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Basically for my whole life I have been an A grade student, my parents are so proud, but lately I have been finding it harder to improve and get amazing grades in tests. I don't want my parents to be disappointed because they have always expected me to do well. What shall I do? Thank you

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Hello Grace,

First of all has there been some change in your life that might be responsible for you no longer getting A grades? Have you began to go to a different school? Are you now in what the US calls "High School"? What shall you do? First be sure to ask your teachers before or after class for help with any subject you do not understand. Be willing to go in early or stay after school to get extra help. If this is not possible then ask your teachers what they suggest that you do. If you are spending a more significant amount of time talking on the phone or texting or spending a lot of non-homework time using the computer then you need to stop. If you find you cannot stop then set a clock on top of your computer and set the alarm to go off at a pre determined time as a signal to turn the computer off or to stop using a cell phone and turn it off. Let this signal be a firm time, that means you must discipline yourself to spend your time on school work.  You must devote your time to your schoolwork since you can never again have the opportunity to learn all you can at this time in your life.  To get back to your "A" status you must learn to "Set Goals". Without the setting of "Goals" nothing is ever accomplished. You have to set your own goals. Let that be to obtain an A in all of your subjects. You may not be able to obtain an A in all of your subjects but that does not mean you should not set the goal of obtaining an A in them.  

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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