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how do u know if a guy loves you? we have good conversations, always grabs my hand, kisses/hugs me, he does say he loves me, when im sad he always cheers me up and says he will always be there for me when i need help,he said he does care about me, he looks at me in a different way and sees how i interact with his family when im talking with them, he pulls me my chair in when we are eating when im sitting down, and he kept the birthday card i gave him and kept the gift bag but no one elses only mine

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Hi there Maria,

Thank you for taking the time to write to me and I hope that I can help.

To answer your question, love is personal to the person being loved and what one person may see as being just something that you do as part of a relationship out of respect, another may see as a sign of love and friendship. Love is not something that is the same for every person and therefore, it is not something that you can say 'this means he loves me', you can only really add everything up that is done and said and make a decision. If he is your friend first, your boyfriend second and someone that you trust never to hurt you...then chances are, he could be in love with you. There is no proper answer other than to look in to his eyes when he says he loves you and see if you genuinely, in your stomach, believe him and if you do...you have the answer to your question.

I hope that helps.  

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Daryl Taylor, BSc (Hons) Psychology, PGDip (pending certification)

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My expertise covers everything and anything to do with growing up, being a teenager or a young adult or being the parent of one of the pre-described. I can cover issues on identity, sexuality, love, relationships, families, drug/alcohol abuse and anything and everything in between.

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I have volunteered for AllExperts.com for over ten years now, but even before that I was trying to use my experience to help others by working with Advice4teens.co.uk, Teenadviceonline.org and even Lycos and Ask Jeeves. My experience comes from being a teenager primarily but this lead me to work with young people from the age of 13. I have worked front line, face to face and over the telephone, e-mail and webchat for a government department called Connexions UK (aimed at young people aged 13-19); as well as being student counselor in New York, a Peer Mentor, a student teacher and working for my school, college and University to help raise the aspirations of young people. My life has not been easy and I have been through my fair share of issues; so there is little that I haven't been through in reality opposed to just reading it from a book or from my academic studies. I have been featured as a case study as achieving through adversity for a number of magazines and I have featured in a couple of books on both sides of the Atlantic; even though I am UK based.

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