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Do you keep thinking about a question someone asked you on things you are sensitive even though the
person accepted your answer

Also how would you take this:

I (age 58) wasnt feeling well a couple of days ago. When I went into my mothers (age 88) room because I wasnt feeling well (feeling queasy, dizzy, and shallow breath) she said to me "Do you think it could be you have too much stuff in your bedroom)". So I said to her "No, but where would I keep the things in my bedroom if not in my bedroom" and she said "I dont know, but not in my room" I have a lot of knicknacks on my dresser, etc, tons of clothes (in my closets). Would you take it to mean she is implying give away

However, when I answered by saying "Nope", she accepted it. Then about a half hour later when she and I were talking she said "The way you could be feeling could be a million reasons".

So would you accept that she accepts your answer "No" for it isnt anything in your room and she isnt implying give away.

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Your mother is probably knowledgeable about any habits or tendencies you have since she has been around you all of her life. All of us have way too much stuff. If some of what we have is given to others, especially clothes we tend to hang onto even though we do not use them anymore, it would help someone out. There may be a city mission where you could donate some articles of clothing and do just that and don't look for a receipt from whomever you donate clothes to. Just freely give. The less we have the better off most of us will be.  

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I have dealt with many young people in a teaching environment as well as in teaching young people at tennis clinics. Since younger people have seen so little of the world their view of the world should not be shaped by the confines of what happens within their family unit. Its natural to be shy about developing relationships outside the home but young people need to know the other person is also probably just as shy as they are. If you havea problem then remember you are in good company. There are no new problems. Someone else has also had the same problem. If you need ideas on how to handle them or some choices to consider feel free to ask. I will answer questions about moral issues and how to handle such issues when they come up in your life. Continue reading about the issue of bullies which can be physical, emotional or sexual as well as bullies who use the internet to spread stories about you. You do not have to be teenager to ask a question here on how to handle this. If you are a pre-teen or tween you may also ask a question here.

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I have taught children from 7th through 12th grade. It is all too common for young people to be shy or hesistate because they fear rejection from someone of the opposite sex. You do not have to be a teenager to ask a question here. If you are a pre-teen or "tween" as is commonly used now and are being "bullied" by someone and bullies can be other kids who hit you or as is becoming more common sexual bullying by name calling or spreading stories about you feel free to ask a question about what to do about it. There is also cyber bullying by people who may know you and there can be people who are pretending to be someone they are not who may insult you and try to destroy your self esteem. When you run into people who insult you its best to just block them and delete them or at the very least close down the messenger you are using. If anyone taunts you by calling you names or racial slurs or any slur that involves a persons sexual orientation you need to understand that the person doing that is trying to project their own questions about their own sexual orientation that they are questioning. This may sound complicated and it is. The people who are the most hateful in reality hate themselves and hate what they are desperately trying to convince themselves they are not (for example being gay or lesbian).

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