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| Subject | Date Asked |
| is booty shaking slutty? | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: ! :) i'm 14 and i have a question about booty shaking. is it considered slutty to booty shake? ... A: yes, I do think that booty shaking it sends the WRONG signal to guys meaning that without you ... | |
| family | 9/20/2011 |
| Q: my dad stepped out of my and my autistic brother life on my ninth birthday I'm 15 now and since he ... A: I think under the circumstances this is definitely not the appropratie time. I think you need to ... | |
| Rut. | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I need some advice. I am in a rut. A major rut. I don't feel like myself anymore. Ever since I can ... A: it does sound like you are depressed which you should consider getting professional help and even ... | |
| Friends | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: there have been a few issues that have been kind if concerning me involving my friends. We're 4 high ... A: I can COMPLETELY understand how you feel but there's no "easy" way on this one you just need to talk ... | |
| Teenage Drinking | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: I came home tonight afterwork and noticed my 17 year old son left his facebook page up unattended. ... A: The fact of the matter is he IS having someone buy him alchol --- your 17 year old son IS DRINKING ... | |
| How to Quit Being Intimidating and Awkward | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: 16/F Alright, so I have a friend who's all cute and bubbly and she flirts a lot without realizing ... A: take it step by step break it down have a goal each day for instance DAY 1: Try something new ... | |
| How to handle a hot best friend | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: hey hi, This is my last year in high school.i have a best friend who is in the same class as me. She ... A: you can NOT compare yourself to other people though ------ be who you are and definitely do NOT date ... | |
| teen girls and body image | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: My name is Kevin and I'm 17 years old. I thought you might have some good insight on an experience ... A: you could try to send her an apology note but make sure you are COMPLETELY honest, but when you say ... | |
| Big problem. Please help. | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: My Dad's not a bad person, but he has a weird way of showing love. His 'way' of showing love is by ... A: honestly you just have to stick with it and just try your best to get rides from other people and ... | |
| Please answer soon!!! | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I was molested/raped when I was younger and I know the pervert could still hurt other kids. It was ... A: I have been there unfortunately --- bottom line is that you do NOT want another kid to have to go ... | |
| Son's worries trouble us... very worrying. | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I am a 45-year-old woman with a 16-year-old son and 19-year-old daughter, I've been married for 22 ... A: We'll I would definitely recommend seeing the a counselor. As far as a doctor goes, does it ... | |
| I need some advice... | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm 19 and currently pregnant. I've been together with my boyfriend for years now and he's really ... A: honestly I think it is just hormones ....... I think you need to give him a little leeway and space ... | |
| Why do i want to be abused? | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: Im 20 and for the last few years i have wanted a very abusive relationship, over the last few weeks ... A: you want to be abused because you NEED affection by someone even if it is negative it is still ... | |
| disrespectful 14 year old girl | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: I have a 14 year old daughter who is totally pissed off at me for devoricing her father[she was 2], ... A: SHE needs to earn YOUR respect not other way around and until she does ---- NO CELL PHONE & NO ... | |
| disrespectful 14 year old girl | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I have a 14 year old daughter who is totally pissed off at me for devoricing her father[she was 2], ... A: does she have any chores that she does around the house? She definitely needs to learn respect. ... | |
| pre-teen boy | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My 12 year old son's emotions are up and down. He's a very sensitive and caring person, but for the ... A: Definitely without a doubt get him into counesling because if you DO NOT do anything, then it can ... | |
| My son's problem worries me a lot... | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm 39 and my husband is 40. My 16-year-old son came home from school late - about 5pm. Usually he's ... A: i would defnitely get more involved in his life for instance ask him if he wants to see a movie, go ... | |
| 11/4/2009 | |
| Q: I am a major procrastinator and Facebook is my downfall in life. I can't get on a computer for more ... A: TIPS: 1) Take a deep breath and assess your situation. Many times, simply taking a few seconds to ... | |
| Please help me, I dont know what to do! | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. There is a girl who I really like, I've known her for almost 2 years. She has a ... A: your in a tough spot -------- this is question she should ask Does ________ (his name) treat her ... | |
| Moving out. | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I am 17 years old--18 in 4 months--and I have already graduated highschool. My parents have been ... A: actually you can just explain it to your parents and tell them first so they don't "report" you a ... | |
| to be with her, or not to be with her? | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship for over two years now. We fight, we break up. We kiss, we make up. ... A: do not get back with her you BOTH need space to regroup, I would definitily would give it at least ... | |
| love | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: shes a girl same age, we dated for along time, but i screwed it up by not trusting her, and i was a ... A: do not propose if you truly love her and care about her then you want her to be happy and right now ... | |
| Feeling guilty | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: Respected Cat Clopton, I am a 17 year old boy. Yesterday in our school I, and ... A: you should NOT feel guilty, because they initiated it you probably feel guilty because you felt like ... | |
| My Life | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: Recently I was sent to an alternative school (I'm 14). Before i arrived homosexuality always seemed ... A: you have to realize that ppl will always judge you if you are different but you just need to feel ... | |
| Positive Thinking Patterns | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old boy and I am dealing with some pretty bad issues in my life recently. I suffer ... A: i would limit myself on the computer time like only allow yourself one hour a day same as tv and ... | |
| depression | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: my mother took me to get evaluated for depression well no surprise i am depressed and i was supposed ... A: I suck? Um..... your the one with the problem that says they cut there self it doesn't matter what ... | |
