Teenage Problems/I'm lost.

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Hi Jonathan. I'm 20 and ...I'm stuck. I can't find my own place in a life.
My family no have an enough money and in common i hadn't enrolled to university. At now all of i can it's to work as ordinary seller in hash house . It has no perspective. I don't know why save money cuz its no enough all the same. Even if i will save money for 4 years it'll be little. I'm depressed. I don't know how to sleep or wake up. I have no a choice of aims which would allow me to go up to significant aims  step by step. I have no friends cuz i'm gay
I don't see purpose in life.

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Hi Zack, sorry but I have been away.  There must be some educational institution you can enroll in or job training. Whatever money you do earn make every effort to save 50 per cent of it. Even if you have to go to school at night and part time it will help you achieve a better job. If you do not have any idea of what type of work you would like to do think about the things that you have enjoyed doing in the past. Do you like to work outdoors or like only indoor work. Are you interested in any healthcare type jobs, then try to get a job at a hospital or clinic even if it is not exactly what you like at first. You can at least get your foot inside the door and then apply for jobs as you see them advertised. If your are unable to sleep then you need to see a doctor and get evaluated and possibly start on some medication. It sounds like you have some anxiety. Do not label yourself as gay as this young age. And make sure you do not try to "self medicate" yourself with any drugs or alcohol. That only becomes a lifelong problem. If you do not know what kind of work you want to do then spend some time looking up careers in a local library. Find out what are the educational or job training requirements.  If you are not now a church goer then you need to become one.  If you will include God in your life then God will include you in his life.  If you need to talk to a priest about how you feel then do so.  If you are not now a church goer yhen you need to start now. You should be able to go to Russian orthodox religious services now in your country.

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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