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About Pastor Don Carpenter
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Expertise
I am a father of four and a Baptist Pastor. Before becoming a senior pastor, I was a youth pastor and worker for over 10 years. If you ask this volunteer a question, you will get the benifit of 20 + years experience in the ministry and the counsel of the Bible, God`s perfect book. Feel free to ask any Biblical or moral questions.

Experience
I have been involved in pastoral type counseling for 20+ years. Most of my experience has been with chemical addiction, crisis intervention, and some types of severe mental illness. I have some secular training in those areas as well as a Bible College degree.

Organizations
Evangelical Baptist Church

Publications
Revival Baptist Chronicles
The Fundamental Baptist Voice

Education/Credentials
BS in Bible from Baptist Bible College in CLarks Summit PA
Various training seminars in, Co-occuring disorders, treatment of those who have been sexually abused, and Solution Focused Therapy.

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Questions Answered By Expert Pastor Don Carpenter
In Category Teenage Problems

Subject	Date Asked

Teenage Son	11/10/2008
Q: I'm trying to figure out what to do with my 15-yr-old son. He lies...about little things as well as ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. You hit the nail on the head in your post. Your problem is ...
Troubles with pre teen	11/2/2008
Q: For about 6 months, now, our 12 year old daughter does nothing but argue with myself, her dad, ... A: Hi Judy, Thanks for this great question. I am very sorry for my late response. Things at church ...
Chameleon	10/31/2008
Q: right? I beg to differ. When I became a freshman I was exhilarated at the thought of being in a ... A: I am very sorry for my very late response. It sounds like you are going through normal feelings of ...
What is my sexual orientation?	10/28/2008
Q: Please do not delete this question,I seriously and desperately need help.I'm only 13 and I need a ... A: I can see that you are really struggling,. I am very sorry for my late response. I am going to ...
Late puberty?	10/26/2008
Q: I'm 13 and 14 very soon. I still don't have any pubic hair, and my knob looks really small. I've got ... A: I am not a doctor, but I have seen teen boys develop anywhere between 13-15. Do not panic yet. The ...
Video Games and Addiction	10/23/2008
Q: For starters I am a 14 year old boy going through many tough times with myself, my family, and ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. There are many things I could tell you, but I believe that ...
parents fighting	10/21/2008
Q: i may be only 12 years old but im smart when it comes to most things the past like 6 months i have ... A: I am sorry for my late response and I am sorry that you are going though this. Here are several ...
virginity and God	10/19/2008
Q: My name is wil, im 15 and i have decided to remain a virgin till marriage, I also dont want oral ... A: God can and will give you the perfect woman if you follow Him. It may not be JUST by being a ...
12 year old son	10/18/2008
Q: I have a 12 year old boy that is so smart it scares me at times. My son has always been so good, ... A: I am very sorry for what you are going through. Your son as officially hit his rebellious stage in ...
Feeling humiliated	10/15/2008
Q: I an 18 yr old female (turning 19 in Feb next year). I told my parents yesterday that I have a ... A: I am sorry for my late response. It is difficult for me to give you specific answers here, but I ...
my teen daughter needs help	10/12/2008
Q: my teen daughter lives with her dad for 9 years, he left me when i was pregant with my son the ... A: I am very sorry for my late resposne. I will try to help, but my expertise rests more upon ...
My 16 year old daughter	10/9/2008
Q: She has been caught in several lies in the last 4-6 months. Ever since she started working at ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I am sorry for thie sorrow that you must endure for now. ...
virginity and God	10/8/2008
Q: My name is wil, im 15 and i have decided to remain a virgin till marriage, I also dont want oral ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. You are absolutely right to remain a virgin until marriage. ...
hello	10/7/2008
Q: the problem with me is that i for unfounded reasons, feel that people are ignoring me, they wish to ... A: I am sorry for my very late response. I have talked with young people who are struggling with the ...
My calling	10/7/2008
Q: I feel that God has called me to help the world corruption and people via helping people respect ... A: This is a noble calling. I do believe that you should help people discover this same conviction. ...
staying quiet when a stranger's in trouble	10/2/2008
Q: Hey. I'm 16 and a junior in high school. In one of my classes, two guys beside me talk about ... A: I would suggest that you talk to the guidence counsellor about this. They are trained for this kind ...
Parental rights	9/30/2008
Q: I am from the state of Maryland but now I live in Arizona due to being in the military. My ... A: I am a Bible expert, not a legal one. I do know that in many states, a minor is still under the ...
13 yr old son if afraid of everything	9/28/2008
Q: My 13 yr old son worries about everything and if fearful of alot. I am afraid he wont be able to ... A: The first thing that I would suggest is that he develop a personal relationship with God. Yes, he ...
friends and girlfriends	9/27/2008
Q: i am fifteen years old guy, i am the only boy and my parents expect a lot from me. my parents are ... A: Let me remind you of what the Bible teaches: Proverbs 4:1-4 Hear, ye children, the instruction of ...
Beautiful liar	9/26/2008
Q: We have a 17 year old daughter. We are Christians and we try to teach her God's. She is a pretty ... A: You have quite a challenge on your hands. I think that the first thing that you must understand is ...
Paranoia	9/25/2008
Q: I am suffering from paranoia. I once had a friend who I thought was reliable and trustworthy. But ... A: I am sorry for your suffering. I strongly recommend that you talk to your pastor. He can help you ...
Helping sexually abused teen girls	9/14/2008
Q: I hope that you can help me. I work at our church with the teens. I drive the church van and pick ... A: These folks are very fragile. If you get into this area of their lives, they are very exposed. If ...
Step-Dad Problems	9/12/2008
Q: My name is Jeff and I'm seeking advice on what to do in a very complicated situation. I began dating ... A: I guess that you really do face a challenge. My only thought is for you to be consistant in your ...
God	9/3/2008
Q: I have a question. I feel like im going through a lot right now, and I really need to talk to God ... A: If you have truely trusted Jesus as the only way to heaven, asking Him to save you like your friend ...
parent jealousy	9/1/2008
Q: I've read a lot about teen jealousy...but what about parental jealousy? I'm dealing with adults who ... A: I am very sorry for the difficulty that you and your son are enduring. I have been involved in ...
spanking	8/29/2008
Q: I feel really guilty about something I said to my mom today. Even though I'm 14 and haven't been ... A: You are not wierd for feeling this way. You are actually in a good place to be that sensitive. You ...