| moving out | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old, and just too fed up with almost everyone in my household.First of all I want to ... A: is there any family friends or anyone you could stay with if not best solutuion is what you were ... | |
| Periods | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: Heya. im 14 years old and i started my periods like 2 years ago but i havent beenon it in over 3 ... A: could be or could not be that is something NO ONE can answer except for your doctor so you need to ... | |
| dressing slutty | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: i need some help. i'm a 13 year old girl and my sister is 17 years old and she's also my best ... A: do you think you dress slutty? If you don't then you shouldn't care what other people think why ... | |
| Cutting? | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: So this isn't a reason to start cutting myself again then? ANSWER: there is NEVER a reason to cut ... A: it sounds like you HAD an addiction, I have not expierenced cutting but have experienced an ... | |
| is my boyfriend normal? | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 17 year old girl and i have a question about whether you think my boyfriend is normal or not. ... A: he is normal but its important in sex whether its oral or intercourse that the girl you get what you ... | |
| Cutting? | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: So this isn't a reason to start cutting myself again then? ANSWER: there is NEVER a reason to cut ... A: that is something that you as an individual just have to tell yourself not to do it try one day at a ... | |
| Molestation. | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: Well I am very sorry for what happened to you and I am also sorry if I sounded rude but do you think ... A: unfortunately that is just how you feel because of what might have happened I still crave the ... | |
| American heartbreak. | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: My name is lily. before I ask you my final question, I will need you tell you everything. Ok. I ... A: she knows how you feel so you don't need to vocalize anything if anyone needs to say something its ... | |
| Molestation. | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: So you think that I am telling you all of this for attention?I say this because I actually do ... A: NO your not understanding I was raped by cousin and afterwards people were just concerned about me ... | |
| Molestation. | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I learned about sex at a very eary age.When I was six,I had a crush on my gym teacher and I thought ... A: you have self-esteem issues you don't love yourself it sounds like and when people wish they were ... | |
| My Future? | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and in England. i always used to be really good in school and do very well but i didn't have ... A: well if you do not know what you want to do you should at least try to get an associate's degree and ... | |
| Casual sex | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: My name is Thema and my friend is Cindy both 15. We are both schoolgirls. We met an older man on the ... A: it is morally wrong for you to have sex with another man if you BOTh know that he has a girlfriend ... | |
| i need help, i don't know what to do. can you help? | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: my name is cody. i am 16 years old and here's my problem. after getting burned so much in my life, ... A: it sounds like you are jealous and i understand but if this new boyfriend of her's is mean to her or ... | |
| Molestation. | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I learned about sex at a very eary age.When I was six,I had a crush on my gym teacher and I thought ... A: it seems like you have low self-esteem or you don't believe in yourself like self-confidence --- you ... | |
| grinding | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: i'm a girl, i'm 13 years old, and i'm in grade 8. there's a dance coming up at my high school and ... A: theres no proper way of grinding and you can't really teach it to someone you and the guy make it up ... | |
| Molestation. | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I learned about sex at a very eary age.When I was six,I had a crush on my gym teacher and I thought ... A: because you had such a hard experience at such a young age you cant just "erase" this memory and if ... | |
| i need help, i don't know what to do. can you help? | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: my name is cody. i am 16 years old and here's my problem. after getting burned so much in my life, ... A: okay i understand the dilema well is there any activities you can do in your local city or do you ... | |
| i need help, i don't know what to do. can you help? | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: my name is cody. i am 16 years old and here's my problem. after getting burned so much in my life, ... A: you should join a school group that you have an interst in or join a sport or something to force ... | |
| I don't know how much longer I can do this! | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: i have two questions. I just turned 17 in February and I had a son in January.I live in Mississippi. ... A: the sad answer is basically because you are a minor and you are under 18 your dad has a lot of power ... | |
| Over protective parents | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: Okay so I live with my dad and grandparents. My grandparents are old school. No dating until I'm out ... A: wow sounds harsh well i would try to keep my bathroom, room, etc clean at all times just to make ... | |
| Cummed On | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: I'm a girl and I'm 16 years old and I was recently molested. It was pretty minor but it's still ... A: STAY AWAY FROM THESE BOYS if you are in the same house with them go to another room. What happened ... | |
| do you remember this? URGENT!!! | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: .. --------- FOLLOW-UP ----------Today, my boyfiend found out, and it was pandamonium...here's what ... A: theres nothing i can personally do to help you sorry but i would just sit down and talk to her tell ... | |
| do you remember this? URGENT!!! | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: .. --------- FOLLOW-UP ----------Today, my boyfiend found out, and it was pandamonium...here's what ... A: i cant tell you everything im sorry it is confidential I do know she cares about you deeply but i ... | |
| Mother help | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm a sixteen year old sophomore in high school. I live with my single mother. My father died when I ... A: maybe you should try staying with some family friends, relatives, etc for a while and i wouldsuggest ... | |
| boyfriends cell phone | 2/12/2009 |
| Q: so basically im confused at this point i need help with my boyfriend. its been two years and 4months ... A: basically you want my advice but i don't think you will take it ... he might not be physically ... | |
