AboutLouise Expertise I can answer a variety of questions. I am not a fortune teller so I can not of course predict the future. I can however make an educated guess based on information received and from past experiences.
Experience I've been married for 18 years and I have three teenagers. One daughter and 2 sons. We've dealt with a variety of issues universal to most teens.
Education/Credentials Life that is an experience the ride is not always smooth but if you fall down you get back up and dust yourself off and do it all over again.
Question Dear Louise,
Thank you for being here to help me with my
question! Ok I've had a boyfriend (we'll call him
Michael) for over 3 months, I am 12 and he is
13. He has told me he loves me and says I'm
the best thing that has happened to him and
he says I'm beautiful and all this other sweet
stuff but most importantly he's said he'd nvr
cheat on me... But I don't believe him
anymore!
He's one grade ahead of me so of course
everyday he's with tons of older girls when I'm
not around. He's a big flirt and I've noticed they
flirt with him too though none of them have
come forward and said they like him. He has a
twin sister who of course is older too so he
constantly has a ton of girls over at his house
and he goes swimming with them, out to lunch
with them, and who knows what else!
Yes all of that stuff worried me but what rly
gets to me is his email! In his email a few of
the emails that were going on between him
and this girl named laura were just like them
talking about how their class should go on a
cruise and blah blah blah but then another boy
John said so what's going on here with all the
michael and laura stuff... So I will admit I
became emediately jealous! And he emails
and txts other girls a lot more than me lately
so I'm startiing to feel kind of left out! I mean
he is constantly txting me like non stop but still
idk i just feel like hes cheating! And when I'm
with him he's still going on and on about
Lauras pool party that was like a month ago!
One time I asked him if he realiized he flirted
and he admitted to it and said he'd 'try' to stop
but he really hasn't! I am just so jealous and
some what dissapointed in Michael! I don't
have the courage to approach him on the
subject but I'm terrified of losing him!
There's another girl who I was suspicious of
too... When I first started liking him my friend
josh told me he's liked a lot of girls including a
girl named cara... But I said one time and for
all I know you still like her and he said he
didn't yet all the time on MY cellphone he'll b
like oh can I txt cara can I prank call cara can I
call to ask cara something and he goes on and
on till I say whatever! And he's always laughing
when she talks cause he says she's funny but
rly she's just a vain self centered conceited
cocky girly girl flirt who I find obnoxious and
most certainly NOT funny!
He told me I'm his first girlfriend and I believe
tht but I asked when he started liking me and
he said well when I found put u liked me... So I
asked what if I found out another one of my
friend liked u would u have said yes to anyone
who likes u and he said no... But I still wonder
was it cause I was all he could get?
On April fools day this last year he asked
another girl out (while we were dating) but he
did after all ask if it was okay to do the prank
but I still felt bad!
Sometimes in the hallways michaels friend will
stop me and say he was flirting with (place
really any girls name here) or he's cheating on
u with (whover) and then he says ok just for
the record no I wasn't...
On hawaii day he was asking all the girls for
their sunglasses or like rly anything and he
didn't even ask to c mine which sort of hurt ...
Then from across the hall I heard kids going
oooooh look at michael and whoever! And I
just rly hate always having this fear of him
cheating!
So what do u think? Plz don't sugar coat it just
tell me if he is or not! Please help me soon
cause I'm so upset I'm crying rite now! :'( so do
u think he is cheating? Yes or no? Thanks for
reading and wanting to help! God bless you
louise! Ur a blessing to me and every other
girl that is in my position too! Thanks again!
Delaney
Answer Delaney,
The first thing I'll say is I'm sorry that you are so upset.....I was a teen myself many years ago so I kinda know a little about how you are feeling.......As a parent now to teens I have to say this......You are much to young to care so much about this boy......This boy may be your world right now but that's just it right now.........This boy most likely will not be in your life in 5 or 10 years.....
Dating is actually a point in time when usually much older people spend time with other people to have a good time enjoying each others company....With the purpose being one having a good time but also searching for someone that one is compatible with in the hopes of finding someone that you will eventually marry.....
Dating is not marriage therefore you and Michael are free to talk to other people or date other people....You and "Michael" are not old enough to enter any type of contract so even though you and he can promise each other not to date other people there is nothing that prevents either of you from doing so. Generally older people get engaged to one another which is there way of promising each other that they will not see other people and it also means that they think that they have found the person that they want to marry.....Engagements get broken all the time so there is no guarantee that the people will get married......
Some boys are just very nice and at times their being nice seems like they are flirting....However sometimes flirting is flirting....."Michael" is very young he may like you but he wants to talk to other girls because he is not ready to be with just one girl....For a boy girls are like being in a candy store they may have a favorite type of candy BUT in a store they generally can't choose just one candy they want all of them...They can't have all of them but they try this candy and that candy until they find one that they just can't live without..........This will continue until "Michael" is as old as your father....So if I were you I'd find a boy that you can just be friends with and have a good time with....When you are older you'll find a guy that will not bother to look at any other girls he'll just want you......Let Michael be with all those Skittles....You are too young to worry over some boy.......
I know you like "Michael" but honestly he is just one of many boys that you will like in your lifetime...........
