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Experience I was a teenage girl once so I've been through a lot in all my years. I may not have experienced all parts of being a teenager, but I have friends who have.
Expert: Ashley Date: 4/24/2008 Subject: Please at least read this.
Question This summer a boy, who is 16, asked to have sex with me. I said no. It was
the last night of camp and the maybe 2 am. He asked me a few times and the
last time he asked, I told him I would think about it. But the way he said it, it
just seemed like such a light action. "Do you want to use the condom?" This
time we were lying down and he was kissing me. I sat there trying to think
about it for what seemed like a really long time and he kept repeating to me
that i didn't have to do anything that I didn't want to. He said he had a
condom, so it would be safe, but I really didn't have to do anything. I could
see him getting impatient, and I finally said okay with much hesitation. It was
horrible and it hurt and afterwards I broke down to cry. I don't know why I did
it. I was 13 and 1/2 this summer and he knew it. I was in a camp where the
kids were all older than me and I think it influenced me a lot. But I can't help
but to blame myself a little bit for it. He told me I didn't have to. I chose him.
He had my consent. It didn't matter if I feel pressured, he was sweet and
never would do anything like that without my okay. After it, he left me, and
barely talked to me for the rest of the day. It haunts me so much and I just
don't feel like myself anymore. I never wanted this to happen. I didn't want to
lose my virg. until I was at least 17 and completely in love with someone who
loved me back. I now can't trust any guy who likes me or who I date, and find
myself constantly accusing them in my mind of only liking me for the way I
look. I have such a hard time believing any of them anymore. It hurt me so
much the first time I did. I don't want that again. I have even done something
really bitchy to a boyfriend recently because I felt like somehow he deserved
it because he would have done something like it to me anyway. I felt like he
asked for it by being who he is. I don't know what to do, but it is tearing me
apart inside. I need help, but have no one. I need help. I really need
something. Please. Please someone help me.
Answer Hayley -
You need to tell someone you care about what happened. He pressured you into having sex...even though you said yes, you meant no. I call that rape.
Please talk to an adult or therapist or someone you care about and even see if charges are possible.
