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Hi I'm 15 years old and I have some questions about masterbating. Is it okay
to masterbate? If it is I just use my right hand and no cream or oil.. Should I
be useing oil when I masterbate? If so what should I use ?? And what are
some other was to masterbate for a boy. ?
Hi Mike, Yes its ok. There are about 2 or three hundred million young guys who do so and most every adult male and married males also do so. There is no right or wrong way and oil or dry does not mattter. Most guys use their hand and some rub agaisnt a pillow or lie ona mattress and rub against it. Some guys do it standing up and put a sock over their penis and cum into it. If a guy says he does not masturbate he is probably lying. Priests do this , ministers do it, every young boy who has reached puberty has done it or will do it. Some well before puberty. Believe it or not it also helps to stimulate the immune system as well as releive sexuial tension. naturally this is done in private although some boys do this as group. If you prefer to use oil then do so. Things like vaseline mean a prolonged clean up but things like KY Jelly which is water soluble is easily washed off with plain water. Do not waste your money on some so-called "sensitive" products. You are just throwing money away. All this does is simulate seuxal intercourse with a female and most guys have fantasies while masturbating. Do not do so too vigorously and never put anything into the opening of your penis. Other than that you are engaging in a common, usual or normal activity among adolescent boys.
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Jonathan
Expertise
I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience
I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
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