AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question QUESTION: Well I have diagnosed OCD but my case is different than anyone ive met. My problem is i cannot touch water, ever. If you think about it water is around you alot, from showering to rain storms. Have you ever heard of anyone having a problem with water, that IS NOT a phobia? Is there anywhere i can go to research it?
ANSWER: Hi Lexi, No I have not heard about people with OCD having a fear of water. There are many people with OCD who are "washers". They overdo washing their hands, taking showers for hours, running all the hot water out and still showering in cold water, washing clothes over and over again. I suggest you search the National Institute of Mental health and do a google search for symptoms. I am wondering if its a phobia and not an OCD symptom. What has happened to you in the past that had to do with water. Did you nearly drown, as in a pool or lake or stream or did someone forceably hold you under water? Did you get scolded for getting your clothes wet when you were little. You can have phobias and OCD at the same time. Did someone in your immediate family die as a result of being in water or have something happen to them. Did someone fall through the ice at one time? Look back in your life and ask those older than you if anything traumatic happened to you as a young child.
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QUESTION: I dont think it is a phobia because im not scared of it, and as long as i dont actually touch it i can swim and shower and do everything else. I did not go through a traumatic event involving water that i can remember, and nobody else can think of anything. thanks for the help!
Answer Hi Lexi, Perhaps the water represents something else in your life or your experience. Were you ever taken advantage of by an adult or older person when you were a young girl ? Did anyone ever force you to touch some liquid of any kind that you found disgusting. Did some acquatic organism bite you when you put your hand in a fish tank or pond or lake? There are any number of possibilities. I suggest you speak to your mom about anything that might have happened to you early in life concerning any kinds of liquids.