My Best Friend	8/26/2008
Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and my best friend's 13 years old, too. After summer, we're gonna be in grade ... A: Next time you can spare me the graphic details... thanks. YOur friend is enslaved to the sin of ...
My 18 year old son	8/23/2008
Q: I have the similar 18 year old as in the letter on your website. Just found out he's been taking my ... A: I am sorry for your trouble. You are taking the correct action. Even older teens need to ...
Problem with Marrage	8/19/2008
Q: My name is Kayla I am 18 years old and I'm a wife and a mother. I know I'm young. But anyways I am ... A: I am very sorry for the bad time that you are having. It has been my experience, that you can smell ...
confused	8/15/2008
Q: I'm 15, and I always thought of myself as the more responsible one, even though i'm the youngest in ... A: There are a few things that I can tell you as a father of three daughters myself. 1. Unless your ...
Isolated	8/7/2008
Q: For the past few years I've been feeling quite depressed. My parents are more than "overprotective". ... A: I have 4 kids myself. I have heard the same kind of complaints from my youngest daughter as well. ...
FRIENDS	8/5/2008
Q: I have a lot of good friends, but then you have some REALLY good friends, yet they do things which ... A: The first thing that you need to do is to confront him directly. Get his sin out in the open and ...
bad relationship	8/4/2008
Q: This is a long one but I need to give you the background. This problem started with my daughter ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. This is a matter of boundaries. Your daughter is an adult ...
Family	8/4/2008
Q: My name is Rae and I am having family problems... I have 3 siblings one brother (james) and two ... A: I am sorry for this late response. I am sorry for this bad situation that you find yourself in. I ...
Finacial Debt!!	8/2/2008
Q: I am only 17 years old and I am in way over my head already. The car that my mom gave me when I was ... A: I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. Certainly God could deliver you ...
daughter 20	7/21/2008
Q: Our daughter lives with us, she has continued to choose friends that aren't going down the right ... A: I am sorry for my late response. Your daughter is a young adult and needs to start to feel adult ...
Oral sex	7/16/2008
Q: I know you have answered this question but it was about married couples. Is oral sex considered sex ... A: Biblically speaking the way to avoid the sin of fornication is not to touch each other at all before ...
running away	7/11/2008
Q: recently me and my girlfriend were caught sneaking out of our houses to spend some time together but ... A: I am sorry for my late response. I do not know how old you are. This would make a difference. I ...
Angie	7/10/2008
Q: How old is too old to be spanked? A: I do not read in the Bible a specific cut off age where this is no longer a good method of ...
teenage pregnacy	7/5/2008
Q: I am the mother of 16 yr old boy. we have just found out he has been experimenting with marijuana ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. It is important to understand the two ways that kids can ...
I need to ask you something.	6/30/2008
Q: I don't really know much about God and the bible so i want to find a way how i can combine myself to ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. Start with what you know. Read the Bible, pray, serve in ...
masturbation	6/24/2008
Q: im 14 and i have this problem that b4 i go to be i must masturbate about 2 times otherwise i cant ... A: I am sorry for my late response. First of all, this desire is a normal part of your flesh. I have ...
being 18	6/22/2008
Q: how much freedom do you allow your 18 year graduate before she leaves for college? we've certainly ... A: Just so you know I have an 18 and a 19 year old daughter.... I feel your pain! We have made the ...
sister was molested	6/21/2008
Q: I am 20 years old. My sister is 19 years old. Over the past 8 years or so we have had a very rocky ... A: I am so sorry that I am late in my response. I am sorry for what you and your sister are going ...
I feel like i am a loser	6/13/2008
Q: Hey Pastor, i was just wondering if you could help me out with a problem that i am having. You see ... A: I am so glad that you are into the combat sports! I am 44 and I am training for my first MMA fight. ...
my 21 year old son	6/11/2008
Q: My son just turned 21, he's been loved all his life, we go to church, his grades in college are bad, ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. Here a a few things to consider: 1. Perhaps your son needs ...
A guy I met.	6/9/2008
Q: I'm 17 years old. I know I'm still young but I've been through a lot. My parents separating and a ... A: You are right just because he has a baby, this is not a deal breaker.... but it is a warning. You ...
Graduation	6/9/2008
Q: I'm having some problems. I'm a senior and graudating. I'm going to college in the fall (about an ... A: I am sorry for this late response. Change stinks sometimes. It is a hard process of life, but we ...
Crushes	6/8/2008
Q: I have a crush on a guy and its not like I am obsessing over it or every taking more time to think ... A: It is not wrong to have a crush on someone unless there are any of the following things that are ...
Dating A Non-Christian	6/7/2008
Q: Ok, so there is a girl in my class that I have liked for a couple of years. I really want to ask her ... A: The most important thaning is that she is a born again Christian. If you are and she is not, you ...
Me being myself	6/5/2008
Q: I am a 17 year old daughter of a controlling mother. Recently, I asked my mom if I could dye my ... A: I am sorry for my late response. I suggest that you cut your mom some slack. Very soon you will be ...
PRIVACY	5/29/2008
Q: I was wondering would you please tell me: why do my parents just walk into my room if I'm working ... A: There are several reasons for this behavior. I will list some of them below. As a child, you do ...
The girl that wont go away	5/21/2008
Q: Hey I need help with a situation that I am currently in. You see there is this girl at my church ... A: You cannot control how she will respond. You cannot prevent every heart ache. You can be merciful ...
Teenage Boys going to prison for having sex.	5/15/2008
Q: I want to share with you some very important info. Please if this will help anyone else...please ... A: You can choose your sin but you cannot choose your consequences. I will use this story to warn ...
my boyfriend	5/4/2008
Q: my boyfriend and i have been togather for awhile and everytime i call him he says call me back ... A: It sounds like your mother is simply trying to protect you. Do not be upset with ehr. It also ...
