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Hi Ashley. I'm Samirrah, I'm 14 years.Can you help me? I'm lost, depressed, sad, and confused.I tried reaching out to like four other people but I never got a reply. I think I'm lesbian no really for sure how can I be sure? I also think I'm depressed or something is wrong I know there is something wrong for sure. I'm also a cutter. When I think I'm done. but for some reason I can stop.I mean I really want help someone to talk every once In a while, but I have no one some days when I'm at my lowest.

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Hi Samirrah,

Figuring out for sure what you're orientation is can be confusing but I think the easiest way to figure this out is to maybe date a guy and see if you are interested in continuing to see him. At 14, this can still be new ground, and it may take time for you to completely come to terms or figure out exactly how you feel about women and men. Sometimes, it can just be a phase. Other times, you may find yourself both men and women. Conversely, you figure it out and you realize that you are interested in women. The important thing to do, regardless of what you uncover, is to love and accept yourself.

Cutting and depression are in my area of expertise, but what I can suggest is that maybe you should talk to a counselor. Most high schools have a counselor on staff that can help students deal with depression and cutting issues. Be advised that, because you are under 18, they will most likely involve your parents, but that will open the door to other possibilities, possibly professional counseling with a counselor that can help you work through your emotions, and how to cope with them in safe ways, as well as help you figure out your sexual orientation even more.

I hope this helps you out some,

Good luck.

Brittney  

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I can answer any questions that have to deal with managing friendships between girls and boys. Question topics can include: dating, how to handle disputes, jealousy, how to know when one is being taken advantage of, healing friendships, and other topics similar to these. Other topics include how to handle disagreements with parents, or dealing with parent child relations in general. If you are a parent and want to ask a question, I can answer questions regarding how to relate to your kid in this generation, the best way to surprise them with that gift they've been wanting, etc.

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Life has been my teacher. I have always been the go to person when friends had disputes and have successfully fixed many friendships between my friends and their friends. I grew up in a family with a doting dad and an emotionally distant mom, and I have dealt with emotional and verbal abuse from my mom for a few years. We have since repaired our relationship, and I have used my experiences with her to help friends deal with their issues with their parents.

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I studied psychology in college. I was also a child development major for toddler through age 18. I enjoyed studying the periods of adolescence & teen years (10-18) because these are the years children start really figuring out who they are, as well as it being a time where maintaining friendships is important.

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