| 19 year old son - doing nothing | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: How can I motivate my son, college drop out, to do something with his life? I am at my wits end, ... A: you have to show tought love!!! In 30 days you have to be prepared to say okay you are on your own. ... | |
| molestation | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: my name is eric. i'm 14 and this is embarasing question. but u don't know me so i dont have to ... A: i would do whatever is comfortable for you not comfortable for your mom or w/e whatever you are ... | |
| molestation | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: my name is eric. i'm 14 and this is embarasing question. but u don't know me so i dont have to ... A: unfortunately I do no think there is anything you can do --- you can not control your physical urges ... | |
| love problem | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: i am 18 years old and i love a girl(also 18 yrs) with true heart.i think this is true love and she ... A: well I would def. let her parents get to know you more kind of like you were saying before. This is ... | |
| White kids acting black | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: Cat I live in a small midwest city with a mostly white population. I have noticed in the last few ... A: I am in total agreement with you and I don't know if it is just a phase or what. I have seen this ... | |
| dating | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: my name is matthew, i'm 14, i have a girlfriend, but the other day a girl i like alot told me she ... A: well if the girl really likes you then you have to ask yourself why is she dating this other guy --- ... | |
| life | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: About a month ago i started a new job and while working there I began to like my manager. For 2 ... A: bottom line ---- he does NOT like you, you have already told him how you felt , he already knows ... | |
| Grinding With My Crush | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: i'm a girl from texas, i'm 17 years young, and i need advice on whether my crush likes me or not! ... A: he could just be interested in you physically but to know the turth you just need to be honest but ... | |
| i dont know what to do. | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: Here is my problem My both parents are not taking serious my education right now. They are not ... A: i would first off move out if there are relatives, friend of family, etc. you can stay with anything ... | |
| mom wont let me date but love girl | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: Im thirteen My mom wont let me date girls she says im to young but I realy love this girl in ... A: i would not get to anxious about what you want to do with your life you have plenty of time to think ... | |
| I hate myself | 1/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm 17 and I have so much hate for myself. I have been cutting for over 3 years now and for a while ... A: i would force myself to surround yourself with positive ppl for instance pick a new hobby get a new ... | |
| Girl trouble | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: Okay. So I'm the most least likely person to have girl trouble but here's my problem ... I've ... A: this is a hard one but I would tell her that you care so much about her but the fact that you are ... | |
| 3 things. | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: Boyfriend: we are about to hit our 5-month anniversary, and we both really love eachother more than ... A: NO GUY i dont care if you love him should treat you like this trust me I was with a guy for 2 years ... | |
| My son | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: it all started when my ex wife moved out and left me in full control of the boys she wanted no ... A: you have to understand the position your son is in, he wants to please both it seems like your ex ... | |
| My school work | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in year 11 going into year 12.i have a big assignment for community and family ... A: www.journalchiroed.com/1999/JCEFall1999Rampacher.PDF I think that in high school you are not yet ... | |
| depression | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: this is a fairly long question. Im 13 years old and from the U.K, and I suffer from depression. ... A: go to your school couneslour if you don't know if you have one ask your principal discuss with the ... | |
| win her heart | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I have a girl friend who I have been dating for about 3 months. I actually think I love her. But ... A: i would back off!! i mean that nicely because i am with a guy and i feel similar a girl likes to be ... | |
| CONFUSED. PLEASE HELP?? | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 and very confused. My xbf has come back into my life. We haven't seen each other in almost 4 ... A: do not go out with him and I'd say it would be very difficult to be friends with him look if you ... | |
| bf troubles | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: i am 17 years old and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now. i ... A: i was in an physical, emotional, and sexually abusive relationship for years and here's the deal, ... | |
| Dnt believe in love | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I have some questions that i'd like some opinions on. I am 15, a freshman in high school, and i'm ... A: you just "know" when you are in love you can't really put words you jsut have thise feeling as far ... | |
| Relationships | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: Alright, i dont know whats wrong with me. Im a junior in highschool and this has happened ... A: i think it is you like them but then when they like you, you don't really know how to handle it so ... | |
| Mom posing for artist friend - am uncomfortable | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old, and live with my Mom (who's 38 and single). I've been good friends with a guy on ... A: i can understand how this would make you feel uncomfortable this does put you in an uncomfortable ... | |
| what should i do ???? | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: - we talk msn for long time 6 to 7 hours - we talk on the phone for 4 hours - we hang out for long ... A: typically when girls say they see someone as a "friend" to a guy that is a nice way of saying hey i ... | |
| need advise | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: Theres this one pretty girl who i like but she is just to flirty thats why i keep liking her but the ... A: the hard thing about this is that she HAS a boyfriend so as much as you want her to be with you (if ... | |
| Question about a bi friend | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: okay, im 14 and i have this friend at my church who is bi and she acts like she might have a crush ... A: talk to her just be like hey i dont mean to be mean but i like my personal space so i'd appreciate ... | |
| Worrying | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I'm 13 years old and from the UK. I have a lot of friends at school, but as soon as I'm away from ... A: there's nothing wrong with that i would suggest you start taking up a hobby, such as bowling, or ... | |
