AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex.
Question hey wass up dude. i wanted to ask you a few questions.im hoping you can provide me with good answers. Q1. i have this really bad anger against girls. in other words i really really hate them. i don't show this anger towards girls but its inside me burning all the time. Q2. iv never had a girlfriend before. i don't really want a relationship. i find them quite disturbing. can you tell me if this normal? Q3. i have no friends at all. its becuase i always talk about cars and becuase i won't do anything illegal. tell me what to do about that please. Q4. i seem to be totally against sex. i want it to be totally banned from society. can you tell me if this normal thinking. and lastly. is it normal that my head is in the late 70's early 80's? im only 15. that kinda scares me a bit LOL. i am also obbessed with cars. american cars. the pontiac trans am is all that i think about. can you tell me if this normal? thats it. im 15 live in the uk and im male. and my name is also colin. laters dude. reply back as soon as possible
Answer Colin, I will make some comments in capital letters so you will easily see my answers. Im not shouting.
hey wass up dude. i wanted to ask you a few questions.im hoping you can provide me with good answers. Q1. i have this really bad anger against girls. in other words i really really hate them. i don't show this anger towards girls but its inside me burning all the time. I THINK YOU FIRST OF ALL NEED TO ASK YOURSELF WHY IS IT THAT YOU HAVE SUCH ANGER AND WHAT AHPPENED TO YOU DURING THE TIME YOU HAVE LIVED THUS FAR. DID A GIRL TURN YOU DOWN OR BETRAY YOU, HOW DO YOU GET ALONG WITH YOUR MOM , DO 6YOU HAVE A SISTER? THESES A LOT OF QUESTIONS HERE TO ANSWER. YOU ALSO DID NOT GIVE YOUR AGE EITHER.
Q2. iv never had a girlfriend before. i don't really want a relationship. i find them quite disturbing. can you tell me if this normal?DEPENDS ON YOUR AGE. NOT EVERYONE WHO IS AN ADOLESCENT WANTS TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND NOT EVERY GIRL WANTS TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND. A LOT OF THE PRESSURE TO GET A BOY/GIRL FRIEND COMES FROM A KIDS PEERS. SOME LIKE TO BRAG ABOUT IT. IS IT NORMAL? I DON'T KNOW WHAT NORMAL IS BUT IS IT COMMON TO NOT WANT A REALTIONSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX? IT PROBABLY IS COMMON OR USUAL TO WANT TO HAVE SOME OPPOSITE SEX COMPANIONSHIP. CERTAINLY ALL ADOLESCENT MALES HAVE A SEX DRIVE THAT IS RUNNING IN OVERDRIVE AT THIS POINT IN YOUR LIFE.
Q3. i have no friends at all. its becuase i always talk about cars and becuase i won't do anything illegal.NOTHING WRONG WITH THE TOPIC OF CARS. NOTHING WRONG WITH NOT DOING ANYTHING ILLEGAL. THOSE WHO STEAL, CHEAT, USE DRUGS ETC ALL GET CAUGHT AND EVENTUALLY GET INTO TROUBLE WITH THE POLICE AND COURTS AND A LOT OF MONEY IS WASTED AND THEY END UP WITH A REPUTATION. SO IF YOU DON'T WISH TO DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL I"M WITH YOU ON THIS POINT. AS FAR AS BLAMING THAT ON YOUR LACK OR FRIENDS--I DON'T THINK SO. THERE ARE LOTS OF GUYS WHO WON'T DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL. AND LOTS OF GUYS WHO ARE NOT INTO DRUGS. MOST GUYS WHO USE DRUGS ARE NOT HEADED FOR ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE.
