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Expert: Dan Date: 11/19/2007 Subject: Hurt and confused
Question QUESTION: Hi, for the first time I really can say I'm hurt and confuse, I don't know my 17y daughter. Last week she told me that she likes girls, I told her that I love her and that I didn't care. She ask me to spend the weekend in the girls house I told her no and she got really upset, talking to me like never before. Then I told her that she can spend the day out but she has to sleep at the house. She agree and did it. Last night I was eardropping and I listen to her talking to the "girl" about spend some time at my house washing some lesbian XXX movies today. I get so upset that I stopped. Then when I went back to listen she was telling her things as she was in her house for the weekend ( I don't she was at the girls house) Then I listen to her talking with this guy, telling each other I love you, f.... I'm really hurt, lye to me telling me that she is in love with this girl, I try to understand, and the I find out she lie to me to be with this boy. I really don't understand. I was always open with her. Any time that she wanted to bring someone to my house I was OK with it. I don't understand why she is lying to me. She will be 18 in 4 month. I don't know how to react at this. Please, help me to understand. Thanks.
ANSWER: Hello,
Our Parenting Teen expert James Windell is a good expert here. I recommend him. Please understand being homosexual or such is biology. It's not in her full control.
The question has always been why are some people homosexual and others not? It turns out some researchers believe that everyone has a little homosexual in them. Yea, AHHH. Honestly it's probably true that her genes have made her like women. If you don't accept her for her, you put a lot of stress on her and that's not good.
Understand this could just be a phase. But, it could be what she really wants. The teen age is when you find out what gender you like. Please speak to James Windell.
She could be bi meaning she likes both sexes. Where is her father?
Please ask follow ups
P.S. There is a law with watching those movies, so check into this and make sure she does not violate it. Give her a sex talk also with her doctor's help. Make sure she does not violate any laws. I hope she has not had intercourse yet.
The above advice is based on what you told me. I do need more information to say more. You are not alone with such a problem.
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QUESTION: We had a big fight on Thursday. My husband (stepfather) was really upset confronting her. They yell to each other and my husband ask her to leave, then send her to her room. She is at my house but my husband and my daughter they don't talk to each other neither my husband and I. We never had an argument this big and I don't know what to do.
Answer Hello,
I wanted to see how this has changed after Thanksgiving. I am wondering if this has improved and if you need more help please ask follow ups.
Does she have internet access and did she use it after the fight? Did she call someone(her friend)?