Child molestation	4/25/2008
Q: I was reading about some priests who had sex with children. Many people are shocked by this, and ... A: Do not open that door! I understand that your desire to have sex is blinding, but do not feed that! ...
communism	4/17/2008
Q: good day pastor don. please don't go sick at me for this. but i think theres communists on my ... A: I am not a fan of communism, but there are many people on this planet whith whom I disagree. THere ...
RELATIONSHIP/STEP DAUGHTER?	4/12/2008
Q: Lately over the past month my husband and I seem to be very distant. We have been married for 4 yrs ... A: I am very sorry for my slow response. It is very difficult to give you what you need in this post, ...
The main problem is me!?!?	4/12/2008
Q: I'll start from the scratch as there's lot to talk about.I'm a 15 year old girl from India.There's ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I am also sorry that you are having such a rough time at ...
its complicated	4/10/2008
Q: What I need advice on is really kind of complicated..I'm not even sure if I can get "help" or ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I strongly suggest that you speak with a pastor or a ...
father cheating	4/6/2008
Q: I think my dad might me cheating on my mom. I have read several text messages all from the same ... A: I am very sorry for this late response. Here is a passage to consider: Proverbs 27:5-6 5 Open ...
age difference morals	3/26/2008
Q: "I am a 16 year old girl and I work at an anonymous bussiness and in my state 16 is the legal age of ... A: I am sorry for the decision that you have made to have sex outside the holy bond of marriage. I can ...
does he love me	3/18/2008
Q: i am 16.my prob is that i hav a bf who i have been wit about 6 mons,he is really older than me and i ... A: I can think of two Bible principles that will help you with this situation: 1. It is impossible to ...
relatives prob	3/14/2008
Q: i'm not sure tht my question wud fall in this category but i cudn't find any other. i'm 17yrs ... A: I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. There are a few things that I can tell ...
A Problem =(	3/14/2008
Q: I have a problem, im not sure if this is the right area to be asking it in but, Im 16 almost 17, and ... A: Have you asked your parents about this? Do you have financial responsability at this point? It ...
I am in love w/ my bestfriend	3/11/2008
Q: WEll I AM 14 TURNING 15 IN A COUPLE OF MONTHS. MY PROBLEM IS A LONG STORY BUT I'LL MAKE IT SHORT. I ... A: I think that I have a few things that may help you. 1. You are young. You do not need to consider ...
please help me at this crucial stage	3/6/2008
Q: Goodday sir, well ill say that i was pretty smart wheni was entering junior high. i mean i came ... A: I will give you some advice by giving you a few verses of scripture to consider: Psalm 1:1-3 ...
my girlfriend is gone	3/5/2008
Q: Im seriously still balling right now so bear with me. Me and my girlfriend met at work 2 years ago, ... A: I am vewry sorry for my late response. I have been sick and it has been hard to get caught up with ...
God? Science?	3/4/2008
Q: Ok I've been pondering around for the past couple months on the subject of God. I have a problem ... A: I am very sorry for my late response, but I have been sick in bed for a whole week. Let me start by ...
New Brother..	2/16/2008
Q: Don, My mom is pregnant, and she is due in 3 days. I'm 15, and my brother is 17, and then there will ... A: Congratulations on the soon arrival of a new baby in the family! This is not about you, it is about ...
Question	1/27/2008
Q: I had a question about God. I have been trying to talk to God and maybe get him to help me with some ... A: There are a couple of things to keep in mind about prayer. 1. You need to have trusted Jesus as ...
anger	1/8/2008
Q: My 15 year old brother has severe anger problems. If someone says something that he doesn't like or ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I am also sorry for what you are going through. It seems to ...
questions on mastubation	1/2/2008
Q: is masturbation a sin ? is taking smooch a sin? A: I am not sure what taking smooch is, so I cannot answer that one. As for masturbation, I do believe ...
Sex	1/1/2008
Q: First off let me say that i haven't always been a Christian, i never really knew god or Jesus until ... A: I have several things for you to consider: 1. If you have trusted Jesus to save you from sin, then ...
Boyfriend problems	12/27/2007
Q: I am 12 years old in seventh grade and I have a boyfriend and He was perfect for me and he called me ... A: I am sorry for this late response. It is hard for me to tell you exactly what to do or think in ...
rebellious pre-teen	12/11/2007
Q: I have a 12 yo son that told me yesterday that when he turns 18, he will not go to church or even ... A: I have 4 kids, one that has already turned 18, one that is about to, and two other teenagers. It is ...
teenage boyfriends	12/5/2007
Q: I am 12 year old, in seventh standard, I had a boy friend but now i broke up with him, now we are ... A: I do not believe that it is wise for a 12 year old to date like this. You are much to young to get ...
I need help with a step-son	11/24/2007
Q: My husband and I have been married 2 years. My twin step-son's mother passed away a little over 3 ... A: I am sorry for my late response. I am afraid that I do not have anything revolutionary or new to ...
About my girlfriends issue with her parents	11/19/2007
Q: My name is Andrew and I have a question. My background is simple. My dads a pastor in a baptist ... A: I am going to share a scripture passage with you then give you my perspective on your situation. ...
MY FRIEND	11/17/2007
Q: How do I tell my friend that is a boy to get me out of his life??????? A: You need to talk to this boy directly and honestly. If you do not wish to be his girlfriend, you ...
My son lies and steals from me	11/15/2007
Q: My son, 18 since Friday, still lies to me and I just caught him stealing money. We have had a lot of ... A: I am sorry that you are going through this and I am sorry for my late response. I am afraid that I ...
teenage son	11/11/2007
Q: I am worried about my 18 year old son who is a senior in high school. He has been a wonderful son. ... A: THere is no magic formula for this situation. I can give you a little direction, but I am not sure ...
dating	11/11/2007
Q: Hey! I'm a 17 year old senior in high school. I've been good friends with a guy from my church for ... A: I can see that you have a pretty good head on your shoulders, and you have a wise friend and a wise ...
Running away?	11/8/2007
Q: Hey there, my name is Kristen and I'm 19 years old. So, this is a long story, bear with me. For ... A: Here is a verse that applies to your mom and step dad. 1 Timothy 5:8 8 But if any provide not for ...
girl	11/6/2007
Q: I want a girlfriend but I don't know how to get one. What should I do? A: I have been where you are! This is a great chance to grow in your prayer life. Claim the following ...
