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Expert: Jaycie
Date: 7/11/2008
Subject: I hope you will answer because I love ur answers
Question
STORY ONE Is Carlys mom saying that Carly was overweight before and now Carly is skinny or is Carly reading too much into this: STORY : Carly is THIN and A FEW DAYS AGO when Carly came home from work she changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants she wore to work. Carlys mom asked her as they sat down to eat if Carly lost weight, and Carly said no, but this upset Carly. Carly said to her mom that her mom always tells Carly she looks beautiful. Her mom said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told Carly that Carly is skinny enough.”. (OK KEEP IN MIND THAT LAST WEEK WHEN CARLY AND HER MOM WENT TO VISIT CARLY’S AUNT IN ANOTHER STATE THEY TOOK THE BUS. (CARLYS AUNT GAVE A DESCRIPTION OF CARLY TO THE CAB DRIVER PICKING CARLY AND HER MOM UP AT THE BUS DEPOT BY SAYNG CARLY IS VERY SKINNY. (AND THE LAST TIME THE AUNT SAW CARLY WAS A YEAR AGO.)
STORY TWO QUESTION I AM ASKING AFTER YOU READ THE STORY IS WHY would SANDY (a chunky girl ) tell MARY (a thin girl who is always told by strangers, relatives, friends she is thin/skinny, looks like a size 4) that Sandy thinks Mary is average and size 8,then pauses and adds in size 10. MARY (who is THE friend I am asking about) IS UPSET AS TO WHY SANDY WOULD SAY WHAT SHE SAID WHEN EVERYONE IS ALWAYS TELLING MARY SHE IS THIN/SKINNY AND SINGLE DIGIT SIZE. HERE IS THE STORY: Mary (very thin) and Sandy (chunky)met in the hallway, Mary told Sandy she got a parking spot right across the street. Sandy said to Mary Exercise. And the reason Sandy said she mentioned exercise because she is concerned about her heart. Mary decided to ask; Sandy do you think I am thin; As Sandy was putting stuff away Sandy replied to Mary; You are average, size 8 paused and added size 10;Mary left and went back to her desk. Four co-workers saw Mary and asked Mary what was wrong Mary told them the story. Her co-workers said to her; Mary you are thin/skinny and cannot be more than a size 4, and not more than 110 pounds. Then Mary said; So why did Sandy say average and size 10 if everyone sees me as skinny/thin size 4;They replied; Sandy is jealous; Do you agree/concur with Marys friends? Here are some things her co-workers and friends said after Sandys remark: Audrey: Mary you are so skinny Billy: Mary you are thin. Jill: No wonder Mary you are so skinny Tom: Mary you cannot weigh more than 100lbs Yvette: Thin I want to feel you Mary Sara: Mary you are thin Petunia: Thin not just saying that you Mary are thin - cannot weigh more than 90lbs Doris: How do you Mary stay so thin and you have to be a size 4; Joanne: Mary you are so thin Leslie: Mary is a thin person Helen: How skinny do you Mary want to be Arlene: He is a big man, however, you Mary I can push Iola: Mary you are very thin
STORY THREE MY QUESTION: after you read the story: DO you agree with Susan that all Kerry is saying is that Patti is thin with shape STORY: The two players are Kerry and Patti. Kerry and Patti who were having a conversation about many things and then all of a sudden the following happened. Kerry said: Patti I think you are a size 5/6 in clothing, even the temp that works for me said you have to be a 5/6 in clothing. Patti didn't say anything. Kerry said; you have hips, but they are NOT big. Look at my hips, my hips are big yours are not; Patti just listened and didn't say anything.. At 5:00PM as Kerri ,Patti and Susan walked to their cars together Kerry told Patti again that Patti looks like a 5/6 in clothing. Patti asked Susan (a person who witnessed the conversation) Does Kerry think I have big hips; Susan replied; No Kerry does not. Kerry even told you that she doesn't think you have big hips. All Kerry is saying is you are thin with shape. "
STORY FIVE MY QUESTION Do you agree/concur with Ramona's friends that Ramona should not be bent out of shape because the clerk could not see what she looked like due to the fact she was standing behind the partition and all he could see was her neck and face and she was wearing a coat. Ramona and the store clerk are the two people in the story. STORY: Ramona came in and purchased her herb tablets. She asked him how much should one take. The clerk said to her that most women should weigh a 160 pounds, however, she weighs a little less so she can take less. The little less bothered her so she asked him to clarify what he thought she weighs he said 130 pounds. She replied you don't even know what I look like and he remarked that I see you come in here; Telling her that he thought she weighed 130 upset her because everyone always tells her that she looks like she weighs 110 or less.Also keep in mind that he wasn't facing her when he said this and there was a partition blocking his view of her so all he saw was her face and neck. When Ramona told her friends the story all of Ramona's friends said she should not be upset because when the clerk made the comment she was standing behind a partition and all he could see was her neck and face and Ramona was wearing a coat. KEEP IN MIND THE FOLLOWING1)RAMONA WAS WEARING A COATWHEN SHE CAME INTO THE STORE THAT DAY(2)LATER ON WHEN THECONVERSATION TOOK PLACE SHE WAS STANDING BEHIND A PARTITIONAND ALL THE CLERK COULD SEE WAS HER NECK AND FACE(3KEEPIN MIND EVERY ONE ALWAYS TELLS RAMONA SHE IS THIN/SKINNY ANDWEIGHS NO MORE THAN 110 POUNDS(4)THE CLERK ONLY SAW RAMONA ATOTAL OF FIVE TIMES SPREAD OUT OVER THE YEAR AND EVERY TIME HE SAW HER SHE WAS WEARING A COAT5)There are absolutely no cameras or mirrors
