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Hi, it's me again,
Thank you so much for answering my questions before I really appreciate it. A lot of stuff has happened and the a hotline and the police know bits and pieces, about the situation. My friend called for both things since I wouldn't. She was talking I was freaking out and pretending it wasn't happening, because I couldn't deal with the reality that this was actually was. I felt so bad after that call was made. I never felt so horrible. But I had a feeling it had to be done. Those little kids didn't deserve it. I just felt like I had too and once I did I wish I left it alone. I opened a door that I didn't want too. Now I have mixed feelings because so far nothing happened after that day. I don't like not knowing whats going to happen, the feeling of being on edge. Since this whole this is the biggest secret I have ever kept and the biggest thing I've ever done.
A few days after they came, I begun having almost flash backs, not quite flash backs though. I was remembering things that my mom did to those kids. And stuff she did to me. It was hard to believe if actually forgotten them.
I don't know if you would know but would the hotline tell the police about what my friend told them? Because she gave very detailed info to them and very vague information to the police.

I have one more question, after the whole ordeal my depression started to get better. But the anxiety is getting worse. Is that normal?

Thank you so much,

Hi RJ,

Thank you for writing to me again.  

I am so proud of you and your friend for helping those defensive children. I am glad that you took a positive stand.  It is totally normal for you to have mixed feelings.  Remember, this is your mother.  However, it opened doors for you by helping you to remember things about your childhood in which you had forgotten.  It is good for you to get these things out of your head.  If you did not think of them now, they would have appeared later in life which could have caused you or your loved ones a lot of grief.  

The hotline will not tell the police anything that they do not need to know.  If it is something that the police can handle, the hotline will inform them.  If it was determined to be a crime instead of child neglect or abuse, the police should know.

Your depression has improved because you no longer feel guilty for not helping those children.  You knew your mother was doing wrong things and you were keeping quiet.  The anxiety will subside as things are done to correct the wrong that is done to those children and they are out of harms way.  You may want to speak with a therapist in your town that can talk with you and you will feel open enough to tell EVERYTHING that is on your mind.  One that you can feel relieve from crying, talking, and just getting everything from your past and future off of your mind.  You are going to be all right.  

Dr. Lee

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Dr. Shirley M Lee


I can answer questions relating to youth that are on probation, arrested, has anger management issues, lack of impulse control, problems in school and substance abuse issues. Additionally, I can answer questions about youth with sex issues, domestic violence, child abuse, child sex abuse, as the abuser and the one that has been abused, parent abuse, physical, mental and psychological abuse. I answer questions about marriage and divorce. I can't answer questions about medication that has been ordered by a psychiatrist and it's side affects or should you stop taking it. I can answer the question as to what reason the medication was ordered.


I have been providing care, guidance, and social services for children, adolescents, and their families for 32plus years. I work with young people who struggle with behavioral problems and issues at home and school. I assist our youth in developing healthy living habits and motivate them to become productive citizens. In addition, I work with the parents and families to motivate and encourage strengthening the family. I have worked with families that have been homeless, in poverty, peer pressure, and bullying. I currently counsel with youth that are on probation for battery, domestic violence, petit and petite theft, substance substance abuse and sex offenders. I also speak with their teachers and go into the homes and schools. I am a mentor to all these children and their parents. When help is needed beyond my expertise I will suggest where to take the child to receive the proper services.


Published 6 books and were sold at the Christian Book Store for one year.

Ph.d in Sacred Religious Counseling; Ph.d in Counseling Psychology; MA in Public Administration; BA in Paralegal; Clinically Certified Domestic Violence Counselor; CFARS (CHILDREN'S FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE); and for adults the FARS (FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE. I am also a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor.

Awards and Honors
Biblical Studies with highest Honors. Magna Cum laude.

Past/Present Clients
In the past I worked for two different agencies as a Case Manager, a Therapist and a Counselor for the youth. I worked under the leadership of the two agencies as an independent contractor. 3 years ago I began working my own business, which has been in existence since 2002 in counseling. Presently I am working with youth that are on probation and is court ordered to take an anger management and/or impulse control class with me. I am also registered with the county to perform marriage counseling and weddings.

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