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So I'm a senior in high school, I'm seventeen and I'm pregnant. I live in Wisconsin. I currently live with my parents and they are not positive or supportive of my pregnancy. Now I've been doing some research but have been getting unclear answers. Is it legal for me to move out at the age of seventeen if I have a stable and welcoming home to go to? please answer asap. thank you!

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Hi Mackenzie,

It is unfortunate that your parents are not helpful. I understand you wish to have this child and that is pleasing to God even if it is not to your parents. If your parents do not become supportive I suggest you contact the nearest Roman Catholic Church and ask to speak to a priest. I am certain you will be helped. Is it legal to move out of your parents home? Laws vary from state to state but there could be what is called a "gentleman's agreement" between your parents and the stable welcoming home you want to go to. Your parents are bound by law to provide a home for you until you are 21 or until you finish college. They are required by law to provide for your medical care, your clothing, food, shelter, etc. They cannot order you to leave since they are required to support you by law. If you have a stable welcoming home to go to and if your parents agree, and as a manner of courtesy they should provide the stable welcoming home with financial assistance to whoever you plan to live with. You may want to live with grandparents or an uncle and aunt or other relative.
Your parents are understandably upset that their daughter is pregnant and unmarried. they will get over it. In todays world too many people are railroaded into ending a pregnancy. But a child has been conceived and at conception that child is given a soul by God. In the past the catholic church has helped pregnant teenagers by having them attend school during their pregnancy and give them time to reflect upon what they wish to do. I had a relative whose daughter became pregnant and her father said she did not have to marry the guy who was a "bum", He told her to have the child and they would help her and they would help raise the child. Your parents may not be like them. I urge you to ask God  for help and put everything in his hands. He will help you for sure. If you are not now a church goer then you need to become one. Feel free to ask a followup question.  

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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