STORY SIX MY QUESTION after you read the story: Do you concur with Colettes friends that Josie only said; Well; in a hesitant voice was because Josie never saw Colette standing, Josie only saw Colette sitting so Josie never realized how thin Colette is. STORY: Colette (who is very thin) went to a coffee shop for lunch and a girl who is there was eating lunch with her brother. The girl who is mentally challenged saw Colette eating a bagel and cream cheese and said; You shouldnt eat that;. The brother explained that his sister just came from a nutrition lecture. Colette told a co-worker the story and said; Do I look fat; The co-worker said; Colette you are very thin.; Later on Colette went to make Xerox copies of a report. Colette was standing on one side of the Xerox machine and Josie on the other and all they could see of one another was from the waist up. Colette and Josie exchanged small talk and then Colette said; Josie do you think I am thin?; Josie hesitantly said; Well, and then decided not to wait to make copies. Colette finished making copies went back to her desk. Late afternoon Colette got up to do something and Josie ran over and said to Colette; I only saw you sitting down, my god you are thin.; Colette that night got together with a few friends and in passing told them what transpired between she and Josie and all Colettes friends said ;the only reason Josie said; Well; in a hesitant voice was because Josie never saw you (Colette) standing she (Josie) only saw you (Colette) sitting so she (Josie) never realized how thin you (Colette) are and she (Josie) even admitted when she (Josie) saw you (Colette) standing that you (Colette) are thin.;
STORY SEVEN MY QUESTION: after you read the story: Did I give Patricia the right answer. STORY: Today at work an elderly customer asked Patricia if she lost weight and Patricia told her no. The customer said that Patricias face looked like she lost weight, but maybe Patricia was tired. Then as they started to walk toward Patricias coworkers desk the elderly customer told Patricia that Patricia is so skinny. Patricia said to her that that Patricia was always skinny. The elderly customer replied you are like me you lose weight in face but gain in stomach. The stomach part bothered Patricia. Patricia said to the elderly customer that Patricia is skinny everywhere. The elderly customer told Patricia that Patricia is skinny every where. That the elderly customer does not want Patricia to get fat but Patricia should gain five pounds. The elderly customer said that the elderly customers stomach is big since the elderly customer retired. And that the elderly customer thinks Patricia is skinny every where and she said that even Patricias hands are tiny as well. Patricia called me and told me the story and I told her that all the woman is saying that it looked Patricia lost weight in the face and Patricia is skinny everywhere including Patricias stomach, but the elderly lady has a big stomach.
STORY EIGHT MY QUESTION after you read the story DO you agree with what we said to Lucy? STORY: My friend Lucy was sitting at the dining room table with her cousin Eileen. Eileen turned to Lucy and said: Lucy you are a size 8 in clothes and Lucy replied; Yes I am.” Eileen said: I thought you are a size 8 but I could not remember if you told me you are a size 8 or 10. The next day Lucy told me and few of our other friends what Eileen said and Lucy asked us does my cousin think I am higher than a size 8 and we told her that no that Eileen does not think that at all
STORY NINE MY QUESTION after you read the story do you agree with Jennifer’s friends? STORY: Lets say two people (Katie and Jennifer) worship in the same place. However, they really don’t come in contact with one another in the place of worship or any other place for that matter, but one day they meet in the parking lot in the shopping center in town. And Katie says (in a surprised voice) Jennifer you are so skinny. However, Jennifer is/was always skinny. And when Jennifer told her friends what Katy said her friends said to Jennifer: Katie never looked at you ever so that day in the parking lot she finally saw what you looked like and until that day she never realized how thin you are
STORY TEN: MY QUESTION after you read the story is do you agree with Mimis friends: STORY: Mimi is a size 6 but LOOKS SMALLER and she went to a flea market and a woman was trying to sell a pair of jeans. The woman turned to Mimi and said you are a size 10 ;my daughter is a size 10. That night when Mimi went home she told her friends what the vendor said and her friends said to her: the vendor just wants to sell her jeans, she would say the same thing to a size 2.
