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Expert: Dan - 11/1/2009
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Hi, I am a teacher from Kerala,India. I need your expert advice to solve a problem. One of my students- a girl of 12 years old has been asking me about sexuality, which I guess is not just for satiating her curiosity. I was told by her classmates before that she has been dating since 11 and is flirting with many senior students here. I do not care about all these as such things are common in the campus. In the pretext of having a doubt, she approached me and asked about 'cherry popping' which, she found in an English fiction book.I did not bother to answer her question and warned her not to read such pulp-porno books as they might have adverse effects on her studies. She was alright for a few days. She has begun a new habit - coming very close to me and brushing her breast against me with an air of innocence. I know very well that she does that deliberately. How can I help her to correct this erroneous behaviour? Is she sexually excited? Is she a sex maniac? At this preteen state, will they get attracted to a man of 32 years old? Is she trying to seduce me? How can I solve this problem and help the child? Please advise. Channelising her energy towards studies is what required, I guess. How can I do that without hurting her sentiments?
Answer
Hi,
I sense something bigger. I question if she was abused when she was younger or knew someone who was abused. She might still be being abused. I'm not sure if she is abused. I also know you could get in trouble for her actions towards you. You need to tell your principal this and probably would want to get your school psychologist involved. Her parents would need to be called in too. I recommend James Windell Parenting Teen expert here. Please ask follow ups
The above are just my thoughts. I am very worried about what you posted. If it's not abuse, it could be something else.
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