AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question So basically, I am 13 and I tried masturbation but whilst I
was doing it I realised my penis hurt. I was tired so I went
to bed but the next day I woke up took a shower and my penis
started to hurt. When I looked at it, there was a wound
which was like a red patch on the tip.
I'm quite shocked and kinda scared, because it REALLY hurts
and I don't know how to cope. I'm also not sure if this will
affect my life sexually later on. The other problem is that
I haven't told anybody, not even my Mum.
Please help, I'm really not sure what to do.
Answer Hi Junior, This is a sensitive area since the skin is usually the thinnest on this part of the body. Its better to not be too vigorous when you do this activity. If it hurts after you have to urinate like a burning sensation this is usally because a person has drank some carbonated drinks like coke or pepsi. When a person masturbates of course it irritates the urethra which is the tube that carries urine and semen out. When the carbonic and phosphoric acid from soda hits this area just after a person has had their orgasm then it may burn. It goes away shortly and you do not ned to do anything. This has no effect on your sexula life later on. If you are cicumcized then the glans or head may be more sensitized to rubbing. If this persists you may want to try some neosporin ointment on it. If this does not heal it then you may just want to see your family physician or family doctor or pediatrician. Since this occurrred right after a shower it is possible you got a little soap into the opening of the penis and this will burn of course just like if you get soap in your eye it burns. It should go away however. I hope this helps you.
