Teenage Problems/Important

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Hello.On Friday I got into an assident I made I promise to my dad. That the car was only to my girlfriend house and back.But on Friday I decided to take her to work,I got into an assident and I broke my dad the words I told him it feel guilty I'm angry at myself.I feel destroy from the inside going back to that mediocre life I use to be at taking bus and trolley and walking to school and work.
Please give me an advice idk what to do anymore I can't even look at my dad because his face said it all.He is mad because I broke a words I should have never done that but is to late now I'm stock and I don't have car and my girlfriend I can't see her till next weekend.I feel soo lonely . Help me please

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Hi Carlos,
Thank you for writing to me. Accidents do happen that is why we have insurance.  As long as you were not driving recklessly, I am quite sure your father will forgive you.  Go to your father when he is not angry and explain to him that you were just going to drop her off at school.  You did the wrong thing so man up to your father and take the blame and the consequences.  If you cannot see your girlfriend until next week, take this week of punishment try to smooth things over with your father.

Respectfully,
Dr. Lee  

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Dr. Shirley M Lee

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I can answer questions relating to youth that are on probation, arrested, has anger management issues, lack of impulse control, problems in school and substance abuse issues. Additionally, I can answer questions about youth with sex issues, domestic violence, child abuse, child sex abuse, as the abuser and the one that has been abused, parent abuse, physical, mental and psychological abuse. I answer questions about marriage and divorce. I can't answer questions about medication that has been ordered by a psychiatrist and it's side affects or should you stop taking it. I can answer the question as to what reason the medication was ordered.

Experience

I have been providing care, guidance, and social services for children, adolescents, and their families for 32plus years. I work with young people who struggle with behavioral problems and issues at home and school. I assist our youth in developing healthy living habits and motivate them to become productive citizens. In addition, I work with the parents and families to motivate and encourage strengthening the family. I have worked with families that have been homeless, in poverty, peer pressure, and bullying. I currently counsel with youth that are on probation for battery, domestic violence, petit and petite theft, substance substance abuse and sex offenders. I also speak with their teachers and go into the homes and schools. I am a mentor to all these children and their parents. When help is needed beyond my expertise I will suggest where to take the child to receive the proper services.

Organizations
AACC (AMERICAN ASSOCIATION OF CHRISTIAN COUNSELORS) AND THE BAACC (BLACK AFRICAN-AMERICAN CHRISTIAN COUNSELORS).

Publications
Published 6 books and were sold at the Christian Book Store for one year.

Education/Credentials
Ph.d in Sacred Religious Counseling; Ph.d in Counseling Psychology; MA in Public Administration; BA in Paralegal; Clinically Certified Domestic Violence Counselor; CFARS (CHILDREN'S FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE); and for adults the FARS (FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE. I am also a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor.

Awards and Honors
Biblical Studies with highest Honors. Magna Cum laude.

Past/Present Clients
In the past I worked for two different agencies as a Case Manager, a Therapist and a Counselor for the youth. I worked under the leadership of the two agencies as an independent contractor. 3 years ago I began working my own business, which has been in existence since 2002 in counseling. Presently I am working with youth that are on probation and is court ordered to take an anger management and/or impulse control class with me. I am also registered with the county to perform marriage counseling and weddings.

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