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my ex asked me if I met other guys then he told me that I'm one of the msot nicest kindest and caring girls he has met then I said "no one else has said that to me before" then he said "people these days don't complement one another as oftern as they should" what does that mean? does he still like me? we talk regularly as we are still good friends

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Hi there Maria,

Thank you for taking the time to write to me and I hope that I can help.

Guys are not very good at giving clues to their emotions and unless they are asked directly, they will scarcely open up about how they are feeling. My advice would be to lay the cards on the table about how you feel about him and ask him how he feels about you. You have a history together and should talk openly and honestly to see if there is the potential for your relationship to get back on track. If you don't ask him, you will be forever wondering what is happening and reading into things that may not be accurate. At least if you confront him directly and have an honest conversation with him then you will know either way.

The fact that you have a good friendship and he is complimentary is good and it could be that he enjoys things the way that they are but misses the intimacy with you, but only he can tell you how he feels and only you can ask the question. You have nothing to lose but perhaps a lot to gain by being direct and knowing where you stand.

I hope that helps.  

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Daryl Taylor, BSc (Hons) Psychology, PGDip (pending certification)

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My expertise covers everything and anything to do with growing up, being a teenager or a young adult or being the parent of one of the pre-described. I can cover issues on identity, sexuality, love, relationships, families, drug/alcohol abuse and anything and everything in between.

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I have volunteered for AllExperts.com for over ten years now, but even before that I was trying to use my experience to help others by working with Advice4teens.co.uk, Teenadviceonline.org and even Lycos and Ask Jeeves. My experience comes from being a teenager primarily but this lead me to work with young people from the age of 13. I have worked front line, face to face and over the telephone, e-mail and webchat for a government department called Connexions UK (aimed at young people aged 13-19); as well as being student counselor in New York, a Peer Mentor, a student teacher and working for my school, college and University to help raise the aspirations of young people. My life has not been easy and I have been through my fair share of issues; so there is little that I haven't been through in reality opposed to just reading it from a book or from my academic studies. I have been featured as a case study as achieving through adversity for a number of magazines and I have featured in a couple of books on both sides of the Atlantic; even though I am UK based.

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