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Expert: Dan
Date: 3/14/2008
Subject: relatives problem
Question
i'm not sure tht my question wud fall in this category but i cudn't find any other.
i'm 17yrs old,female.this is abt my relatives mainly my aunts(my dad's real sisters).they are like real life drama queens.let me tell u the main problem.i come from india and relatives here(or elders) have to be given a lot of importance and respect.but i absolutely hate my relatives.my aunts would earlier always trying to belittle me,they and my grandma made my mom's life a living hell in the first 12 yrs of her married life and maybe thats why i have so much of resentment for them.i wasn't all that grown up at that time obviously but now i just don't want to see them or their families and associate with them.
they'd sugarcoat their conversations with me but its pretty obvious that they have no affection for me.so,would it be wrong if i feel like snapping the relationship cords?i don't feel i'm related to them and i just don't want to continue pretending.
a lot of things have happened between our family and each of theirs and i obviously cannot tell u everything here.so its like "the wounds will heal, the heart will seal but the memory will never die".when i think of everything they did then it all comes flooding back to me and i seem to hate them even more.but my parents tell me that since they aremy relatives i HAVE to put up this false show.but then do i really have to do that?plz advise.
Answer
Stuti I have a similar problem here in the states. I dislike a few of my relatives, yet my family has told me that they are there for me when I need them. Friends will come and go, yet relatives, well they are blood related and should stay connected somehow. I recommend our "Teenage Problems area" and please ask follow ups
I know I do stay away from some family members because of family problems, yet I still need to admit they are family and I know they do care about me and if I need them they will be there.
If any of them abuse you in any way contact the police(I know this stuff does happen and I must state this). Talk to a trusted teacher also about the above.
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