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Experience Mom of two teens who has dealt with every issue when it comes to teenagers. I have also gone to college and have my degree in human sexuality.
Question Um this is a little dumb but my mom died so i have no one really to ask..um...well i have a boyfriend that i really like..and hes moving to a different state in about a week and im trying to have all the time in the world with him and he doesnt mind it because he wants time with me too..but the bad thing is my friends hate him because they said i am changing and that he is taking me away from them...hes moving so soon and then i will get every second with them and they dont understand that and they make me cry all the time because im trying to make room in my life for about like 10 people and its reallly hard and i dont know what to do!please help me with what to do!
Answer Dear Mandula,
It sounds to me as if your friends have a bit of a jealous streak in them. and if that's the case, then they are not your true friends. You can't keep dividing yourself like you have been because sooner or later all the stress is going to catch up with you. simply put, your friends need to come to realize that just because you have a relationship with someone that it in no way means that you don't care about them as well.
Perhaps some time away from them might do all involved some good. it would give you a chance to think things over and to spend some time with this boyfriend who is going to be moving away here soon. also, no matter if you keep this relationship with him or move on to someone else, your friends are just going to have to learn that you need to do or have things in your life that make you happy as well. I am not saying that you should shut them out completely, but to just take time for yourself. you as well as your friends will soon notice that you cannot please everybody 24 hours a day. and that friends will come and go as your life continues into new stages. stop crying over people like this and focus on the things that make you happy. the circle of friends that you have at the moment may become smaller later down the road, but it will be that small circle of people that you can call your true friends. the ones that stick by you no matter what.