Teenager...myspace....	11/6/2007
Q: Pastor, My wife raised my step-daughter until she was 10, then we met and married. I have treated ... A: Here are a few verses to consider: Ephesians 4:26 26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go ...
Teenage runaway	11/2/2007
Q: I have a 16 year old daughter. Has runaway from home 2 times. What kind of discipline or ... A: According to Galatians 6:7-9 you are absolutely right. There needs to be consequences for these ...
advice	10/26/2007
Q: ok so i am 14 and really like this girl we go to a different school but tothe same church she likes ... A: My strong advice for you is if you want a future with her, build a great friendship now, don't try ...
Single Parentling my 15 year old	10/13/2007
Q: My son started out to be a tremendous kid and still is but he somehow has gotten off the beaten ... A: I am sorry for my late response. I do not have an immediate or simple solution for you, but I think ...
Rebellios teen in love	10/10/2007
Q: I have a 16 year old son who is the third child in the family. We are a conservative Christian ... A: I am afraid that I do not ahave an easy answer for you. I can say that I have experienced the teen ...
i cant talk to her and should i	9/28/2007
Q: i have 1 question and 1 dialema. theres this 1 girl i see every time i move from class to class and ... A: I am sorry for what you are going through. This is all part of growing up, and sometimes it stinks. ...
How do I ask him to go to the dance with me?	9/27/2007
Q: I like this guy who is really funny and nice. His close friend says he likes me. I REALLY like him. ... A: First of all, I was going to tell you that in 7th grade... YOU ARE TOO YOUNG! But, you already ...
why do we need love?	9/23/2007
Q: Love. Why do we need it? Other than relatives'/friends' love, why do we fall in love with other ... A: The answer may suprise you. As far as romantic love, you do not NEED it. Some people have been ...
witnessing	9/19/2007
Q: How do I witness to a muslum? How do I witness to someone who doesn't believe Jesus is God? Do you ... A: Hey there BUG! Witnessing to a Muslum or a non-Christian is very similar to witnessing to a owrk's ...
My Teen was Stealing	9/16/2007
Q: Today my Teen (15years) was caught stealing, and need a court hearing. I asked why he was stealing ... A: I am very sorry for what you are going through. You do not need to know WHY your son steals. He ...
i cant talk to her and should i	9/9/2007
Q: i have 1 question and 1 dialema. theres this 1 girl i see every time i move from class to class and ... A: Let me answer both of them for you. First of all, the best way to get close to someone is simply to ...
guys/dates	9/6/2007
Q: how do i get a guy 2 ask me out??? i really like this guy & we met over the summer. it seemed like ... A: I do not have a magic formula for dating.... I suppose if I did, I would be rich! What you need as a ...
having promblem	8/13/2007
Q: will there this man that oder than me he lyk me and so do i but he was in this car that told me to ... A: I am glad that you did not get in the car with this older man. You never know if you will be safe ...
boy troubless...	8/12/2007
Q: okay. so this guy asked me out. i have never had a boyfriend before or kissed anyone. but i didn't ... A: You are feeling some very normal feelings. It seems as though you are very curious about ...
leaving/cooperation/compromise help ASAP!	8/11/2007
Q: But uvalde is the first town that i can say I grew up in even though I've only lived here for about ... A: I am sorry to hear about your troubles. Life is not always fair. The hard reality is that if you ...
i dont know what to do about my mom	8/10/2007
Q: ok since fifth grade its been getting worse and i just need help my mom does drink and when she ... A: I am very sorry for what you are going through. You did not say how old you are now. There are a ...
my mind iz blank????	8/9/2007
Q: what can i tell my boyfriend how i feel about him....1 iz i lyk u and luv u but i need more please ... A: I think that the best way to approach this is to be honest and tell him exactly what you are feeling ...
Dating Problem.	8/7/2007
Q: My name is Chris, and I needed some help on something. I was dating my girlfriend for 11 months, ... A: I think that your girlfriend is actually on to something here. Not that a mate will drop out of the ...
Anxiety	8/4/2007
Q: I am a 16 year old christian girl who has extreme issues with anxiety. I pray often about it, but i ... A: First of all, let me remind you that I am a pastor, not a doctor or a psychologist. Perhaps one of ...
Problems with Teen Son/Father - Divorce.	7/24/2007
Q: This is a somewhat lengthy question, because I must give a little background, or you won't ... A: Praise the Lord for how things worked out! I believe that we should not be afraid of acting like ...
Problems with Teen Son/Father - Divorce.	7/20/2007
Q: This is a somewhat lengthy question, because I must give a little background, or you won't ... A: Here are some scriptures to consider: Pro 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man ...
love	7/17/2007
Q: but i cannot forget him what can i do? ANSWER: Hi Goku, I am very sorry for my late response. I ... A: I wonder, did she know you loved her? How could she know if you never spoke a word? We may think ...
I don't know how long I can hold us.. :'(	7/9/2007
Q: I am 18 and my girlfriend, Holly is 17. We've been together for almost 4 months and things are ... A: I am so very sorry for my late response. It was vacation Bible School week.... an insane schedule! ...
wat do i do?	6/16/2007
Q: see me & my ex girlfriend got in2 problems & we broke ^ after goin out for about almost 1 year & 1/2 ... A: There are a lot of unknowns here. I cannot predict the future for you but I can make some ...
HELP	6/14/2007
Q: well....me and my girlfriend has been together for about a year and a half and she just became ... A: You asked me, so I am going to give you what I believe the Bible teaches without sugar coating it. ...
Depression	6/10/2007
Q: .. There is really no way to explain this with just a couple of sentences. Sorry it's so long: My ... A: It seems as though you are doing what you need to do at this time. Key in on what the Doctor says. ...
my son is viewing gay websites	6/10/2007
Q: Last year I found that someone had been visiting gay male porn sites. I confronted my children and ... A: I am sorry that you and your son are going through such a trial. I have several suggestions for ...
my son is stealing from family members	6/10/2007
Q: My son has been stealing from family members, me, and his little sister. I have also noticed things ... A: I am very sorry that you are going through this trial. I am very sorry for this late response. I ...
