AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question my grandson is 3. my son, his dad, wanted to spank him because he did not
want to play basketball. he often tries to teach him how to throw, how to
catch, how to run but he does not allow for his young age. I keep my mouth
shut, but now my grandson is showing a real dislike for just playing ball of
any kind. My son believes he was not pushed in athletics, therefore he wasn't
good. he wants to push my grandson so he will be successful. help!
Answer Hi Belinda, His dad wanted to spank him because he did not want to play basketball? This dad has a real problem. Your son would probably be better served not forcing or pushing him into something he is not ready for. At 3 thats a little early to handle a basketball. I found soft softball like balls at a store. Yes they are cheap and made of vinyl but they are also only $1 and will not hurt a chikld if they get hit in the face or eye either. I also bought girls neon green softballs for $2 which are fabric covered and cost me $2 each. But these are for kids who are about 8 years old boys or girls and just to play catch with. They have a soft core and are not leather covered and have a hard core. Regulation baseballs should not be used with kids in my opinion. I also found a football colored neongreen and blue and is smaller than a standard football and it is softer and solid but will not hurt a child. It takes some doing to find this stuff. Sporting goods stores cater to regulation equipment not to toddlers. I look in the toy department. He could also get him a large inflated ball just to bounce around. I bought one that is about one and a half feet in diameter at walmart for $2.50. Baseball and softball bats are out for a child this young. Instead he should get him a narrow wiffleball bat and a large diameter wiffleball that is as large as a softball. This will not hurt the child. Perhaps if you were to buy him some of these items and play with him things might be different. You need to check out the toy department. The wifffleball bat and a wiffleball come packaged together and believe it or not its actually made in the USA. The small football with neon green and blue from walmart was also made in the USA which surprised me. On the wifffleball I would buy a larger diameter one the size of a softball so its easier for him to hit or catch. If he gets hurt all it will do is turn him away from sports and your son ought to recognize this. Its hard for a toddler to leqarn to throw. They just arent that physically coordinated yet at three. Another good item is a chikld size tennis racquet. The face may be the same as an aduklts but the handle is shorter and therefore easier to handle. He can learn to bat a real tennis ball around against a backstop and learn coordination. I found child size short handle racquets as well. He is too young to take out on a tennis court at this time. But he might be able to learn to bounce the ball off the racquet in the air and bounce it against the ground on a hard surface. In all my life I have never spanked a child. Its not that I do not think its wrong its just that I always told my daughter if she ever did anything bad we would talk about it. And we did. Thats all. If her mother said she behaved badly I would say did you do this ot that and she would say "I wanna talk about it". And thats exactly what we did. I hope this helps you .
