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Teenage Problems - i think my boyfriend is cheating on me
Expert: Kate Stratford - 10/24/2009
Question
my boyfriend and I have been dating since the 8th grade. we are now about to graduate high school in 8 months. our relationship is very serious and I know we will be together after high school. we took eachothers virginity, gave eachother our first kiss, and I was his first girlfriend. we've never been with anyone else besides eachother, and im pretty confident that within the next 3 years we will be married.
lately a lot of people have been telling me that he flirts with a lot of girls which is unlike him. also, there is this one girl named maya that so many people keep telling me about. iv've even heard that they were secretly seeing eachother. he denies it all and he acts very upset about the situation, but for some reason I believe it because numerous amounts of people have been telling me about this, even some of my closest friends. I don't know what to do, and if this is true, I don't understand why he would do this now when we're about to graduate high school and start our life together. I really do think these rumors are true so should I break up with my boyfriend of 4 years, or stay with him on account of we're about to graduate and after that he won't see this maya girl anymore because she's an under classman?? I need an answer, im an emotional wreck!
Answer
Hi Morgan,
I think it would be wrong of you to break up with your boyfriend just because of gossip.
Unless you have proper proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you i would not risk losing a relationship that you have both worked so hard on.
Hearing people talk about this all the time will make you doubt your boyfriend but the best advice i can offer is for you to have a conversation with him about this. Let him know that you love and trust him but with so many people telling you about his relationship with Maya you are starting to doubt yourself. Ask him upfront. You will know if he is lying.
The only problem i have in this relationship is that you are losing trust in him. Relationships do not work if there is no trust. You need to work out how you feel about your boyfriend, if you think he would cheat on you or if you think that the doubts you have are based soley on other peoples views.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you need any further advice.
Take care,
Kate :-)
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