AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex.
Expert: Jonathan Date: 7/17/2008 Subject: Masterbation
Question Hi
Im a 15 year old boy, but am afraid to masterbate/wank. I am aware that my friends do it but i just dont seem to be able. I go to pull my foreskin back, but then i bottle out. I alsywas think of the downside, like will my skin rip, will it hurt, etc....
I need help.
Answer Hi Rich, Every teenage boy masturbates even if they say they do not. Most start long before your age . You do not have anything to worry about like tearing your foreskin or that it will hurt. You do not even need to pull your foreskin back. Im not into giving instructions but most guys just grasp their penis and kneed it back and forth as if they were having actual sexual intercourse. In sexual intercourse your foreskin will retract. Whatever feels good to you is fine. Just remember that if you start make sure you finish because the body anticipates a release of semen and you do not want to prevent that. Some boys feel guilty afterward because they think its a sin. I no longer think of it as a sin but as a means by which God has allowed the young and the unmarried to achieve a release of the tensions that sexual activity allows when one is married. Sex is not just to make babies in spite of some religious beliefs. Guys may joke about masturbating or wanking but its a universal practice all over the world in every culture. If on the other hand you have an erection and it is painful it could mean that your foreskin may need to be removed (a most painful thing at your age). Its important to pull your foreskin back daily and wash under it or you get cheese and soreness. Boys who are circumcized do not have this problem. There is no reason to feel any guilt about wanking since this is the way you learn about what feels good to you. It will have no effect upon your future life when you get married. How often do boys wank? some once a day some twice a day, some a few times a week. It all depends upon a persons sex drive. During the teenage years it means you are producing lots of testosterone and it is preparing you to change into a man from a child so naturally the feelings you have are different from the feelings you had when you were much younger. If you need to ask a follow-up question or need more information feel free to do so.