STORY ELEVEN What I am trying to ask is: that Patricia is telling Betty look how can I think you have plumb legs when I have never, ever seen them and it was only a dream nothing more.Here is the story again: "I know that Betty is reading into it: KEEP IN MIND IT WAS PATRICIA THAT HAD THE DREAM, NOT BETTY. PATRICIA HAD THE DREAM ABOUT BETTY and a Rock group. MY QUESTION: Can Betty accept the fact that Patricia does not think Betty has plump legs and it was only a dream.? The two players are Patricia and Betty. Betty always wears long wide skirts. Patricia and Betty were having lunch. Patricia told Betty she had a dream about a rock band that she and Betty love. The dream was as follows: Patricia and Betty were on a double date with John and Steve (two of the male rock stars). Patricia was with John and Betty was with Steve. Steve said I only like girls with plump legs and Patricia replied Betty has plumb legs. END OF DREAM. This dream got Betty upset and she asked Patricia are you saying my legs are plump. Patricia said no I have never seen your legs. It was only a dream
STORY TWELVE: MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Susanna? My friend Caroline (who is a size 6/8) was at the park with her friend Tom in 2006. She was wearing an oversized sweater. Tom looks at the sweater and says “Size 10 body in a size 12 sweater”. This got her upset so she asked “Do you think I am a size 10” and Tom said: “I don’t think you are a size 10 all I am trying to do is make a comparison between the body and the sweater. I could have easily said size 50 body in a size 52 sweater, OR a size 100 body in a size 102 sweater.” - Then for some reason Caroline and Tom lost touch for two years and then they bumped into one another and went and grabbed a cup of coffee. An hour later out of the blue he handed Caroline the following note that he wrote that he swore to himself if he ever ran into Caroline he would give the note to her: THE NOTE: “You are not extra, extra large, You are not extra large, You are not large, You are not medium and has never been medium,. YOU ARE SMALL AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN SMALL. YOU ARE A SIZE 5 AND IF A SIZE 5 IS LARGE THAN YOU ARE A SIZE 1.” After Caroline and Tom parted Caroline called her friend Susanna and told Susanna everything that happened two years ago and then she read Susanna the note. Susanna said:“Caroline all your friend Tom was doing two years ago was just trying to show the difference between the body and the sweater and Tom does NOT think you are higher than a size 5.
STORY THIRTEEN: MY question: Do you agree with Sara? In 1987 Jessica was talking with Bob (her boss) and her friend Nancy. Bob says “Nancy you are skinny”. Then Jessica decides to say: “What about me, am I thin” Bob says “No” but knows Jessica is obsessed with weight. Later on Jessica thinks Bob said that he was only kidding, however, she knows for a fact that her other bosses always say that Jessica eats to live, but they live to eat Even though Jessica has an excellent memory she cannot remember if it really happened or if she imagined the above incident in 1987. Jessica called Sara and Sara said: “ No one would flat out tell someone they are fat unless it was a joke. They might say something like you know you are a little bit overweight or something a bit more polite. The incident could be real because you think Bob told you he was clowning around. Also guys like to annoy girls and play on their sensitivities”
STORY FOURTEEN: Read carefully. Read what Yvette says as the final answer before you give your answer. MY :QUESTION: Do you agree with Sandra? KEEP IN MIND THAT ANOTHER CUSTOMER ASKED MARIE HOW SHE STAYS SO THIN AND NEVER GAINS WEIGHT, AND ANOTHER CUSTOMER SAID TO MARIE THAT MARIE KEEPS GETTING SKINNIER AND SKINNIER AND ANOTHER PERSON TOLD HER THAT SHE IS SKINNY LIKE A FAMOUS SINGER HERE IS THE CONVERSATION: Yvette: “Marie did you gain weight” Marie: “Everyone always tells me I am skinny” Yvette: “Wait a second it may be the glasses. They are an old pair and magnified” Marie: “Then take the glasses off” Yvette took the glasses off and looked around and then looked at Marie Yvette: “Yes it is the glasses, you are skinny. You know I was wondering why that when I was walking over here that the buildings seemed bigger and weird looking” she said this twice Sandra (A coworker of Marie’s) called Yvette over to giver her something. As Yvette was walking away she said “Marie you are small the glasses make everything look bigger. Then Marie told Sandra what Yvette said. Sandra said “Yes you can accept the fact that it was the glasses that made Yvette think you gained weight and yes she thinks you are skinny and did not gain weight”