| starting a bible study and christian book studies | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: i am 18 years old and i am wanting to start a study group a at school. i already have a study guid, ... A: I would before anything so you don't get in trouble with the school, go to your principal and ... | |
| Help !! | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm In my last year at high school, and im going to a college that none of my friends are attending ... A: That is a totally normal feeling. I would definitly suggest getting "facebook" or AIM or even just ... | |
| my obbsession | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: heya dude. i just wanted to tell you about my weird stuff and how i feel like im the only teen who ... A: There's nothing wrong with "liking" the 80's however there is something wrong with being "obsessed" ... | |
| its about school | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: ANSWER: I would see if you can take a test there are certain test you can take that can prove how ... A: it depends on where you live, but if you ar ein public school it just depends on where your house ... | |
| boys | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: i like this kid but he has a girlfriend and they shouldnt be dating. I dont know what to do. He ... A: You should tell him hey I just want you to know I actually do like you, but I do respect that fact ... | |
| its about school | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: hello i am having problems in my school i live in philadelphia and im asian i want to transfer but ... A: I would see if you can take a test there are certain test you can take that can prove how smart you ... | |
| my relationship | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 manths now and i am madly in love with him. I know he's ... A: do NOT get back together with him tell him he will have to EARN your respect and EARN you back you ... | |
| my sister, her boyfriend, and my parents. | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: I figured I'd ask you since you are around my sister's age, and I'm sorry it's so long, but I'd ... A: well if your parents ever talk to you personally about it, just say mom I really don't want to talk ... | |
| love | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: im 12 and i still have no boyfriend i try to be someone different from who i am just so boys will ... A: your problem is that you don't know who you are so if you don't know who you are how do you expect ... | |
| how to make a girl be my girlfriend | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: hello how can i ask the most popular girl out and be her girlfriend and she can be my girl friend ... A: well i'd make an effort to come up to her and talk to her just ask her simple questions like so have ... | |
| fitting in | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: Help! I am 14 and am going into year 10.i haven't got that many friends in school and feel as though ... A: I would def get involved with school clubs or sports that way you are kinda forced to "fit" in and I ... | |
| I'm in love with my best friend. | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: my name's Nicole Bianca and I'm 17 years old. I've been bestfriends with this guy for over 3 years. ... A: I would not be in a serious relationship with him friends w/ benefits is an option or being friends ... | |
| FRIENDS | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I have a lot of good friends, but then you have some REALLY good friends, yet they do things which ... A: you can still be friends with them but while they are doing something illegal or uncomfortable ... | |
| Senior Year Trips | 8/2/2008 |
| Q: I want to go with a group of friends to Europe, or something, without my parents. They are fine ... A: well theres lots of options Option 1: Cruise - if you get a group of ppl you could get a group price ... | |
| parents | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: i love my parents but they say they dont want me too see my boyfriend that i have been with for 2 ... A: How about you do something such as go out to dinner you and your boyfriend meet you and your parents ... | |
| MY WACKO MOTHER | 7/29/2008 |
| Q: Ok.So I just finished talking to my aunt telling her that I would love to watch her kids. So when ... A: well you are not techinically "legal" to move out but you need to ask realatives, such as aunts and ... | |
| does she love me? | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: im in love i think i found the one girl i would spend my life with but i dont know if she feels the ... A: have you told her you loved her? actually used the word "love" and IT WILL BE HARD there is ... | |
| I like her but I'm tired of running circles | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been friends with a girl for about 2 years now, and for about a year of that she's had a ... A: if you have told her how you felt, like really told her how you felt and she has rejected you, then ... | |
| Tear.. | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: Well I live with my grandparents but I'm more close with my Grandmother. I moved in about a year ... A: maybe your grandparents do love you very much they just don't like to see there grandson do things ... | |
| How Can I get him back | 7/21/2008 |
| Q: Im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going through some things.. He's like really upset because ... A: I know you don't want to hear this but he KNOWS how you feel you have EXPRESSED that to him a lot, ... | |
| no successs | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: im 15 and its the end of the year so i recieved my certificates and the honour of being a prefect ... A: you need to do good in school NOT for anyone else but yourself YOU are proud of yourself and heck I ... | |
| who i am | 7/4/2008 |
| Q: i know who i am. my mom does too. and she hates it. i have dark humor, read vampire books and she ... A: that's actually a really tough one I would offer to do things around the houses (like the dishes and ... | |
| My Ex is a Problem | 7/3/2008 |
| Q: Me and my ex broke up about 3 weeks ago well he said oh why and wanted to be friends and i was like ... A: do NOT respond to him he is just begging for you to show him attention, if people come UP TO YOU and ... | |
| It breaks my heart | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: ever since the death of my father when i was 11 i have constantly been struggling with my mother. ... A: next time you leave the house don't come back that should be a red flag you need to find a relative, ... | |
| i am not a teen but i am upset | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: Can I ask you something am I reading into this and can I accept her answer when she said I am thin ... A: you are thinking WAY to hard about this as long as you eat healthy and are not annorixic take what ... | |
| My Ex | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: I just can't get over him, It's been over a month, and it's like I can't let go. I did ok, until he ... A: You have a new boyfriend now you need to focus on him and if this new bf is such a nice guy why in ... | |