Need Parents Trust Back	6/3/2007
Q: Iv ben in loads of trouble with my parrents at the moment and they dont trust me.. what can i do to ... A: Thnks for this honest and heart felt question. I tell my kids, "Forgiveness is commanded, trust is ...
OVERPROTECTIVE	6/1/2007
Q: Would you please tell my why that some families are overprotective and some families aren't? ... A: I am sorry that it has taken me so long to respond to you. I find your choice of words interesting. ...
please help	5/29/2007
Q: I have never really felt the need to get myspace or other such sites because i dont think they are ... A: Do not let your friends pressure you into things that you do not really want to do. As for My ...
emancipation	5/29/2007
Q: i am 17 and currently living with my mother and my older sister and younger brother. Every day i am ... A: I am very sorry that you are having a difficult time in your home. Remember, you cannot choose what ...
Forgiveness Question...	5/15/2007
Q: I am 16 and I have a question cause I am currently torn something. Right now, I would consider ... A: Most churches that I know of would welcome you back to the truth. I would like to caution you ...
Help with boyfriend	5/7/2007
Q: Hey. My name is Simone and I have a boyfriend named Davo and we have been going out for 2 months. I ... A: My advice to you is.... SLOW DOWN! It sounds like you like him enough... relax. Let things ...
13 year old out of control	4/22/2007
Q: I am the mother of a 13 and 14 year girl. My 13 yr old has many friends that go out without ... A: I am a parent of 4 teenagers, 3 daughters and a son. I believe that they all have endured their ...
adopted	4/10/2007
Q: Hey, I need help, my mom sat down with me today and told me that my father isn’t really my real ... A: There is no way that I can fully understand what a mass of twisted emotions you must be feeling ...
school and church	4/5/2007
Q: Mr. Carpenter, My Name is Michael Wayne George. And I Live in a small town with REALLY big ... A: I am so glad that you have a burden for those at your school! Would to God that more teens would ...
love	3/30/2007
Q: So i've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. We love eachother and we truely care about one ... A: Yes these feelings are part of dating and part of growing up. Mature love is reached when you ...
teen baptism	3/29/2007
Q: As a deacon in a Baptist church, I will be meeting with teens who will be baptized this Easter. What ... A: I have met with many teens for that same purpose. I think that the most important thing that you ...
Being judged.	3/26/2007
Q: I am a senior in high school and I am also a black female. I am overweight and I've never been very ... A: I am very sorry that you are going through this hard time. Someone very wise once told me that any ...
help	3/23/2007
Q: in caracas my 14 years old son had an argument at the catholic high school he atends with other boy. ... A: There are several things to consider here. 1. If your son was only hit once, there is not ...
My 16 year old son is lazy.	3/22/2007
Q: He is a great kid... but for many years he just sits in his room and watches tv, not many friends, ... A: Your subject says your son is lazy, but it seems he is not really lazy, but he is private. There is ...
Rebellious teen	3/19/2007
Q: We are having difficulty with our 17 year old daughter who is a good kid, but seems to be going her ... A: My answer to you is simple... YES! She needs consequences! Once a person (child or not) stops ...
my 20 year old son	3/5/2007
Q: I just asked a question about my 21 year old son, now for my 20 year old son, Steven. Steven who ... A: I believe that the answer to the last question also applies here. I do think that your husband is ...
21 year old son what to do	3/4/2007
Q: We have a 21 year old son, who right now is being lazy in the job area, always volunteering as emt ... A: The short answer to your question is YES you should stop paying them. Now let me give you a few ...
needed to hear what a parent thinks	3/2/2007
Q: My parents are completely out of control. I am 20 years old, a sophomore in college. I take a full ... A: I am a father of 4 and my oldest is in college at NYU right now.... sometimes I get scared for her ...
net frrnd	2/20/2007
Q: i wanted to discuss some things abt this net friend that i have.i'm 15 and he's 16. he's frm my ... A: and I am sorry for this late response. You are engaged in a very dangerous activity. You have no ...
Argument	2/18/2007
Q: I really want to get an account on MySpac* (I'm 14, by the way), but my parents won't let me because ... A: You are very lucky to have parents who care enough about you to tell you no on some things. My ...
I am in so deep!	2/17/2007
Q: Okay, I may have sent you the question regarding how to ask this guy that I like if he wants to ... A: You are facing the same agony with interpersonal and budding romantic relationships that many kids ...
nothings the same	1/21/2007
Q: hey.. I'm 16 and i am usually a very happy and funny girl and very socialistic to others.. i have a ... A: Based on your letter, I do have some advice and observations for you to consider. 1. Friends often ...
fakefriends	1/20/2007
Q: I have a problem that in my first mod class that theres this girl that I use to be really good ... A: I am so sorry that this is such a late response. I do not have a specific answer to this complex ...
help	1/19/2007
Q: i do pray a lot. sometimes i just go out to my terrace and talk to to the stars,to God. but i get no ... A: Prayer is one way to help your depression, you can also emply Bible reading and fellowship. 1. The ...
help	1/14/2007
Q: i'm 15(female) and terribly depressed.reasons?here u go 1)since the past two years i've been losing ... A: There are two kinds of depression. There is environmental, something in your life definitely caused ...
please help	1/5/2007
Q: I am a 14 year old girl, in year 10 at school who has always wanted to succeed in exams, and my ... A: I am sorry for this late response. Growing up is not easy. I do not have any easy solutions for ...
Concerned about a 14 yr old	1/3/2007
Q: yet rather some advice on a problem that my friend Ana is having with her daughter; below I am ... A: Cutting is becoming more and more common among teen aged girls. Although I am not a psychology ...
17 year teen girl with attitude	1/3/2007
Q: My daughter just turned 17 and makes straight A's,. For years we have been dealing with a ... A: I am so sorry that you are going through this valley. I will be prayying for you. Your daughter ...
hello	12/31/2006
Q: o, and another thing, what is the reason for me being the way i am. i cant help what i like and ... A: Do not try to get your sense of self worth based upon what others think or want! GOd made you ...
hello	12/31/2006
Q: First of all, a couple years ago my friends started distancing themselves from me and i eventually ... A: I cannot think of a Bible verse to give you, but I do think that I have some feedback that you could ...
