AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question i once had a boyfriend. I was 15 years old. he broke up with me. Then i didnt get a boyfriend for one year and a classmate asked me out. He became my boyfriend even thought i dont love her. i couldnt give attention to him. So we broke up. Last week I knew he has girlfriend now. I thought i would be happy about it. But i am feelin miserable about it. Why maybe the reason?
Answer Hi Isabella, you are perhaps feeling miserable about this because he now has something you do not have. We all need someone outside of our immediate familt to love. Our parents were once our only love objects. But once puberty hits we realize our family is no longer able to fulfill the need we have for the new kind of love we are seeking. We have to turn our love interest toward people outside our family. There is nothing at all unusual about this. We may go through many relationships before we find one that seems to fulfill all the things we are searching for. Everyone one of us is so very different from each other its amazing that we ever find someone who shows the same amount of interest in us that we show in them. Never waste your tie on anyone who does not return the interest you show in them.
