AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question Hi i am 13 years old and i have problems with my parents my mom is engaged to this guy named Russell and i really don't like him but he has been around for 3 years and he is so controlling and always grounding me because he thinks i am irresponsible and i always give him attitude and i find myself crying every night because i don't know what to do anymore sometimes i just want to kill myself because it seems like the easiest way out. what should i do please help me
Answer Hi Ashley, I wrote a long letter to you on sunday while in the library but they shut the computer off before I could send it so I will try again. First of all do not think of killing yourself. This is a temporary problem for you right now. He really has no authoority over you since he is not your father or stepfather. Even if he were your step father your mom has the say about you. Sometimes a man will take up with a woman not because he loves the woman but because he wants to get at her kids. Im not saying thats the case here but i had a 10 year old boy whose mom is a nurse and her live in boyfriend was sexually abusing him every time she went to work. He ruined his self espeem and hurt him and punched him and did all kind of sexual things to him. The boy was threatened with death if he told. Finally one day his mom saw a cut on his upper leg and she asked what happened and he said it happened while skateboarding. She did not believe that and pressed him further and finally learned the truth. The boyfriend is now in prison but this young lad said he wants to die. He also wants to run away. You need to be on guard for anything like this in your life. where is your real dad? Can you contact him? All teens have to express a desire for independence which is probably what you are doing. You know that its time to turn your interests to the outside world and to seek the company of your peer group and friends. You have to leave the close relationship you once enjoyed as ayoung child. Parents see this as teenage rebellion but its quite usual and common and normal. I know you said you cry at night because you see no way out of this but there is a way out. Im going to suggest you join a youth fellowship group and be with other kids your own age. You need God and Jesus Christ in your life more than ever at this time. You have to include God in your life and God will include you in his life. If you feel you are at the end of your rope and fel like harming yourself like committing suicide I would like you to promise me you will contact me before you do or try anything. I will give you my personal email which will allow me to get your question fast and get an answer back to you quickly. If you are unable to keep yourself from feeling you want to harm yourself I can give you some hotlines to call or if you want I will give you my work number if you need to talk to someone. The important thing is if you feel like you are going to really try to commit suicide then you just need to walkk down to the nearest emergency room by yourself or call up a friend and have them go with you and tell the charge nurse that you are feeling like harming yourself. They will bring you in and have a doctor talk to you and get you set up to see a doctor to help you. If you are in a depressed state and you lose interest in everything and start to withdraw from everyone then you need to act to get busy on lifting this depression. Depression is a very cruel problem since it makes you unable to reach out and ask for help. It makes it difficult for a person to even function. So keep in touch and your questions and commnets are always welcome. My email is scussetbeach@hotmail.com
