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Hi. I'm andrea. im a 15 year old girl. i guess you can say i have a sweet life, but i feel like something is missing. i'm good at sports, i'm above average in school, i have friends and a family. but i cant help feeling like im missing something major in my life. maybe it's from the fact that my parents kinda neglected me as a child (i.e. i taught myself how to read), but my life is nothing comepared to how some people have it. im not really asking for how to make friends, or get noticed or find love or anything, but sometimes i find myself wishing i was a character on Degrassi. is it part of life to dream up a thrilling story for yourself, or am i just a loner? ive never really been in a relationship, and i might just be ugly. im just tired of feeling like i should pity myself, because i have nothing to feel sorry about. any advice?

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without sounding "preachy" the m issing "oops" I did not type that word deliberately, it just came out like that.  Anyway the element that practically everyone is missing is a relationship with God.  We can have all the material possessions in the world and have all the friends and have the greatest job and even be famous but still not be happy.  Happiness does not come from things or fame or being spoke well of. we all look for peace in our lives.  we can find it as long as we are not put off by where it is found. I suggest you ask God and Jesus Christ to come into your life and ask him to lead you instead of trying to do it yourself.  Read all you can about God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit. You will not be disappointed.  A life without Christ is like an automobile that does not have an engine.  When the automobile ends up in a valley it has no way to move again.  Thats how life without Christ is.  We need to trust and depend upon him to lead us.  If you are not now a church goer then you need to become one.  Belonging to a church is one thing and you need to feel comfortable going to the church or else you will not go to it. But church is only one part, establishing the close relationship with Christ is what really matters.

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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