AboutJonathan Expertise I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.
Experience I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).
Question Well I really like this girl and she is beautiful. She is also very popular and
any guy would date her. I am not really popular or handsome, but I have
liked her for so long. I was thinking about asking her out but someone to her
I liked her and then she deleted me off her myspace and face book. Do you
think that she really just doesn't like me or do you think she just doesn't want
a boyfriend right now. Also do you think I should take a chance and ask her
out. Cause if she rejected me it wouldn't be destorying a friendship or
anything.
Answer Hi Logan,
She may be struck on herself or just be snobbish. pm that case her looks can never make up for that. Its not that she does not like you it may be she does not want a boyfriend now. All guys need to get used to rejection because the people we are attracted to are not always attracted to us. A lot of relationships do not last more than a month or a few months. I would ask her out and take a chance but do your homework first and by this i mean find out about all the movies, plays,and shows, and spors events that you xan ask her too. This gives her some choice if she says ive already seen it. Or invite her to play tennis if you know the game and if not consider getting a few lessons from a tennis pro which may be found by calling some country clubs. also consider inviting her to to a mall to see a movie or go shopping or get something to eat. Just say hi to her and ask her if she would like to get together with you or if she would like to see this event or that event with you. If she declines then ask for her phone number and if you may call her. If she declines this offer her your phone number and ask her to call you if she changes her mind. If she declines this then you better move on. I hope this gives you a few ideas.
