AboutCat Clopton Expertise I'm 21 years old and have just experienced a lot in life, I'm here to help!
Experience I have personally expierenced or had friends that have experienced relationship/dating issues and it just ranges from topics to topics. I have counseled several people and that's what I'm doing here online ha plus it's free!
Expert: Cat Clopton Date: 7/22/2008 Subject: I like her but I'm tired of running circles
Question I've been friends with a girl for about 2 years now, and for about a year of that she's had a boyfriend but she'd still flirt with me anyways. After they broke up I gave her some time to get over him. Then I went to ask her out, she told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship right now and I completely understand. So I left things be, but now she's looking for other guys to date. For a while I just wanted to date her. But now I just want her to be happy with whoever she meets whether that's being with me or being happy with some other guy. But knowing this doesn't take the pain away from not being with her, and it doesn't help when she's now ignoring me. I don't know whether she just feels awkward around me. But she tells me that she still wants to be my friend. So aside from that my question, or I guess questions are, how can I help the pain to cease from not being with her, what can I do to try and still be her friend(major priority), and is there anyway I can help her find someone she will really like?
Answer if you have told her how you felt, like really told her how you felt and she has rejected you, then to answer your question no there's no easy way of getting away from the pain, all you can do is try as hard as possible to be her friend and when she sees that you set aside your feelings and are still there for her as a friend maybe that will show your maturaity BUT if she starts to talk about other guys about you that's when you HAVE TO DRAW THE LINE and just tell her you don't feel comfortable talking about that (because of your feelings) so just try as hard as possible to be her friend go out with her as friends of course to the movies and such but also stand up foryourself at the same time, you are just in a tough spot here
