Expert: Dan - 10/15/2009

Question
Hello. My name is Danielle. I am 14 years old. I have the biggest crush on this guy named Brett, but I'm afraid that he doesn't want to hear what i have to say if i talk to him. I don't know if he likes me back... Even though chances are that it is a NO. I want to talk to him about it, because we have been friends for a while. But I'm afraid about what he has to tell me when and if i do talk to him. And another problem is that he is a senior and i am a freshman. That doesn't help... I just want him to see me as more than a friend. It all started in marching band, and we got really close. But i can not go through anymore heartbreak. Every guy i ever liked has Never liked me back. That makes me feel useless, ugly, and i feel like I'm not good enough for anyone. I know that he isn't worth this pain if he doesn't know that i still like him. BUT i can't help it. I have never felt this way for anyone else. Also, Brett is popular. I'm not. But he does help me with problems if i ever have a problem with things. That's also how i learned to love him. I just want to know what i could do to avoid heartbreak, and possibly get him to like me back. THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!!! =)

Answer
Hi,
I think you need to talk to a trusted teacher and your doctor about "depression". We need to check into this before you make any move on "Brett". Please ask follow ups. Please ask follow ups as I do want to help, but I think we need to talk about depression first.