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Expert: Dan Date: 9/12/2007 Subject: Mother's that don't trust their children
Question QUESTION: I am 15 year old sophomore high school student and am having difficulty
with my mother. Our arguments are the same over and over again. She
doesn't trust me to go out with my friends because she thinks that we are
going to do drugs and drink. She doesn't allow me to sleep out because she
thinks that's all we are going to do. However, I am an honor student, two
sport varsity athlete, I play in the school orchestra, and I know better. Yet no
matter how well I perform in school or how many chores I do at home, she
still believes that I am a drug addict. After working hard all week I still get a
no on the weekend. Both my brothers had big problems with drugs but that's
not the case with me. She demands that I give her all my trust when she
doesn't trust me at all. High school should be one of the best times of my life,
but if I can't go out with my friends and just stay home all the time, how can
enjoy it? I think that she's not being fair by just assuming that I'm going to do
drugs just because I am a teenager in high school. I don't know what to do
anymore and I'm on the verge of breaking down and just totally disregarding
what she wants and just sneaking out and not caring what she thinks of me
anymore. I've asked my dad to talk to her but she doesn't listen to him. The
only time I can really be myself is when I'm with my friends. I truly think that
soon I am going to rebel if this keeps up.
ANSWER: Hi,
Can you tell me why your mother acts this way? A drop about her? Can I ask your state? Can I recommend James Windell Parenting Teen expert?
Thanks,
Dan
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QUESTION: well both my brothers got into a lot of trouble with drugs as did her brother,
sister and law, brother in law, and other close friends. i see why shes paranoid
but she has no reason to be paranoid about me. i havent done anything to lose
her trust. shes from the philippines and moved to hawaii with my dad which is
where we currently are. thanks
Answer Hi,
Is there a teacher or someone you can talk to in person about this as a middle person? Would a family psychologist help you? I understand you may not have done things wrong, yet they did and it hurt you. It happened to me too.
Please ask follow ups
What did James say?
P.S. I'm in Rhode Island(all the way on the East Coast)