| boyfriend trouble | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: I met this boy in Feburary. We met up a good few times and i got to know him better. H turned out to ... A: I think you want "everything" to be okay with "everyone" and it just doesn't happen. Do NOT be a ... | |
| Teen mental help | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: I have an 18 year old step daughter who has just moved in with us 6 months ago.She has lived with ... A: Read this statement outloud: "The 18 year old is ABUSIVE to the 13 year old" Right there before ... | |
| Friend related | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I have this friend from childhood, and we had a on and off type of friendship. Mostly due to the ... A: next time he talks to you say look you've been a real jerk lately and I need time to think things ... | |
| helping my daughters friend | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: my 16 year old daughter is very worried about a close friend who is having a hard time at home. She ... A: I know I already answered your question before but I was just wondering how you were doing with ... | |
| Can you give me some advice? | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm 16 and a sophomore in High school. How do you talk to girls in person and on the phone without ... A: think of girls as the "female you" ha I know sounds crazy but what would you be interested in if ... | |
| daughter working | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I agree on 90% of things, but she has always "allowed" our now 19 year old daughter ... A: well does your 19 year old daugther go to school full time or anything - that is a hard one because ... | |
| confusion about me & my mom | 4/21/2008 |
| Q: concerning my question, i will have to tell you what happened first. i hope you won’t think it’s not ... A: when you ejaculated it was NOT becase of your mom it was because you were thinking of a girl that ... | |
| this is long but can you please help? | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: Hey Cat, my names Paul, i'm 16, and i'm a sophmore. There's this freshman that i like, Kim, and I ... A: you respect her descion at least you told her you're right and no I she doesn't like you in that ... | |
| realationship promblems | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: Ok i have been dating this guys for like 5 months now. And we also dated in the summer. Summer time ... A: I would start doing role reversial the cute things that he use to do with you, you do with him like ... | |
| boyfriend problemsss | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: hey.. i have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost a year now. everything was great in ... A: DUMP him when a guy accuses YOU that USUALLY means that he is the one that is cheating on you ... | |
| My boyfriend wants me to hurt him... | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend just turned 19. We've been dating for 1 year and having sex for ... A: well this is something "you" can't fix, he needs to actually see a counselour or someone that ... | |
| Do you think you can give me some advice? | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: Hey Cat, I'm 16, and a sophomore in HS. There's this girl that I like and am also friends with ... A: that's a tough spot to me well I'd ask her if she wants to go out to a movie just real casual at ... | |
| my life sucks | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: i wanted to ask why bad things always happen to good people. My life has been really hard lately my ... A: Do you have any relatives or friends that you could stay with and I know it sounds corny but praying ... | |
| Please help me, i cant do this anymore! | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: Srry in advance for how long this is but i wanted you to know everything. I am 18 years old and I ... A: you need to surround yourself with positive energy and positive people in your life and you dad is ... | |
| Should I tell her? | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: Hey Cat I'm 16 and a sophomore in HS. I don't want you to think I'm a perv or anything, but there's ... A: I think you might just go up to her and tell her .. how to do that, that's kind of tricky .. I'd ... | |
| Love | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: I like this girl. she knows. she told me i have no chance with her. i was at a school dance and a ... A: I think she might just be as confused as she is what I would do is let HER make the first moves make ... | |
| My mom is a bad parent | 2/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 so I'm not that much younger than you. I am currently half way through college (only have a ... A: well sweetheart, you need to cut her loose, move out .. first call any kind of relatives you can ... | |
| i have a boyfriend but this boy in the year below ! | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: i have a boyfriend called Alex and there is a boy called James in the year below and hes been ... A: i know this is low but threaten him say hey if you don't cut it out I will tell the and then heres ... | |
| belly button rings | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: Okay so tonight my mother and i got into a BIG FIGHT, but we always do. I get really annoyed also ... A: Is it really worth it though fighting with your mom and stuff all the time, I'd wait tell I'm 18 or ... | |
| Mom Problems | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: My mom is always always always in a bad mood. She's never happy, and never happy to see me. My ... A: I know this is bad but why not try something like this hey mom I'm going to come over every Friday ... | |
| What do I do? | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: Ok so I'm 17 - a senior in highschool. I've been adopted since I was 9. My mom was a druggie and ... A: First of all let your adopted parents know what you are doing because they have raised you for a ... | |
| boys | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: I am a teenager and my ex boyfriend and i recently broke up in November,because he is on the ... A: do the "2 week rule" What is the 2 week rule? You give yourself two weeks (mark it on a calendar or ... | |
| boys | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I am a teenager and my ex boyfriend and i recently broke up in November,because he is on the ... A: as bad as it sounds you HAVE to stop contact with him ALL TOGETHER because if you try to be ... | |
| trouble with my girlfriends mom and other | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: ! but theres a problem, her mom doesnt want us to be together she wants her to be with her ex ... A: Here's just an idea: Have you, your girlfriend, and your girlfriend's mom go out to dinner. Have it ... | |
| My mom is crazy | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: Last Wednesday, my mom asked me to go out for supper with her. We went out for a nice supper and on ... A: This is NOT your fault your mom is MANIPULATING you, what she did is wrong and she is making YOU ... | |
| . . . Introverted? | 11/18/2007 |
| Q: Okay, hi, i am really introverted, and i don't like hanging out with firends. but when my friends ... A: it sounds like me you have self-esteem problems so I would first sit down and make a list of things ... | |
