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Expert: Dan Date: 9/13/2007 Subject: communicating
Question Hi, I’m a 15 year old male in the 10th grade. My problem is communicating with other males and females. I believe the root of this problem is because I have low self-esteem (I’m fair skinned and I get a lot of shit about being so pale).
My problem with talking to guys isn’t so much I’m afraid to talk to them, is that I don’t know any good topics to talk about, I mean you can only talk about a football game or something like that for so long… So if you could give me some insight on some interesting topics on what to talk about. (I don’t have many interesting experiances). Also a problem of mine is that I’ve never really introduced myself to someone.
My problem when talking to girls isn’t so much the conversation, but the greeting. I don’t know why but I can’t really start a normal conversation or introduce myself with women or men, I don’t know whats keeping me from introducing myself. After somehow I have become aquanted with the girl I usually do ok for the conversation if its just a friend, but if it’s the person I like I sometimes get nervous and make an ass out of myself. When I’m leaving I feel awkward and don’t know what to do (like when I’m leaving a football game or something) so most of the time I just walk out and leave without saying anything to anybody. After I get home I go over what happened earlier and I always regret not doing something or not saying something correctly. After I get to know a girl and if I like her, I can flirt pretty good but I never really understand when I should ask her for her number or ask her out.
Here’s one of my biggest problems, if I do get someone’s number I never know when to call them. I feel like I want to but I always put myself down and tell myself that they don’t want to talk to me or what will they think or something stupid like that, so I end up acting like an asshole because I can never convince myself to call someone. I hate myself for it but I guess I’m to scared or something I don’t know.
If you could help me with just a few of these problems I would greatly appreciate it.
- Matt
Answer Hello,
Can I ask your state? I wouldn't recommend you to rush into dating right now. I recommend our "self esteem area" and "expressing your self to others" area.
What are your hobbies?
Talk to a trusted teacher about this and your parents
