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I am prettier for a fact compared to my Bestfriend and I actually feel bad about it becaue I feel like all the guys go after me and not her. I'm a blonde with blue eyes and a nice body. She has fried hair from dying it all the time and she's really skinny and has no shape to her. she's got like hazle eyes. She gets mad really easy too and when ever I talk to girls she hates she gets mad? It's like she wants to own me and control me! I seriously feel that from her. I guess what my question is this:
1. Should I distance myself from her?
2. Should I feel bad about me being prettier than her cuz guys go after me?
3. Will she ever get over being the jelous type..
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Hi Samantha,
Yes I would and would not distance myself from her.  She is your best friend and probably feels " left out".  Try talking calmly with her about her "anger " issues.  Its ok for you to talk to other people.  No you need not feel bad about any guys preferring you as compared to her.  Blonde girls are always going to attract more attention.  You have been gifted with good looks.  No she will probably not get over being a jealous type.  She takes a "hit" to her self esteem every time she sees some guy pay attention to you.  You might be able to help her with her appearance and give her some tips about guys.  You obviously have more experience with guys than she has.  

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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