| CrAzY dAd!!! | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: Ok, my father just recently came into my life when i was 15, I am now fixing to be 18 in 4 months. ... A: well about the 23 year old dating the 15 year old okay hunny if that is me that would drive me CRAZY ... | |
| CrAzY dAd!!! | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: Ok, my father just recently came into my life when i was 15, I am now fixing to be 18 in 4 months. ... A: I think your mom feels like she NEEDS your dad in her life, she knows what he is doing is wrong but ... | |
| Brothers | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm the youngest of 5 (i'm 14, my big sis is 16 and my big bros are 15,17,18) and the youngest ... A: Actually there's nothing you can do because in thier eyes you will ALWAYS be the baby sister you ... | |
| Teenage drinking and parties | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: Your question was "Hello. I'm 14 year old boy in year 8 and live in australia in canberra. Recently ... A: you can go to the party and here's perfect response if someone asks you to do something like drink, ... | |
| College Daughter Unhappiness | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: My 20 yr. old daughter is in her third year of college. Wherever she lives, the dorm, the sorority, ... A: That is tough actually - I don't think she "needs" counseling but I think it would help a lot - well ... | |
| katlin | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: my name is jennie I'm 22 years old. im a lesbian. i had this girlfriend from 02-04 . were were so ... A: well I'd tell her that if she's not ready to be open that (if you really love her) then you will ... | |
| im really in need of advice and quick | 10/13/2007 |
| Q: i cant cope with school and am even willing to try drugs to stop me thinking about it i dont think i ... A: first of all calm down pray about it second of all TUTORS!! try to take an extra criticular ... | |
| What should I do in my relationship? | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: Well I am 15 and I known this girl for 2 years now we talked about it, and we are dating now, but ... A: try this - Let her be the one to do the work. Don't hold hands with her yet just act like her ... | |
| does he like me? | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: okay, im 14 and currently in high school. i have a crush on one of my classmates and im not sure if ... A: Honestly he could or could not. He could giving you signals, but he also could just trying to "act" ... | |
| Hi agan Cat. What's up with my friend's parents? | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: I just have a question with a problem that I think has gone on long enough. My friend and I are ... A: You are not going to want to hear this, but YOU can't do anything, yes it is messed up, but even ... | |
| moving from home!! | 8/11/2007 |
| Q: Through my life I was raised in small towns. I'm now in the middle of my highschool years and my ... A: unfortunately you can't prevent the moving ... I would find one person (and that can be me if you ... | |
| girls | 8/10/2007 |
| Q: alright man im good lookin and i know that cuz every girl thinks im cute and w/e but somehow im not ... A: be normal ... there's nothing more that turns off a girl is a guy who KNOWS he's hott who tries to ... | |
| Please Help! | 8/7/2007 |
| Q: I'm going to get strait to the point, I have a friend with an abussive father. Let me give you a ... A: I was in the same boat -- bottom line -- this is sad but YOU can't do anything about it except what ... | |
| friends | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: . READ EACH ONE THEY ARE SEPARATE ENTRIES. I JUST DID NOT WANT TO POST SEVEN TIMES. STORY ONE: ... A: story 6,7,8,9 send me again ... as for 1-5 and 10 here's the bottom line you CARE waaaaay too much ... | |
| Hi again Cat; I have an uncommon Question | 7/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm back for help, but I'm not sure if you remember me.. I was with Courtney before, then we broke ... A: I read your e-mail and answer to number one is Yes, it's common for girls to think celebrities, ... | |
| I like a guy but I'm confused about his feelings towards me | 7/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm an 18 year old girl. When I was 16, I really really liked a guy but it turned out that he was a ... A: that kinda should of been a sign if he can't even stick up for you: 1) He's not as a good, LOYAL ... | |
| how can i make them believe me | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: Ok, I used to have this problem with cutting myself. Everybody found out about it, and I eventually ... A: Tell them the truth and tell them that you would consider taking some counseling because sad thing ... | |
| Vegetarian | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: How can I tell my mom I want to be a vegetarian? I tried to start without telling her, but she found ... A: I've been a vegetarian since for 7-8 years (I'm 20 now) and it's not a big deal. You just need to ... | |
| Love :( | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: Well It Not Really a Question Its A Problem && I really need help :( well ive got a boyfriend and ... A: yes and no actaully. You SHOULD dump him but you won't - I've been with the same guy who flirts ... | |
| 18 years old son | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: Tell me please what to do if my 18 years old son is sleeping all day and going out at night? I try ... A: You can't - he doesn't want to talk to his mom - he parties at night and sleeps during the day ... | |
| i need help | 5/27/2007 |
| Q: .! i am a 14 year old latin girl,i have a 18 year old boyfriend that is addicted to weed..i really ... A: Honestly, you will never leave him no matter what he does because you are too caught up in all this ... | |
| teenage gossip | 5/22/2007 |
| Q: first, I appreciate the time you are taking to read my question. Thank you. Luckily I ... A: I know a great Bible verse (Ephesians 4:29) and gossip hurts period, especially to young teenage ... | |
| Hello again Cat. | 5/21/2007 |
| Q: I'm sure you may remember me, so I'll see if you can help.. Last time I messaged you for help, my ... A: First off girls don't like guys with low-self esteem don't you think she would be happy to hear you ... | |
| My 20 year old son | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: My son is 20 years old, a high school drop out, cant hold a job for more then 3-4 months and plays ... A: That is tough, I'd try praying about it and as far as you have said (I am 20 too) basically he will ... | |
| Confusing Boyfiend | 4/12/2007 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have only been together for a week and a bit, and tonight we were on the phone ... A: hun you are giving him the advantage. look at the situation HE is the one that called you the snob ... | |
| ~just help~ | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: Ok, I just have to get this out of me tonight. Some one has to know cause I don’t think I am going ... A: It wasn't your fault you being raped NOT your fault and do you really want to be with a guy like ... | |