STORY FIFTEEN: MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Rhoda? Nina saw her best friend for the first 18 years of their life. Then Nina moved and only saw Kelly (her best friend) in 1973, 1977, 1985, and 2002 - just for about five minutes in each year. And the rest of the time they just talk on the telephone. Then on January 2008 the following telephone conversation took place: Kelly “I am so surprised how the elementary school kids dress and also they are more endowed. When I was in school I was a size 7 but now I am a size 12“. Nina “I am a size 6/8” Kelly “I thought you would be a size 10 because my mother is a size 12, my mother-in-law is a size 16, my friend Cheryl is a size 10, and another friend is a size 12, my sons girlfriend who is 19 years old is a size 3” Nina “Do you think I am fat” Kelly “You are far from fat but the average woman takes a size 10” Nina “Do you remember what I look like” Kelly “No I don’t remember what you look like all I remember is you wore a pink suit with lipstick that matched, you must be skinny” Then they hung up. Nina called Rhoda and told Rhoda the story and Rhoda said: “Yes you accept the fact Kelly does not remember what you look like and the only reason Kelly said size 10 is because of the women Kelly sees on a day-to-day basis and the size 10 comment was made on the phone and not face-to-face”
STORY SIXTEEN: My question: DO you agree with Shelly? Darla (who is thin) and Phyllis (who is thin) were on the bus and Phyllis spots a girl on flag outside a Karate school in a bikini. And Phyllis says "If you take Karate you can look like her too". Darla “What who, oh that girl on the flag, but what do you mean if YOU” Phyllis clarified “I mean YOU as meaning people in general” Darla “Why you don’t think I am thin“ Phyllis : “You are on the thin side, you have a thin face" Darla "But I am thin every where" Darla replied “Yes you are, but “I have a friend that is thinner than us and no one would ever call you fat“; Then when they got off the bus Darla said “You know people tell me I don’t look like I eat“ Phyllis said “I would not go that far‘ Darla “You mean you are saying I don’t look anorexic“ Phyllis “yes that is what I meant when I said I would not go that far“ Darla said “Thank God, but everyone says I am skinny” Phyllis replied: "Well it is better than every one telling you that you are fat" Then when they were on the phone three days later Phyllis reassured Darla that she thinks Darla is thin. Darla called her cousin Shelly and told Shelly the story and Shelly said “No one would ever mistake you for being anything other than thin and yes you can accept the fact that Phyllis thinks you are thin and all she was doing was making fun of the flag?
STORY SEVENTEEN: My question: Do you agree with Alicia’s friend - give details? This conversation took place at a local drugstore between Alicia (a customer) and Francine (who works in the store). Keep in mind that Alicia and Francine never really talk to another when Alicia comes into the store FIRST CONVERSATION: Francine: “Why do you use this vitamin” Alicia: “To stop the deficiency” Francine: “Did you gain weight” Alicia: “Why do I look fat” Francine: “No before you were too thin now you are perfect” However, this did not satisfy Alicia so she kept calling and writing letters to Francine and pestering her and asking Francine if Francine thought Alicia is thin . SECOND CONVERSATION: Francine: “This letter writing and calling has got to stop” Alicia: “Just think about answering” Francine: “Maybe” Alicia: “Just answer one question - do you think I am thin” Francine: “No” (but she said this in anger) Alicia: “Who do you think is thin” Francine: “Me” (Francine is about 25 pounds overweight) Alicia: “Well about a week ago I went to my doctor and he offered me candy and I told him I don’t like candy and he said Alicia no wonder you are thin” Francine: “I am thin, you are not” (she said this in anger as well) Alicia: “Francine you are ___” Francine cut her off and said: “GO ahead and say it” Alicia: “Francine you are not thin” THAT NIGHT Alicia called a friend and told the friend the story and the friend said “(1) Francine had to say you were not thin because she had to say something nasty to get rid of you because you were pestering her and writing letters to her; (2) and Francine knows you are thin, just look in the mirror; (3) and all she meant was that before you were too thin but you are still thin”
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First, I need to ask why you keep asking questions like this. I am happy to answer them but I get the same thing every time I read your questions. Is there a purpose to this or are you jsut picking my brain for answers?
Just click the "ask a follow-up" thing at the bottom of this page and it will re-send this question so I can answer it and I don't lose it. Please tell me why you ask me these kind of questions.
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