QUESTION: hi, I am a father have a 16 years son, before my son was great, I be proud of him, but since he inside a best high school he looks turn to bad side day by day, academy turn to bad, the test score in school is falling down, I try to talk to him many time, looks like no useful, now yesterday somebody told me even saw my son smoke outside, and he made a few bad friend, I really worry about that, but I have no idea about that, please tell me what I can do, do I need to change his school to another school? How do I talk with him about the smoke issue( cause I afraid he will be drug if don't stop him right now), so please help me, thanks a lot
ANSWER: If you mean that he changed schools, that could be what the problem is. And with is age and hormones and trying to find out who you are at that age and what you want to try, it's hard for anyone. Talk to him and try your best but he will do what he wants. Be careful to not push him too far or he will really hurt himself. I really think that this is more of a stage than anything and he should grow out of it in a little while.
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QUESTION: thanks a lot to answer me, my son is still in same school, didn't change school, two weeks ago someone tell me my son was smoking outside, I was totally lost, cause I can't imagine he do that, cause in home he still regular, take care his sister etc, was I ask is if I change him to another school it should be a better way? or can I follow him everyday? So he can leave his friend, and he can quit smoking, go back to regular, I will try to talk to him today, hope can keep talking with you
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I think it's more just trying new things as a teenager. Lots of people do it and it eventually goes away when they realize what they are doing. He might be trying to fit in at school or he might be pressured into doing something there if he's normal at home. Look into that. Changing schools will either make things worse or help a lot. I don't know which and no one will know until you try it or at least talk things out. Don't follow him. That's not good for either of you. Just ask him parent questions and see how he's doing. Maybe you could have a guys night and do something. Eventually he will open up to you and you will get it.
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