AboutDaryl Taylor, BSc(Hons) Psychology Expertise As a former youth worker, working in the UK and as a Camp Counsellor in the US, I have volunteered and helped young people from all over the world. I have worked for two or three websites like this in the past since I was about 13/14 and I continue to do so now at the age of 23. I can answer problems on a whole range of issues from friends and family, to drugs, sex, alcohol and relationships etc.
Experience I have worked as a youth worker for local organisations, volunteered on this and other websites giving out information for about 8 years, volunteered at my college and university doing face to face counselling and I have recently worked for an organisation in the UK which specialises in helping young people aged 13-19 to make positive decisions in their lives. I have featured in a UK based magazine called Aim Higher as a case study to show triumpth through adversity and I have recieved an Adult Learner's Award for my pioneering work at college.
I really need help yea because i am over wieght 14 years old about 13stone 2 stone over weight i think average height and my penis is very small i cant cum and my voice hasnt broken and i want to know how to clean my penis properly because i have alot of "penis cheese" underneath the head loads and it is hard to remove please help me with all my questions
cheers
Answer Hey there Bob,
It sounds like you have a lot of things going on that you need some advice and inforamtion on so I hope I can help; but let's take each on in turn.
a) Your penis size: Bob, most lads worry about the size of their penis, about whether it's not big enough or if it's too small, but in reality, the only person to actually notice is the person that's doing the worrying and no-one else; so you should'nt worry about it. Research has suggested that your penis may continue to keep on growing right up until the age of 21, so if you do think it is small, it may be that it will grow in the future. Another thing to bear in mind is that from your perspective, if you are overweight, your penis may look slightly smaller than it actually is because you cannot see it from front on. Some doctors suggest that losing weight sensibly can make your penis appear bigger, just because your perspective of it changes and it is not obscured from view. It is, however, probably just the case that you are worried about it when there is no need to be and you have nothing to worry about.
b) You can't 'cum': This could be for any number of reasons but if your voice has still not broken, then it could just be because you are a 'later developer' and that puberty has not fully occured yet. This would offer an explanation for your voice not breaking and also for you not being able to produce 'cum' because your testes have not been prompted to produce it yet by your hormones. If this is the case, then as puberty kicks in, your body will go into overdrive, producing hormones that will kick start the whole growth and sexual reproduction process. If, however, you think that there is more to it that just you being a late developer; if for example you are in pain or discomfort, then you may need to visit a doctor just to ensure that everything is OK.
c) Penis 'cheese'- Commonly called 'smegma' this is whiteish-yellow substance that builds up under the foreskin and over the glans (head) of the penis. It can have a slightly fishy and unclean smell and it is important that you do practice good hygiene or you may face difficulties in the future. To correctly clean your penis, have a warm bath or a shower and wait until your penis skin is soft and loose; then gently, roll back the foreskin so that it sits gently under the glans and stays there. Using some soap and water and a sponge, gently wipe away all the smegma you can see, getting underneath the glans iteself. Then rinse your penis with warm water, roll back up your foreskin and clean around your testes and pubic hair.
If you have trouble rolling back your foreskin, then you should go and see a doctor as you could have a medical condition. Similarly, if this smega does not come off when you are washing your penis, it may be worth getting it checked out by a doctor.
