Expert: Jaycie - 6/17/2009

Question
hi im a 16 year old guy and i will be going into my junior year next year. i don't have a girlfriend or anything but i think there is a good chance that i will soon. the girl i have in mind has never had any sexual experiences with anyone as far as i know. and she is an innocent, but not naive, really nice girl.
i am 5'9" and weigh 160 pounds and i've definitely trimmed down but i still have a semi-large belly, kinda man breasts and a there is some fat on my butt (the belly and chest are really only noticeable with my shirt off i think). i also have a lot of hair on my body for a 16 year old. i started shaving my face in 8th grade. i have hair around my penis and balls, my chest, lower back, up and down my legs all the way up to my butt (the most embarrassing part is it kinda goes into my crack). i was just wondering as to what girls would expect when they see me naked.
do girls expect guys to be completely confident in their body? do they expect me to kinda lead the way in terms of sexual situations? will they be judgmental of my penis or anything? will they want me to shave my hair down there, if so, should i shave my penis area or butt or where? will they feel intimidated by me if im kinda big?
thanks

Answer
Well, most people, boys and girls, have hair in their butt. It's kind of weird but that's what happens through puberty. So don't worry about that. Unless she shaves down there, she has the same thing.

Most girls like it when guys can be a little nervous about being naked but they do like guys to make the girl more comfortable. Guys usually make things go in the bedroom. Girls just kind of follow for a while until they get used to it. Of if they have an idea. You can be nervous but try to not show it. Just go with what you feel. Most girls aren't judgemental at all, especially if you get a nice girl. The sluts are the ones that go tell their friends everything so be careful with them. If they really love you, it won't matter at all. Some girls like it when guys are shaved but others don't care either way. Just do what you think is best. Sometimes just trimming it will help. Leave some so she knows you're 'grown up' but sometimes it's uncomfortable to be rubbing against wiry hair all night. I don't think girls are intimidated with big guys. It's usually a turn on so it should work for you. My boyfriend is as big as you are and I'm not scared of him. He's just like a big protective teddy bear. I think this girl will probably feel the same way.

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