My nephew is OUT OF CONTROL...	12/13/2006
Q: Please help... my nephew is out of control. His early childhood was very traumatic. His mother ... A: My heart goes out to you and your family. This must be very difficult for you all. You are doing ...
Hate this!!	11/21/2006
Q: .lol its kinda hard to explain but yeah i think i look ugly! everyones like oh shes this pretty ... A: I believe that you are experiencing what most teens do regarding your personal feelings about how ...
Fantasies	11/16/2006
Q: I'm a Christian girl and I often have sexual fantasies. I'm only 13 yet I can imagine sex. I've ... A: I am very sorry that it took so long for me to get back to you. I can help you with some of these ...
So Complicated!	11/16/2006
Q: Hey, my name is Dan and I'm a senior in high school. For the past few months, I've started to ... A: I think that I can help you understand what is going on here and how to deal with it. 1. Most ...
Hey	11/15/2006
Q: I am helping out with my youth group and am growing closer to god... Do you have good versus for a ... A: I am so glad that you are growing in your walk with the Lord. I am not sure exactly what kind of ...
Hey	11/9/2006
Q: My ex girlfriend is thinking about going back out with me.. We had been dating for almost 2 ... A: If you want her to know that you want to get back with her.... tell her! Do not resort to pinching ...
Tolo?	11/2/2006
Q: I had a crush on Jesse all last year. He graduated this past June, while I entered my Junior year ... A: There really is not a Bible verse or passage that I can point to to help you here, but I can give ...
help	10/26/2006
Q: My girlfriend and I recently took a break in our relationship... A few days ago things were going ... A: It sounds as if your girlfriend has had a lot of trama in her life and needs a little time and space ...
Living with a stressful brother	10/25/2006
Q: I'm not a teen mother but I might as well be. My 17 year old younger brother moved in with me about ... A: I have had many questions very similar to yours in the past. I have found several truths that will ...
Labelling Religion	10/16/2006
Q: I was bought up Catholic but I have never crossed myself entering holy rooms or places, never prayed ... A: I am not sure where to start. Let me begin by answering your question about a lable. In our ...
I deserve to b a CHRISTIAN???	10/9/2006
Q: again i write a mail to you cuz I'm facing some problems in my life.As you can see from the ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I have been very sick from a tick bite and I missed about a ...
Confused	10/2/2006
Q: I come from a very religous family with head strong beliefs. However, as a teen going through ... A: It is healthy to ask questions like this as long as you find answers. One thing that I have found ...
parenting	9/24/2006
Q: I really need some advice, I am a mother of three children, thier ages are 17,13,and 8. I am writing ... A: There are two ways that children can be motivated to change their behavior. They can learn and ...
talk to my daughter about being gay	9/21/2006
Q: I think my 15 year old daughter is a lesbian and afraid to tell me. I love my daughter and what to ... A: There are several things that you should communicate to her. 1. Your love for her is, always has ...
relationships	8/25/2006
Q: Okay thanks for the response it was really great! But i have another question...you said "do not ... A: Yes, I believe that is exactly what the Bible is teaching. Touch in the Greek means... touch! ...
What should i do?	8/22/2006
Q: it seems like you know what your stuff so i hope you can help me out. I was in a car accident in ... A: I think that you should do whatever your doctor and your parents think is best for your physical ...
relationships	8/21/2006
Q: Okay hi, I'm pretty glad there is someone like a pastor here, i was more looking for someone who ... A: The first thing that I think you must consider is what do your parents think about YOU dating. Even ...
URGENT!!	7/4/2006
Q: My name is Nicole and I am fifteen I have a serious problem and am wondering what is going on... I ... A: I am not sure what all you did...but if you did not have intercourse, and if he did not get sperm ...
About my faith and fear of death.	6/29/2006
Q: I have a good friend named Ian. Once I became friends with him he and his parents really introduced ... A: If you have asked Jesus to save you and have accepted His free gift for you that He paid for on the ...
my mother and hell	6/12/2006
Q: I'm Michelle and I will be 17 in a few days time. Okay, here is my problem: I'm in no way ... A: I am very sorry for my late response. I am sorry that you are having a conflict with your mother ...
Confused about my feelings	6/3/2006
Q: My name is Nick and I'm 17 years old. I only have a few days left of junior year, but this past ... A: RELAX! Thanks for this great question. It would seem to me that there are the buds of romantic ...
guys	5/2/2006
Q: Everytime i meet an interesting guy that i like and they seem to like me too, they end up avoiding ... A: I think that if I had all the answers on this subject, then I would be a millionaire! I do have ...
SO HAPPY -- PART 2	4/30/2006
Q: I always have a cup of coffee every day and when I do I'm always happy, but If I missed out on ... A: You have a routeen that you like. You are probably also addicted to caffine :) When routeen is ...
ONE WRONG MOVE AFTER ANOTHER	4/27/2006
Q: My son is 15 going on 16 in 2 months and is under house arrest. We have went to 4 court hearings for ... A: I feel for you and your family. These are difficult times for all of you. As I read your post, I ...
what do you think about the church going liberal in order to cater to all levels	4/25/2006
Q: I have seen these days that dressing and socializing among youth has become very liberal in ... A: I am not exactly what you mean by liberal socializing, but I do know that truth and doctrine have ...
Can I be forgiven?	4/22/2006
Q: I have a question and I hope you will be able to help me. I am in my early teens and I am afraid ... A: Let us consider this passage in its entire context: Matthew 12:22-32 22 Then was brought unto him ...
Teenage Pregnancy	4/19/2006
Q: My husband and I are Christians, although in the last few years we have become very slack. Our ... A: I am very sorry for the heart ache that you are experiencing. There is no easy answer to your ...
Getting over him	4/17/2006
Q: The guy I've bee crushing on hard for the last few months asked a girl out a few weeks ago, and they ... A: You are both right and wrong here. You are absolutely correct to believe that you need to replace ...
Do You Have a Problem	4/13/2006
Q: Do you have a problem seeing channels like the discovery channel and national geographic talk about ... A: I do not get too bothered when unbelievers get it wrong on TV. I understand that without the Holy ...
about god and heavin	4/12/2006
Q: NOW ME AND MY FAMILY HAVE THESE DEEP CONVERSATIONS ABOUT GOD AND JESUS AND IVE TRIED TO ASK MY LOCAL ... A: First let me answer your second question... I have no Idea what God was doing before He created ...
