AboutDaryl Taylor, BSc(Hons) Psychology Expertise As a former youth worker, working in the UK and as a Camp Counsellor in the US, I have volunteered and helped young people from all over the world. I have worked for two or three websites like this in the past since I was about 13/14 and I continue to do so now at the age of 23. I can answer problems on a whole range of issues from friends and family, to drugs, sex, alcohol and relationships etc.
Experience I have worked as a youth worker for local organisations, volunteered on this and other websites giving out information for about 8 years, volunteered at my college and university doing face to face counselling and I have recently worked for an organisation in the UK which specialises in helping young people aged 13-19 to make positive decisions in their lives. I have featured in a UK based magazine called Aim Higher as a case study to show triumpth through adversity and I have recieved an Adult Learner's Award for my pioneering work at college.
Question hi im 14 and im popular enough. everyone likes me in my school and my school is pretty big! but one girl i don't think likes me. me and my close friends hang out at break theres about 14 or 15 of us and were all laughing and everyone finds me quiet funny except for that girl. we would be laughing about some lads and our boyfriends and she would be giving me dirty looks. but i don't no why!!! she also gives dirty looks to 2 of my really close friends and like its really getting to me because I'm not used to people not liking me so its really upsetting. us three have all noticed it!!! I'm hyper in school but not that hyper i never get in trouble and we all have a laugh but shes just really mean. it just really started last week when i came back from holidays in America. please help! i really want her to be my friend again!!!! :'(
Answer Hey there Claire,
I know how annoying it is when you are the life and soul of your group and when you become aware of someone who just doesn't seem to get you at all. But the thing that you have to remember is that it doesn't matter about this one girl when so many other people like you. Remember, you're not the one that is being miserable, you're the one that gets everyone smiling and if this girl doesn't like it, let her give you evil looks...it's probably all down to jealousy because she's not like you and wants to be.
In life Claire, there will always be people that like us and people that don't...but it's not up to us to try and make them like us, it's up to them to understand why they should like us...and if they can't, then it's not our problem, it's theirs. You can be as nice as pie to everyone and someone will still not be happy but what you should realise is that there is a saying that is true and it goes:
'You can please some of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time.'
What this means is, if you have a large group of friends that like you, you're doing something right. Don't let yourself be bothered by this girl, you don't need her.
