Teenage Problems/Maturity


I am a 16 year old in high school, specifically a junior, and I've always wanted the feeling of becoming more mature but my group of friends doesn't particularly allow this because of their maturity levels as well. so what are ways to become much more mature without changing the group of friends I have or as little as a lifestyle change as possible? if other suggestions are beyond this can you please put them too?


Hi James,

Thank you for writing to me.

There are a several ways in which you can show your levels of maturity without leaving your group of friends.  Think of some things that your particular group can do to help others, such as tutoring others in your age group or younger.  If you are good at math and another one in your group is good at English, you can tutor in math and they can tutor in English perhaps for an hour after school and then meet up to do other things.  You might suggest that your group cut lawns in an elderly area in your town on Saturday morning and meet up with your friends Saturday afternoon or evening.  Not only will you have silly things to discuss but you can compare how you are all doing in helping others, especially students that are having a difficult time in school.  Another good mature thing is to be a mentor to younger boys that need a big brother in their lives.  Just imagine, if you were a big brother/mentor to a younger boy how you could be helping them remain in school.  Also they would have someone to look up to and this is something that you and your group can do together.  You all can get together and shoot some hoops, go to the movies as a group or just hang out in the park for a Saturday.  The rewards of maturity for your group would definitely get noticed in a positive manner.

All this could be your idea. Just think, with all the negative thoughts that this generation have about teenagers, you and your group can change the minds of a lot of people as you all would be an example of the good behavior and help that older teenagers can give to younger youths.

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I can answer questions relating to youth that are on probation, arrested, has anger management issues, lack of impulse control, problems in school and substance abuse issues. Additionally, I can answer questions about youth with sex issues, domestic violence, child abuse, child sex abuse, as the abuser and the one that has been abused, parent abuse, physical, mental and psychological abuse. I answer questions about marriage and divorce. I can't answer questions about medication that has been ordered by a psychiatrist and it's side affects or should you stop taking it. I can answer the question as to what reason the medication was ordered.


I have been providing care, guidance, and social services for children, adolescents, and their families for 32plus years. I work with young people who struggle with behavioral problems and issues at home and school. I assist our youth in developing healthy living habits and motivate them to become productive citizens. In addition, I work with the parents and families to motivate and encourage strengthening the family. I have worked with families that have been homeless, in poverty, peer pressure, and bullying. I currently counsel with youth that are on probation for battery, domestic violence, petit and petite theft, substance substance abuse and sex offenders. I also speak with their teachers and go into the homes and schools. I am a mentor to all these children and their parents. When help is needed beyond my expertise I will suggest where to take the child to receive the proper services.


Published 6 books and were sold at the Christian Book Store for one year.

Ph.d in Sacred Religious Counseling; Ph.d in Counseling Psychology; MA in Public Administration; BA in Paralegal; Clinically Certified Domestic Violence Counselor; CFARS (CHILDREN'S FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE); and for adults the FARS (FUNCTIONAL ASSESSMENT RATING SCALE. I am also a Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor.

Awards and Honors
Biblical Studies with highest Honors. Magna Cum laude.

Past/Present Clients
In the past I worked for two different agencies as a Case Manager, a Therapist and a Counselor for the youth. I worked under the leadership of the two agencies as an independent contractor. 3 years ago I began working my own business, which has been in existence since 2002 in counseling. Presently I am working with youth that are on probation and is court ordered to take an anger management and/or impulse control class with me. I am also registered with the county to perform marriage counseling and weddings.

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