Do the age matter?	4/6/2006
Q: Yes I'm 13 but I need a job very bad, but I will not be 14 in'till july 15! Can you help me? A: I am sorry that you are having some trouble gettng jobs. Every area is different with different ...
Conflicting Personalities	4/4/2006
Q: Well This is kind of difficult. I am a junior in high school. However I fall into a very odd ... A: I have good news! You can be the life of the party without sinning! If by partier you mean that ...
i need help	3/29/2006
Q: well okay i have a friend and she has a friend and her friend is looking for his own mariah carey ... A: Interpersonal romantic relationships are complecated and unpredictable, however, I do have some ...
my ex..	3/22/2006
Q: I am 16 years old, I haveant had much of anything that has to do with the whole "boy friend/girl ... A: It is obvious that you are feeling the normal pains of growing up. There are some unstable people ...
teenager "borrowing without permission"	3/12/2006
Q: I have a 17 year old daughter and 15 year old son. My 17 year old daughter will do anything to get ... A: Borrowing without permission is stealing, as you probably know. The consequences for going past ...
Acting shy	3/7/2006
Q: For the last five or six months I've had a bit of an obsessive type crush on this guy. I like him ... A: I think that it may help to understand the reason behind your shyness. You are comfortable on stage ...
family/friends	2/10/2006
Q: I have a really big problem that I would love some help with. I have had a friend who has been by my ... A: I am sorry for this late response. I am also sorry for this mess! There are several things we must ...
teenage daughter	2/2/2006
Q: How do you explain to your 14 yr old daughter that "she I'm not her friends mother - i am hers?" ... A: I have three girls 17, 16, and 12. I feel your pain! Let me first start by saying.... WAY TO ...
Need Advice	1/23/2006
Q: I am nineteen years old, a born-again Christian, and majoring in Youth Ministry. I have a few ... A: I am very sorry that I was not able to answer right away. I hope that these answers will help you. ...
------------------------- ...	1/16/2006
Q: i can't figure this out. who were the mothers of cain and abel's children? thanx Answer - Hi ... A: The way things were before the flood are not the way things are now. It is now wrong for people to ...
dealing with crushes	1/12/2006
Q: Okay, let me give you the short version of the story. Girl meets boy. Girl fall for boy. Boy ... A: I must confess, I have not discovered the deep and dark secrets of teen dating....but I think that I ...
hi. i can't figure this out....	1/10/2006
Q: i can't figure this out. who were the mothers of cain and abel's children? thanx A: Thigs were not then ans they are now. Eve lived over 900 years and during all of those years she ...
My PARENTS!!	1/1/2006
Q: My parents don't want me to talk to boys on my cell phone. They won't let me call my boyfriend or ... A: I understand that you want your freedom and that you feel that your parents just don't get it. ...
A friend	12/19/2005
Q: i am 17. i have become very close to a friend who i have known for a couple of years. she has poured ... A: I am afraid that there is no easy solution to your problem. You must understand that love is not ...
Is it HOLY SPIRIT or EVIL SPIRIT??	12/18/2005
Q: 2nd time i send mail to u...1st of all thanks for the previous mail...it helped a lot... Now im ... A: It is important that we find truth from the Bible, not just our own experiences. If you are a born ...
Teenage problems	12/7/2005
Q: I'm writing because I have a teenage son who is 18 years and seemingly in the last 4 months his ... A: Obviously it is difficult to be absolutely sure what is happening with just your post to go on. ...
Forgiveness/Christianity	12/2/2005
Q: I wanted to know what I've been wondering about for a long time, how do you forgive someone who's ... A: In order to forgive, we need to understand our model for forgiveness. Ephesians 4:32 32 And be ye ...
corporal punishment	11/28/2005
Q: My daughter is a 16 year old high school student in Texas. The school district she attends lets ... A: WOW! I didn't know anyone still did corporal punishment in school. YES! I believe it is right ...
Time spent talking to boys	11/22/2005
Q: My parents are wanting to restrict the amount of time I spend talking boys on my cell phone or on ... A: Let us see what God's word says in this situation: Ephesians 6:1-2 Children, obey your parents in ...
hi, my names noel. recently...	11/13/2005
Q: my names noel. recently school has been really hard for me. i find myself hating basically everyone. ... A: Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus? He can forgive your sins and ease your pain. ...
How to communicate better with the youth teacher	11/10/2005
Q: I find my churh's youth couldn't communicate with the teacher during our fellowship. Maybe we do ... A: I understand exactly where you are at. You are in a difficult situation, but I do have several ...
Problems with son	10/27/2005
Q: I regularly do not do this but my family is going through a crisis right now and I could really use ... A: I can see that you love your son very much. THere is no easy solution to what you are ...
Non Conformity to Societal norms	10/4/2005
Q: I'm currently deployed to Iraq and have a wonderful wife and three children. However, I have one son ... A: There are ways that one's behavior can be modified: 1. One can learn and live. He hears teaching ...
4th grade girls	9/24/2005
Q: We have a group of 4th grade girls at a small private Christian School who have started being very ... A: I am sorry for my late response. You are not alone in facing a culture abduction of our precious ...
Pessimistic	9/2/2005
Q: I have a question about being pessimistic. It turns out I am a pretty pessimistic person when it ... A: I have prayed over this question, and I believe that God has helped me find the answer that you need ...
Band Camp Thing	8/1/2005
Q: Okay. I just got back from camp (it was a week long band camp). And getting right to the point, I ... A: I have one thing to say in response to your letter.... GOOD JOB! Too many teens are casual about ...
Depression	7/13/2005
Q: Goodafternoon Pastor, This is a bit awkward for me asking for adivce, so please forgive me if I ... A: You do not need to fall in love with another girl to fill the aching void in your life. Let me say ...
