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Expert: Louise
Date: 9/3/2008
Subject: MYY problem (blank)is my old bestfriend (L) is the other trouble maker
Question
ok on my first day of school last year
(Blank) & i were like bestfriends.
she was the peanutbutter i was the jelly.
I had fell out with our former friend (L)
a few months earlier in the summer,so (blank)
didn't like her neither.
on our first day we went 2 school together
but when we got there,we had no classes together
& 2 top it off we weren't even on the same floor.
(blank) had alot of classes with (L). & me
knowing how(blank)is,i just knew they would become cool
again.& they did,at the end of our first day,they were
laughing & talking.
so i left & went home alone.
she came 2 my door and asked why
i left her,i told her because she was with(L)!!!
they tried 2 make me get cool with her
but they couldn't convince me 2.
(blank)began 2 call my cellphone telling me things like
(L) said if u want to fight her let her know.
after a while i told her stop calling me
& if (L)want 2 fight she would call me herself!!
(blank)and her little sister began 2 play on my phone,(blank) & her friends began 2 make my life hell
when they saw me in school.
i got tired of it,for 4 months i ignored them.
till i couldn't bare with(blank) mess anymore.
in the end we did fight but after that i was done it.
i proved my point & left it alone.she kept the mess
up but i ignored her.she was mad she couldn't be my friend.
after a while the mess died down,now it's starting again.
she won't leave it alone.now she takes some of my classes
this year,this might make things worse then before.
i need help,what should i do???
Answer
Dionna,
I'm sorry you've had problems socially BUT fighting does not resolve anything....If anything it just causes more problems...Besides you are a female you need to conduct yourself as such....
If you get a job at a bank or as a physician some where do you honestly think in the adult world you can settle your differences by assaulting one another or shouting obscenities at one another?
Sure, there are some adults who feel that's how you resolve conflicts and they generally find themselves in jail or prison.....
Please understand I do realize you tried to avoid the situation BUT as much as you'd like to handle things on your own and in your own way sometimes you need to go to an adult at school....
Have you watched the movie "Mean Girls"? Well if you haven't perhaps you should it is based on a book called "Queen Bees and Wannabees".
No matter where you leave no matter what your religion or even the color of your skin somebody somewhere will find a reason to dislike you...That is their problem not yours.......As for friends you can have friends that are mutual friends with others as well as friends that you just like because of how they treat you.....
You know you can be a friend to someone who did you wrong but just keep your distance....I'd rather have a friend then an enemy BUT if you really would rather not be friends then, What you need to do is talk to your counselor at school TRUST ME they can resolve this issue for you....Please be respectful when you talk to them as you want them to help you....Tell them you are having problems with some girls and it is making you have a problem concentrating in your classes....
Maybe they can even switch your classes around.....Tell them you are concerned about your safety.....The school is there for you to get an education your job is to be a good student.......BUT in turn you have to make an effort to.... Avoid these girls get a new cell phone number or a new cell phone if you can't afford one or if you are on a contract.. Get a prepaid cell and do not give your number out to everyone....
Do not send messages to others about these girls thru myspace or facebook anything like that there are cyberbully laws and I'm pretty sure you don't want those kind of problems......
You really do need to talk to the counselor or the assistant principal or the principal........If you feel uncomfortable talking to the counselor tell your parents and they can talk to the counselor for you....You should talk to your parents about this situation I'm pretty sure they want you to be safe and happy.....
Good Luck!
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