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QUESTION: my son is 16 and he is wanting to come live with me.he lives with his dad and his father has all the right s and i have none,he talked me in to giving up my parental right's years ago but now my son is wanting to come live with me can his father stop him and what do i have to do for him to be able to come live with me? thank you,Tammy
ANSWER: Hi Tammy,
Yes, his father can stop him because he has a full custody of your son. Unless he allows him to live with you upon verbal agreement but it is very risky because complicated legal issues involved.
He is 16 years old, he can make his own decisions but he is still considered a minor until he turns 18. He can live with you when he is 18.
My question is, do you have visitation rights? Did he sleep over your place sometimes? How come he wants to live with you instead with his father?
I just wonder.
Thank you and have a wonderful day.
Doc Jerry
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QUESTION: i do not have visitation rights,in fact i have no rights to him at all.no i have not seen my son in 13 years or his older brother until last year or so i got to see the oldest one but he is 20 now.i dont know why he wants to live with me instead of his father,he just told me that he wanted to live with me now.
HI,
Thank you for your follow e-mail post. Well, it is up to his father to allow him to visit you or live with you. If it were me, I would not do it due to risky legal issues that he may create problems with you and use it against you even he verbally says yes. It will not hold up in the court of law because he has legal court order.
It is not worth it to have this risk hanging over your head, wait until he turns 18 then he can do whatever he wants. I am not sure about your state laws, consult with your family attorney for further advice.
In my own personal opinion, I think it is wonderful the kids still want see you. Keep up to have a good relationship with your children.
You have a nice day.
Doc Jerry
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Dr. Jerry Martin Jr.
Expertise
I will be able to answer any questions in general relation family and children issues. I will not advise or provide any information regards medication because I am not a medical doctor.
Experience
I worked with at-risk teenagers and I enjoy worked with them with developing possible effective solutions. I strongly believed that every problem can be solved with a positive attitude.
Organizations
Certified Member of American Psychological Association -and a Fellow Member of International Society of Counsellors
Education/Credentials
I currently holds BA, MA, and Ed.D. degrees in fields of social work, psychology and family therapy. I have vast experience working with the young children and teenagers in the past 20 years.
Awards and Honors
I received numberous awards from state and regional agencies for excellent community service to the youth and families in the past 12 years.
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