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I hate porn, but, because of my hormones, I cannot control myself and I cannot quit it entirely. I have made many attempts to stop, but I eventually fall back to square one. How do you. Recommend I address this issue? Thank you very much.

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Hi Francois,

The only way to deal with this is to unplug your computer. Or put the computer in a place where other family members can see your use of it. If you say you need quiet to use your computer then but a set of over the head safety ear muffs with a NRR rating of 30 bd (noise reduction rating of 30 decibels).  You can use them every time you visit a library. To do good schoolwork you need to "tune out" all extraneous noise anyway.  You also need to realize that much of computer use is a waste of time. What your looking at is not real. Its all false. Its not there to help you its only there to make you a far worse person. Its not edifying or uplifting. Its designed to appeal to your base desires. The other way to help yourself is if you are Roman Catholic then go to confession and tell a priest what you have been doing. Then resolve to avoid it at every moment. When tempted, do something for someone less fortunate than yourself. Help someone out. Do a favor for someone expecting nothing in return. Go see someone you have hurt and ask them to forgive you. Do more than you are required to do.

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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