| mite be pregnet | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: i mite be pregnet.what do i do?i haven't been feeling well so im going to the doctor tomorrow.what ... A: first of all you can tell your doctor you want this to be "confidential" and they HAVE to by law ... | |
| want to be with someone | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: ok i have a problem im 16 almost senior in high school but im home schooled and i really want be ... A: That is hard well I would do social things (do you have any nieghbors, friends, etc and if not then ... | |
| my girlfriend isn't a virgin but i am | 3/25/2007 |
| Q: well i dont relli kno wat to do i was kinda being a lil lyk sadnes but yer so on i found out wen i ... A: It shouldn't be that big of a deal in your realationship YET unless you are thinking of having sex ... | |
| One of the lads | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: i am 18 and have led quite a sheltered life. i have just come to university and really like a lad ... A: Wear more "feminie" (girl style) clothing, change your outward appearance not your inwards. Still ... | |
| Confused and Worried.. | 3/12/2007 |
| Q: Hey Cat. Hopefully you remember me; 18/male/jr in H.S. was with Courtney; F/15/Freshman in H.S. ... A: yeah - neither - do not go out with either problem solved - the first girl screwed you over and ... | |
| I am in so deep! | 2/17/2007 |
| Q: Okay, I may have sent you the question regarding how to ask this guy that I like if he wants to ... A: he probably just felt uncomfortable that maybe he wanted to just talk to you instead of his friends. ... | |
| I need help | 2/15/2007 |
| Q: Well my parents never really hurt us unless we make them really mad and i did beacause they think im ... A: they might be over-protective but isn't over protective better than not protective at all, believe ... | |
| Confused and Worried.. | 2/4/2007 |
| Q: I really need assistance and advice here please.. Here's the basics,ect. I'm 17(18 in 7 ... A: hey i was gonna say do you want to just continue this, but through e-mail instead | |
| HEY | 1/30/2007 |
| Q: my problem is i was with a guy who was a gang member(crips). i fell in love with but then he broke ... A: hey I just wanted to e-mail you and tell you that I know I was blunt, and I might have been a little ... | |
| help | 1/27/2007 |
| Q: i went to psychologist today evening and it was no help. it depressed me further. she's one of the ... A: Rule of thumb: Go to counesling at least FIVE times before you make a conscious effort to say you ... | |
| hello i have a question | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: im an 18 year old female, and over the past couple weeks i have to the conclusion that god hates me ... A: hey I was just writing to you to see how everything is ... you are a woman of God with a sweet ... | |
| Names | 1/19/2007 |
| Q: This is an unusual problem, but i hoped you might help. I have recently decided to change my name, ... A: well your parents named you that for a reason. so that would almost be a disrespect towards them ... | |
| help | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: i'm 15(female) and terribly depressed.reasons?here u go 1)since the past two years i've been losing ... A: how is everything with you now? | |
| pregnacy | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: my girl friend is 16 going on 17 and im 15 and she might be pregnant wat should i do A: hey i thought i'd message you and see how you are doing with the whole situation | |
| please help | 1/5/2007 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old girl, in year 10 at school who has always wanted to succeed in exams, and my ... A: hey I just wanted to see how you were doing with everything | |
| help | 12/16/2006 |
| Q: ages ago i went to a party with loads of friends and i got really drunk and apparently i got with ... A: well I would def talk to your bro to talk to the guy you got with since YOUR brother started and I ... | |
| a little off topic | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: Well, lately i have been getting told that i "need to know what i want to be when i grow up." i have ... A: Lots of people do not know what they want to do. I would DEF suggest that you start off at at a ... | |
| need some help!! | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: I know it's not healthy and I've asked my mom(I've ask her probaly a million times by now..)if I can ... A: You are fine just the way you are. If you are quiet that's fine, if you are shy that's fine, but ... | |
| need some help!! | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: .(sorry I just have some many questions to ask right now)I've changed my mind about the whole moving ... A: sweetie this isn't healthy. For now (meaning right now not ever) you need to NOT focus on him. ... | |
| need some help!! | 12/1/2006 |
| Q: really?even though I hate my school and don't like alot of the people there?I know I make good ... A: I understand what your going through but it seems like by moving away you are running away of your ... | |
| complicated | 11/30/2006 |
| Q: my best friend is a boy and for ages now we have been best mates. at the start of our friendship i ... A: I would say don't screw up what you already have with your current boyfriend ... and with your other ... | |
| need some help!! | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: I'm in the 8th grade and there's this guy that I've known since the 6th grade and i used to have a ... A: No you should not move. It wouldn't be fair to your family or to your two best friends, like you ... | |
| my boyfriend | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: I'm in year 8 at school and i've just started goin out wiv a yr 7. I adore him and he's quite ... A: It's only a year age difference besides age shouldn't really be an issue the more important thing is ... | |
| my parent's | 11/21/2006 |
| Q: My names tori. I have this Boyfriend, His name is Yale. I love him to death! But the thing is I'm ... A: I think that you have a "crush" it is when you have butterflies in your stomache and you get so ... | |
| Boys | 11/21/2006 |
| Q: There is a boy i like and he likes me as friends. One day he called me and asked me what i was up to ... A: hard as this sounds ... that is INAPROPRIATE on ANY age level ... I get that you really like this ... | |
| So Complicated! | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Dan and I'm a senior in high school. For the past few months, I've started to ... A: it's just so hard for a girl to loose her best (guy) friend because then you just start thinking ... | |
| Depression | 11/12/2006 |
| Q: Ok let me start off... im overweight and dont eat any lunch at all barely eat breakfast or dinner ... A: hey there you go I'm really happy to hear you say that plus here's a little seceret you don't need a ... | |
| Hey | 11/9/2006 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend is thinking about going back out with me.. We had been dating for almost 2 ... A: first of all you are not alone there are many people that are in similar situations, how do you know ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: Okay, this might be a little confusing. I dated this guy for 1 year and 5 months. He was 7 years ... A: hey I answered a question about your ex-boyfriend a while back and was just seeing how everything ... | |
