AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex.
Expert: Jonathan Date: 7/14/2008 Subject: I'm in love with her and i want to ask her out, but i can't.
Question Hi I'm Matthew, I'm a 15 year old male and I'm very depressed.
I'm in love with this girl called Sophie she's my age and we're very close and we also seem to flirt with eachother a lot. I want to ask her out so badly but i can't because of my penis size, It's so small and i get really upset about it. It's like god is punishing me and i don't know why. Maybe i'm a late bloomer but i really want to have a relationship with her now cause i'm getting tired of waiting for my penis to grow, cause if we have sex during a relationship i don't want her to freak out at the size of my penis and stuff.
What do you think?
Should i tell her or just wait?
I really need help please!
Answer Hi Matt, I will make some comments in capital letters so you will easily see them. Im not shouting
I'm in love with her and i want to ask her out, but i can't.
Question: Hi I'm Matthew, I'm a 15 year old male and I'm very depressed.YES THATS HOW LOLVE AFFECTS US. IT PROVES WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE THAT WE ARE NOT IN OUR NORMAL STATE OF MIND.
I'm in love with this girl called Sophie she's my age and we're very close and we also seem to flirt with eachother a lot. I want to ask her out so badly but i can't because of my penis size,THIS MEANS NOTHING. IF YOU ARE 15 YOU HAVE SEVERAL YEARS TO GO. ITS THE SIZE WHEN IT IS ERECT THAT COUNTS ANYWAY. IT WILL GET LARGER AS YOU GET OLDER. WHY IS THIS AN ISSUE ANYWAY. LOVE IS NOT SEX AND AND SEX IS NOT LOVE.
It's so small and i get really upset about it.YOU LIKE A LOT OF GUYS ARE PRECOCCUPIED WITH THIS SUBJECT. DO NOT FALL FOR ANY DUMB ADS THAT PROMISE TO MAKE IT LARGER. YOUR HORMONAL RISES WILL MAKE YOU LARGER EVERYPLACE WITHOUT YOU DOING ANYTHING AT ALL. TO TRY TO MAKE IT LARGER ON YOUR OWN IS FLIRTING WITH DISASTER. YOU COUYLD END UP WITH A SERIOUS UROLOGICAL PROBLEM AND RUIN YOUR FUTURE SEX LIFE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED. DO NOT TOUCH IT EXCEPT WHEN MASTURBATING. DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU THAT DRUGS OR PILLS OR DRINKS ARE GOING TO MAKE IT LARGER. THATS ALL HYPE AND GARBAGE TO TAKE YOUR MONEY. ALL THOSE STUPID GIMMICKS ARE THE SAME. THE LAST THING YOU WANT TO DO IS DAMAGE THIS PART OF YOU.
It's like god is punishing me and i don't know why.WHY WOULD GOD PUNISH YOU ANYWAY. SURELY NOT FOR BEING INTERESTED IN SEX. NOT FOR MASTURBATING SINCE THIS IS A UNIVERSAL PRACTICE THAT TEEN BOYS AND YOUNGER ALL OVER THE WORLD DO. AND YOUNGER AND OLDER. MARRIED GUYS DO IT. CLERGY PEOPLE DO IT. ITS NOT A SIN.
Maybe i'm a late bloomer but i really want to have a relationship with her now cause i'm getting tired of waiting for my penis to grow, cause if we have sex during a relationship i don't want her to freak out at the size of my penis and stuff.YOU SHOULD NOT BE LOOKING AT A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP NOW ANYWAY IN SPITE OF ALL THE TALK YOU HEAR FROM YOUR FRIENDS. ONE IN FIVE AMERICANS IS SAID TOHAVE GENITAL HERPES. IT WILL NEVER HAVE A CURE AND LIKE AIDS YOU HAVE IT FOR LIFE.
What do you think? ASK HER OUT BUT FORST DO SOME HOMEWROK , BY THIS I MEAN FIND OUT ALL THE EVENTS SPORTING, MOVIES , ETC GOING ON IN YOUR AREA AND INVITE HER TO ONE OR MORE OF THEM. ASK HER TO PLAY TENNIS WITH YOU. LEARN ALL YOU CAN ABOUT IT AND IF POSSIBLE SEE IF YOUR PARENTS CAN AFFORD TO GET A PRO TO GIVE YOU A FEW LESSONS AT LEAST ONE HOUR OR HALF HOUR A WEEK. YES IT WILL COST BUT IT WILL KEEP YOU FROM DEVELOOPING BAD HABITS. GO SWIMMING WITH HER, BIKE RIDING ETC, GO TO THE MALL, GO SHOPPING FOR CLOTHES WHICH ALL GIRLS LIKE TO DO. STOP THE EMPHASIS ON SEX. THAT DOES NOT SIGNIFY LOVE. LOVE IS NOT SELFISH AND DOES NOT SEEK ITS OWN.
Should i tell her or just wait? DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT YOUR PENIS SIZE THATS NOT A SUBJEST TO TALK ABOUT. DO NOT WAIT EITHER. GET MOVING AND ACT NOW IN TERMS OF DATING HER.
I really need help please!FOLLOW THIS ADVICE AND TAKE THE EMPHASIS OFF YOUR SEXUAL THOUGHTS. OF COURSE ITS EASIER SAID THAN DONE. AT YOUR AGE SEX IS IN YOUR MIND HUNDREDS OF TIMES A DAY. ITS OK TO RELIEVE YOUR TENSION SINCE EVERY TEEN GUY DOES IT. GIRLS ARE GENERALLY NOT IMPRESSED BY THE SIZE OF A BOYS PENIS ANYWAY IN SPITE OF ANYTHING YOU HAVE HEARD. IF YOU NEED MORE ADVICE FEEL FREE TO ASK A FOLLOWUP QUESTION BUT DO NOT TRY TO DO ANYTHING DUMB OR YOU CAN DAMAGE THIS SENSITIVE AND DELICATE PART OF YOUR ANATOMY. nATURE WILL TAKE CARE OF ANY PROBLEM YOU THINK YOU HAVE.