tell me what to do about that please.YOU NEED TO IF YOU HAVE NOT DONE SO ALREADY JOIN SOME CLUBS EVEN IF YOU HAVE ONLY A SLIGHT INTEREST IN THE CLUB. THE POINT IS IT WILL EXPOSE YOU TO OTHERS. YOU NEED FRIENDS. YOU NEED OTHERS IN YOUR LIFE TO MAINTAIN YOUR EMOTIONAL BALANCE AND YOUR MENTAL STATE OF MIND AND YOUR PHYSICAL WELL BEING. YOUR FRIENDS COMMENTS AND THEIR CRITICISMS ARE IMPORTANT. IT ALSO HELPS YOU TO BREAK THE FAMILY BONDS YOU HAVE ESTABLISHED AS A YOUNG CHILD. YOU ALSO MAY NEED TO GET INVOLVED IN SOME INTRAMURAL SPORTS IF NOT VARSITY SPORTS. INTRAMURAL USED TO BE AFTER SCHOOL AND PROBABLY STILL IS. YOU NEED TO GET TO KNOW OTHERS AND HAVE COMMON INTERESTS WITH OTHERS. IF YOU CAN AFFORD TO OR IF YOUR PARENTS CAN I SUGGEST YOU TAKE SOME LESSONS FROM A TENNIS PRO. IT WILL COST A LITTLE BUT IT WILL KEEP YOU FROM DEVELOPING SOME BAD HABITS FROM THE BEGINNING. OF COURSE IT COSTS SOME MONEY BUT ITS A GAME YOU CAN PLAY ALL YOUR LIFE UNLIKE THE TYPICAL HIGH SCHOOL SPORTS. YOU ALSO MAY NEED TO DEVELOP SOME HOBBIES THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN. IT COULD BE WORKING WITH WOOD, WORKING ON CARS, DOING SIMPLE TASKS AT FIRST. GET SOME AUTO REPAIR MANUALS IF YOU FEEL LIKE DOING ANYTHING. YOU CAN START BUILDING A TOOL KIT TO ADD TO ALL YOUR LIFE. START WITH AMERICAN MADE TOOLS LIKE CRAFTSMAN FROM SEARS THAT HAVE A LIFETIME GUARANTEE. AVOID CHEAP TOOLS THAT ARE WORSE THAN NOT HAVING ANY TOOLS. YOU ALSO NEED TO START GOING TO CHURCH BELIEVE IT OR NOT. FIND OUT WHAT CHURCHES WHERE YOU LIVE HAVEA YOUTH FELLOWSHIP OR YOUTH GROUP AND JOPIN IT OR PERHAPS TWO. I SUGGEST YOU LOOK FOR A CHURCH THAT MEETS ON SUNDAY EVENING AROUND 600 OR 630PM AND ALSO DURING THE MIDWEEK AROUND THE SAME TIME ON WEDNESDAY OR THURSDAY EVENING. SUNDAY MORNING IS OK BUT YOU NEVER GET TO KNOW ANYONE OR TALK TO PEOPLE. THE EVENING TIMES ARE BETTER BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT WELL ATTENDED AND THATS THE ADVANTAGE. YOU GET TO KNOW PEOPLE AND TALK TO OTHERS. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO TALK TO ADULTS THERE. YOU NEED TO HAVE GOD IN YOUR LIFE AND PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT PEOPLE THERE TELL YOU.
Q4. i seem to be totally against sex. THIS COULD BE PARENTAL UPBRINGING OR SOME TAUMATIC EXPEWRIENCE THAT HAPPENED TO YOU THAT YOU MAY NOT EVEN REMEMBER. IF YOU HAVE AN ATTITUDE THAT IT IS SINFUL ,YOURE NOT WRONG. OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT IT IS WRONG. WITHIN MARRIAGE ITS NOT WRONG IT IS A GIFT FROM GOD.
i want it to be totally banned from society. can you tell me if this normal thinking. NO ITS NOT EVER GOING TO BE BANNED AND YOU ARE TOTALLY WRONG IN THINKING THAT. THERS NOTHING WRONG WITH SEX. AS AN ADOLESECENT GUYS HAVE SEX WITH THEMSELVES ALL THE TIME AND ITS NOT SINFUL AND ITS TOTALLY HARMLESS. ITS HOW YOU LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY AND WHAT FEELS GOOD TO YOU. EVERY TEEN BOY AND SOME YOUNGER AND MEN ALSO DO THE SAME THING. MITS A UNIVERSAL PRACTICE ALL OVER THE WORLD. SO HOW CAN IT BE WRONG AND BE SINFUL?? YOUR THINKING IS WRONG ON BELIEVING ITS WRONG AND WANTING IT BANNED. EVERYONE HAS A SEX DRIVE. THEY MAY TRY TO DENY IT BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN ITS NOT PRESENT.
and lastly. is it normal that my head is in the late 70's early 80's? im only 15.OOPS YOU DID GIVE YOUR AGE AFTER ALL. WHY DO YOU SAY YOUR HEAD IS IN THE 70'S AND 80'S???
that kinda scares me a bit LOL. i am also obbessed with cars. american cars. the pontiac trans am is all that i think about. can you tell me if this normal?A LOT OF TEENS HAVE FAVORITE CARS SO ITS NOT UNUSUAL TO LIKE A PARTICULAR CAR. A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKED MUSTANGS IN 1964 AND LATER BECAUSE IT WAS A POPULAR AND INEXPENSIVE CAR. IT DID NOT MEAN THERE WAS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THEM.
thats it. im 15 live in the uk and im male. and my name is also colin. laters dude. reply back as soon as possible IT TAKES ME LONGER TO RESPOND ON HERE BUT IF YOU NEED A FASTER ANSWER YOU CAN EMAIL ME DIRECT AT scussetbeach@hotmail.com
