Teenage Problems/help


QUESTION: Im in 4th yr of secondary school but only came into school in the 2nd yr. I hav a best friend who is eternally jealous of everything. For example I started getting really close to her other bestie and we had a really big fight over it which she started. We made up becuase I gave her a black eye and we both felt bad. Then she asked me 2 message her bf 4 her becuase, lik my muslim parents, her parents are very strict n dnt allow her to use the Internet bt I cn sneak on. Her 1st bf n I didnt tlk so dat was ok. However her 2nd 1 n I had alot in common so we started tlkin mre. She gt really jealous but we tlked it out n it was ok. Bt I had a profile pic on kik of myself frm d collar bone up without a top. D 21 yr old I tlked bout earlier liked it so I left it on and my friends bf complimented me. She gt really jealous cuz I tlk 2 him more as I hav mre access to wi fi n he stood up for me during an argument bout dis whole jealousy thing ann nt hr. Now she has broken up wth him n she blames it on me. Even tho d reason she broke up with him is cuz he cheated on hr.ive apologised bt she is still ignoring me n is spreadin rumours around dat I am a slag n slut n stuff which it seems ppl belive. I dnt really mind bt wat should I do bout our frndship? We hav always found a way past problems b4 bt now she is bein really stubborn. N do u think it was my ffault? 

ANSWER: Forget about whose fault it was that your friendship has broken up. What you need to do is go to your friend in person and say you are sorry for everything you ever said or did and that you truly value her friendship and that you want to be friends again. Then wait for her to reply. If you stay close to her, she will eventually make up with you.

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QUESTION: Ive apologised lik ten timess after your advice ( thx btw =) n all she had 2 say was im gonna slap ur face, which I invited hr to do bt she didnt cuz she knows im stronger den hr n she would end up mre hurt den b4. Bt ive been out of skool cuz ive been ill n apparently,  according to my best frnd who is lik my sis n she nvr lies, my other frnd is wondering if shes bein to hrsh.I know she will want me to apologise AGAIN bt ive don it so msny times I know I will snap becuase people s patience only lasts so long and we hav gon through version of this in the past. Ive got a harsh tongue and I dnt want to mak it worse while she is calmin down..........
I know dis problem seems do simple to resolve but its been hoin on for 3 eeekd and it affectin a lot of my other friendships as well :/

Stop apologizing and just start writing your friend. Forget the past as its ancient history and anything in the past is over. The present is all that matters. That applies to everything, the present. We live in the present not in the past and not in the future. Never worry about anything. In the bible it says no one can add even a single day to their lifespan by worrying. No one can make one hair white or black,so if no one can do even that small a thing why worry about anything greater than that.

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.


I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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