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Expert: Dan Date: 11/13/2007 Subject: teen problem
Question Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 5 months. Last weekend we hung out over at his place, and things got really steamy. And all of a sudden he took my shirt and bra off. I didn't really know what to do so i kinda let him do his thing and during it i kept thinking "OH MY GOSH i don't want this to go any further" and afterwards i still feel kind of dirty and violated. Now thinking back on it i feel like i put myself in a dangerous position, and i feel like this could have definitely led to me and him having sex. But thats the thing, I'm scared that if that happens again it will. Personally i don't want to yet, i want to wait until marriage or atleast until im not 14-16. Oh and by the way im 14, i don't know how to still be able to let my boyfriend be happy but in a way that wouldn't lead to me feeling violated/ or sex. I'm really scared that it will only lead to that or even worse thats all hes going to want to do.
Please help me, I'm scared and no matter what i do i feel so awkward around him. How can i fix this in a way that is best for me and my boyfriend?? Thanks in advance...
Answer I want to repoint this out, if he did anything illegal, legally you should report this. I feel you must report this to the police. As another rule, talk to your mother about this and make sure she gives both of you the relationship talk. Remember the law. Again repointing this out.
Hi,
Your relationship may right now be illegal due to the age factor. Sex is clearly illegal. I recommend you to talk to your doctor about sex risks. I also recommend filing a report with the police for what he did. Have your mother talk to both of you about the relationship. I also recommend checking into the law in your area and if dating for you is illegal, STOP it.
This relationship should in my mind not go on.
If there is no good talk in your relationship, it won't work. If the relationship is illegal, END IT RIGHT NOW.
