Expert: Jaycie - 8/24/2009

Question
QUESTION: well my boyfriend might get sent to juvinile for about 3 months. i really care
about him. but should  i wait for him or find someone else?

ANSWER: This one is up to you. It could be kind of hard when you can't see him for that long and you could find someone else that you want to go for while he's in there. But then you could just want to be with him and he might want you to wait. Talk with him and see what he thinks. But it's really up to you. You should be loyal to him but you still can date and go out with other people if you want to.

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QUESTION: well im confused. my boyfriend is going to a new school, NORTH SHORE ACADEMY. and his friends from that school are telling him that there are alot of girls that are going to try and get with him. but sometimes i feel that he is going to find another girl. i really dont care but at the same time i do care. should i just let him go and find someone else? i mean i had cutted my self because of that.

ANSWER: You both need to talk about this before he leaves. I totally understand what you mean by not caring but caring at the same time. It's hard to say what to do for sure but you do need to talk to him about what he thinks will happen. Sometimes it's better to 'break up' for a while because you won't be around each other. Both of you will probably find people who you will want to go out with or be with a lot. I think it's safer to be able to do that without the other being jealous or not knowing that it was going to happen. When you see each other, you can pick up where you left off and still be really close, but it's too hard to keep things going when he's gone and stuff. Talk about what you both want to happen and be open to letting him go for a while.

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QUESTION: well i have a boyfriend and we have been together for 8 months but i still cant seem to let go of one of my ex boyfriend that i dated in 2007. we barley lasted a month and he had cheated on me and than left me to go with the girl he cheated on me with. and i just dont kno why i cant seem to let him go. we didnt do anything special. i just had my first kiss with him. he tells me he still likes me but at the same time he tells me he likes another girl also and i still cry for him and i just dont know what to do because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend because he really likes me

Answer
It's because he was your first kiss and I'm guessing a first boyfriend. You have to cut all ties with him. He cheated on you. Don't forget that. I think you need to wallow. It's where you get out all of your feelings for the guy in one night. You eat ice cream and watch chick flicks and do nothing all night long with another girl friend. Get that guy out of your system. Then after that night, you can't cry over him anymore. You're done. When he tells you that he still likes you, tell him he shouldn't have left if that was true. He's going to keep telling you what you want to hear but he's a guy so he's going to talk about other girls. I wouldn't tell your boyfriend that you still feel this way but make sure he knows that you do like him a lot so he doesn't feel 'left out' or wonder what's going on.