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Hi Pastor!

I'm a 16 year old girl, and I've been struggling with my sexuality for the past few years. I've roughly come to the conclusion that I definitely do like girls. However, I'm a Christian, and I firmly believe homosexuality is wrong. I don't intend to get into relationships with girls or anything, but I am attracted to them, and I do have feelings for some. Are feelings themselves wrong, even though I'm not actually dating a girl or anything?

Hi Ellie,

Thank you for this great question.  Everyone has carnal desires of one form or another.  Some are drawn physically to someone who is married or out of bounds for one reason or another.  The key is to recognize that these desires must be never acted upon.   The more you yield to them, dwell on them, or cultivate them, the stronger they will become.  The more you ignore them, the weaker they become.

Galatians 5:17 (AV)
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

1 Peter 2:11 (AV)
11 Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;

You do not have to be attracted to men... some people are given the gift of being single... they do not need to be married... but do not mistake the gift of singleness for the curse of homosexuality.

I hope this helps you.

In Christ
Pastor DOn

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Pastor Don Carpenter


I am a father of four and a Baptist Pastor. Before becoming a senior pastor, I was a youth pastor and worker for over 10 years. If you ask this volunteer a question, you will get the benifit of 20 + years experience in the ministry and the counsel of the Bible, God`s perfect book. Feel free to ask any Biblical or moral questions.


I have been involved in pastoral type counseling for 20+ years. Most of my experience has been with chemical addiction, crisis intervention, and some types of severe mental illness. I have some secular training in those areas as well as a Bible College degree.

Evangelical Baptist Church

Revival Baptist Chronicles
The Fundamental Baptist Voice

BS in Bible from Baptist Bible College in CLarks Summit PA
Various training seminars in, Co-occuring disorders, treatment of those who have been sexually abused, and Solution Focused Therapy.

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