How can I help my depressed teen?	6/20/2005
Q: My daughter has been going through a very tough time recently. Though she may not be "depressed", ... A: I do not know what you have in your area, but the first place that I would point you is to your ...
masturbating = sin?	6/2/2005
Q: Kinda a question on a site I run. http://brokenangel.sytes.net I'm looking for a theological as well ... A: THere is one kind of sex that God condones and has designed us exclusively for...sex between a ...
Hello	5/20/2005
Q: Hey, This school year I met a girl named Estella she was in my 6th period class "high school" ... A: Sorry for the late response. Welcome to the wonderful mysteries of the female gender! :) I ...
Praying= God won't Hear Me out if I am a sinner	4/22/2005
Q: I heard something like if you are a sinner and you pray God won't hear you out? is that true? Also ... A: There is a Biblical foundation for the idea that we must get right with God in order for Him to be ...
Hi, I don't know if you can...	3/23/2005
Q: I don't know if you can help or not but here's the question... I'm 17 and I own a couple of horses ... A: There are many things that may be going on, but I will try and give you a few Biblical principles. ...
life	3/15/2005
Q: hey brother of god, wow havnt used that for a long time. I want to ask you a simple question. What ... A: Here are the answers to your questions. Your first question can be summed up in the words of King ...
teenager withsingle mom	3/12/2005
Q: My friend has a teenager that has a lot of anger with her mom because of what her dad did to her and ... A: It sounds like your situation is very complecated. First of all you need to go to the Great ...
Oral sex	3/10/2005
Q: Is oral sex concerned sinful within the confines of a marriage? Please provide biblical reference. A: Sex is God's gift to married couples. It is pure and beautiful within the confines of marriage. ...
Religion and Mom	3/6/2005
Q: Since your Baptist I thought I would pose this question to you. I'm fifteen years old, female, and ... A: It seems that you are searching and trying to do the right thing as you understand it.... and this ...
Sick, disgusting dreams.	2/3/2005
Q: Well, I have had a sexual dream involving every member of my family in different times. I have 2 ... A: I am sorry for this late response. Let me first tell you that God is a just God and will not hold ...
life	1/7/2005
Q: recently i have been thinking up wierd stuff and i dont see the point in life anymore, i want to, ... A: First of all you must know that God loves you and wants to do great things through you. John 3:16 ...
I'm trying really hard to get through this...	12/18/2004
Q: my name is Cathy and I am 16 years old. At the moment I am in a serious relationship (6 months) - my ... A: I think that your question comes from a misunderstanding of what true love is....and it is a common ...
Family Problem	12/10/2004
Q: Sorry I made it sound like one. There isn't just one. There is now one with my moms side of the ... A: OK....this does complecate things a bit...but not too much. It would be best to simply go to the ...
guys.... confidence.... so many things!!	11/22/2004
Q: ... i think i really, really need to find a way to increase my self esteem! i.. hate being me. it ... A: It seems like you have been giving this a lot of thought...taking a lot of time to focus on yourself ...
Godly Relationships	10/31/2004
Q: I'm a sophmore in high school and as you know, hormones are raging and relationships happen. but i'm ... A: I have a few old fashioned pieces of advise in this area. 1. Have standards of physical purity ...
Boyfriend without parental knowledge...	10/15/2004
Q: I recently got a boyfriend and I'm not allowed to date. I'm 14 years old and many of my friends are ... A: By even asking this question it does show that you have some maturity....but here is the answer from ...
Salvation	9/16/2004
Q: You have helped out tremendously, but I am still a little unsure about being saved. I sometimes ... A: If you truely believed and asked Jesus to save you.....then your sins are covered........even your ...
URGH	9/16/2004
Q: First, just wondering, why did you not respond to my last question? It is kind of blown over now (I ... A: I hope that I will always be a source of help and blessing. Thanks for putting confidence in me. ...
URGH	9/14/2004
Q: First, just wondering, why did you not respond to my last question? It is kind of blown over now (I ... A: No you are not crazy!! OK... lets start with the question I skirted..... help me.... which one? ...
Shyness	9/4/2004
Q: I recently moved and have just started highschool like 3 weeks ago; and I am having trouble making ... A: Psalm 1:1-6 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the ...
What is going on?	8/31/2004
Q: Ok please excuse me if i rant and rave. I have had a horrible day. Sorry to sound like a borderline ... A: I feel honored that you come to me. Romans 8:28 28 And we know that all things work together for ...
general	8/25/2004
Q: To respond to your email, I have one child and the other two belong to my sister. My mother takes on ... A: There is only one way that GOd will bless your physical relationship. Hebrews 13:4 4 Marriage is ...
My friend needs advice	8/23/2004
Q: it is me again. I got great Biblical advice from you last time so i though tyou might be able to ... A: Welcome to the wonderful emotional rollercoaster ride of teen realtionships. I do have some basic ...
parental conflict/forgiveness	8/22/2004
Q: I strongly feel that my mother ignores my feelings. She makes me feel that my emotions/opinion is ... A: I am having a little trouble following exactly what is happening.... is your mother having you watch ...
my friend is on drugs	7/21/2004
Q: "Dear Pastor Don Carpenter, Hi my name is lacy and i attend dickson county high school and i am 15. ... A: ...I am very sorry that I am late in my response. Proverbs 27:5-6 5 Open rebuke is better than ...
What shuld i do?	7/19/2004
Q: First I would like to say, if you are not KJV only you cant really help me so sorry for taking your ... A: . First of all, relax, I am very much King James only! I believe that God preserved every Word ...
I dont know what to do	7/9/2004
Q: At the begginig of our relationship he met my family and I met his. everything was nice. He came and ... A: I am so sorry for the late answer. You are in a real jam. The problem is, like it or not, God has ...
how far is too far?	5/3/2004
Q: Ok, i have been going out a guy that i truely love for about six months and am sure that we will get ... A: I can see that you truely whant to know what is the right thing to do. As you may know, our society ...
Boyfriend stays overnight	4/1/2004
Q: My step-daughter is the mother of my 11 year old grandson and 16 year old grand-daughter. I have ... A: There seems to be two issues here. First whether or not your step daughter's behavior is moral, and ...
Troubled Teen	1/1/2004
Q: Bro. Carpenter, I had to read many expert profiles to find you! I don't know where to start. How ... A: The Biblical solution to your problem is much more simple than your problem is. There are two ways ...

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