Question the problem is my distant relative(brother) whom i meet only during family weddings.i have met him only 3-4 times and during the latest wedding we exchanged our numbers .my cousin has proposed me to be his girlfriend .....i straight forwardly said no to him and since then i dont answer his messsages but everyday he messages me ..i tried to make him understand that it is not possible but it did't seem to work.i feel all this is my fault .i feel depresssed that a 9 month younger brother proposed me.please suggest me how to get out of this problem
Answer Dear Sne,
Thank you for writing to me.
Your "brother" cannot harass you to be his girlfriend. How old are you? Ignore his messages and calls and next time he says anything like this tell him you will inform your parents about this. And if he goes far with his behavior, do let your parents know about it.
You and I both know the state of women in this country. Don't let this get to you. Be firm and be strong. You have the right to live by your own will. None of this is your fault and no one can force you to do anything against your will. Since he is younger to you, you don't need to be scared of anything. If he goes out of his line, make sure to involve your family members who will support you. Block him from any social networking sites and contacts. Such boys are pests who need to be avoided for your safety.
Hope my reply helps.
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thank u so much monsoon for this reply i will rely on you for all my problems
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