| help | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: hey, i went out with this boy a year ago and my parents made me break up with him well its because ... A: well would your parents be okay if you talk to him not date him ... the question you have to ask ... | |
| help | 10/26/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ... A: I guess the question is how much do you care/love her because she is obviously going through a lot ... | |
| i think im pregnant | 10/19/2006 |
| Q: ok i think im pregnant and i dont want to have this baby my family is so strict im scared for my ... A: First of all you are NOT alone ... and as far as the guy is concerned you can always request he pays ... | |
| how do i talk to people | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: how do i talk to people i am very shy and not popular A: Sorry it took me so long to reply ... Find out what you like for instance if you like poetry join a ... | |
| parents dissaproval | 10/15/2006 |
| Q: Im 14 years old and i feel that my parents expectations for who i shold be are totally wrong. im ... A: Sorry it took me awhile to reply I didn't recieve this question until later ... they are just trying ... | |
| what do I do when my boyfriend won't sit with me? | 10/12/2006 |
| Q: I have a problem today at lunch my boyfriend did not sit with me and he sat with my cousin do I have ... A: Does he usually sit with you like everyday if so then I would let it go I mean EVERYONE has one of ... | |
| menstruation | 10/10/2006 |
| Q: is there any pain when girls menstruate? A: Yes there can be pain when you menstruate it's just part of being a woman and it varies how long the ... | |
| [i'm not really sure if this is in your category] how do i know if he really likes me? | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: i'm not really sure if this is in your category, but i triedd asking it in the other category but ... A: If you really think he's a player than maybe it's a good thing not to go out with him, but I would ... | |
| How to Deal With... | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right person to ask, but I don't know what to consider it and didn't ... A: hey just wanted to see what you decided to do | |
| help. | 8/28/2006 |
| Q: i like my friends cousin. i dont know what to do. he knows i like him and im pretty sure he likes me ... A: there is no real seceret way or solution, but if you want to call him you do not need PERMISSION to ... | |
| Boyfriend | 8/15/2006 |
| Q: I have This Boyfriend, and boys keep asking me out and I say yes. And another thing, I havent seen ... A: first i would re-evaluate myself ... it seems that you are going from boy to boy just having fun ... | |
| boyfriend | 8/12/2006 |
| Q: I am 15 years old and i have a bf who is 17. my mom and dad dont know about him because i know they ... A: first off why was he banned ... if it was a legitament reason then you need to talk to your parents ... | |
| please help me | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: Okay so I was dating Israel, a few days ago we went the fair in Bervard, and well he gave me a kiss. ... A: you are a strong independt woman who doesn't need a guy clouding your judgement if he doesn't trust ... | |
| boyfriend related | 7/20/2006 |
| Q: My question is involves my ex-boyfriend we have gone out 3 times and the last time we went out was ... A: you don't need that drama in your life ... if he does not TRUST you than that's HIS problem not ... | |
| back stabbing best friend | 6/26/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend Lane Just dumped me and i needed some emotional support so i went to my best friend ... A: in your situation I would DEF give your friend the benefit of the doubt if she purposely was strying ... | |
| Confused about my feelings | 6/3/2006 |
| Q: My name is Nick and I'm 17 years old. I only have a few days left of junior year, but this past ... A: Do you hangout outside of class and such and if so like how often cuz what you could do is start ... | |
| sex | 5/30/2006 |
| Q: ok..umm..im 16 yrs old..i was going out with this girl 2 years ago..on and off...i was 15 she was ... A: messing around is one thing but sex is a big NO NO! First of all you are not of legal age and if ... | |
| sex | 5/15/2006 |
| Q: im 18 and well my girlfriend says we should have oral sex i have only done it once with her but ... A: Definitly tell her you just aren't ready for that but just tell her your not ready for sex I mean ... | |
| menatl illness | 3/16/2006 |
| Q: hey i was wondering if you could answer my question how might mental illess in youth have an ... A: mental illness can affect the youth and the community in many ways but it also depends on what kinda ... | |
| Teaching o security | 1/31/2006 |
| Q: I am a venezuelan man (42) who worked as a firefighter for 25 years. Now I am retired and want to ... A: I would teach if I were you because being a firegihter and working in industries are more related ... | |
| 14yr old daughter | 11/1/2005 |
| Q: ok. where do i start, the problems i am dealing with at present is that i am aware my daughter has ... A: I would have her read the book called "a million little pieces" by James Frey and it will help a lot ... | |
| hey | 9/22/2005 |
| Q: hey im 16 and sometimes i just dont know how to talk to ppl. im friends with this new girl at ... A: first of all make sure that you are not necessarily hanging out with certain people just to impress ... | |
| a angry teenage son | 8/16/2005 |
| Q: MY SON IS 15 SOON TO BE 16 IN OCT. HE IS STRUGGLING WITH SOMETHING BUT WILL NOT TALK. I HAVE BEEN ... A: Well he is not going to want to talk to you, and with the divorce probably feels more and more ... | |
| hello dear It's been a long... | 6/24/2005 |
| Q: It's been a long time that I have had a problem trying to solve but I have not been able to omit it ... A: Well first of all know that you are def NOT the only one that feels this way ya know, and actually ... | |
| big problem | 9/14/2004 |
| Q: I have a 16 yr old stepson, who gets fairly good grades. However, we found out that he had been ... A: a while back you messaged me and I just wanted to message you back asking you how you were and how ... | |
| how to stay sane? | 12/18/2003 |
| Q: how to stay sane? --- I noticed that lately it is difficult for me to stay sane with all the ... A: hey a while ago you messaged me asking how to stay sane and I just wanted to message you back and ... | |
| student/teacher relationships | 12/16/2003 |
| Q: student/teacher relationships --- I a 23 y/o white male, very handsome student and many women like ... A: hey a while ago you talk to me about a teacher/student relationship issue and was just wondering how ... | |
| I wanna help, but people use me :( | 12/13/2003 |
| Q: I wanna help, but people use me :( --- I noticed a strange fact about me and other people. I have a ... A: a while back you asked me about people using you for your kindess ... hey I know that you want to ... | |
| What is a normal level of anxiety at work? | 12/10/2003 |
| Q: What is a normal level of anxiety at work? I dont want to look too anxious and afraid to loose a job ... A: hey a while back you were talking about having anxiety at work and was just wondering how you were ... | |
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