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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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Teenage Problems - Anger

Expert: Jonathan - 10/22/2009

Question
Hello,
My name is Rae and I am 18. For the past week i have been very angry with my friends. You see a week ago my boyfriend broke up with me, the day i was going to say "I love you"(I was crushed), it caught me by surprise because he hadn't shown any signs that something was wrong. I had told my friends about my plans to say it and they all said i should (its very difficult for me to say it) and I was going to tell him at the after play dinner that is tradition but he broke up with me before the play so naturally i didnt go to the dinner. But some my friends did because they were in the play and not one of them called or texted me to check up on me that whole week end and none of them have really talked to be about it. And they all knew what had happened, Do I have the right to be angry with them about not checking on me? And should i talk to them about it?

Answer
Hi Rae,

Of course you have the right to be angry. People are notoriously insensitive to the problems of others. I would talk to them about it. If they are freinds they should be supportive of you. It sounds like you are not getting support from anyone. Its ok to be angry. Never bottle up your anger since people who bottle up their anger and never express it often turn that anger inward and it leads to depression. Sometimes you have to give people a piece of your mind. When someone jumps ahead of you in line or makes you wait excessively or asks you to come back another time. Its called being asserive and its not being obnoxious. Its sticking up for yourself.

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